In life or so far in your life- how many people/partners do you meet with-with whom you can feel a connection/spark/life?

[Anonymous]

a lot people break up meet someone else- but how do they feel that spark and connection with everyone? We all think we’ll meet a lot of people in our life- there are a lot of fishes in the sea- but how many fishes can actually make you happy, make you laugh? Make you actually feel something?

Its true, there are a lot of fishes in the sea-you can have a spark with anyone/everyone

Its very rare to feel a spark-we only experience it thrice or twice in our lives

Something else ill right a comments

[Purpleronnie]

What you are talking about is generally labeled as chemstry. In my opinion it can be realized quickly or take time because it’s dependent on a great many variables and let’s be honest it can be mistaken or clouded by attraction in any of its forms ( sexual , physical , emotional etc )


I’m going to say that given time we could develop that chemistry or connection with many many people but the majority of us don’t even look further than what’s immediately obvious. Additionally id say that women are more guilty of this than women.. generally speaking of course.

[Purpleronnie]

Men more guilty than women 😂

[Anonymous]

One.

I mean we can talk dates, we can talk getting to know people and rapport. But I feel like I've only ever known one woman who truly got me and accepted me for who I was. The rest it's not that we didn't get along, most of us did. But I always felt like I was a fixture in thier life for thier own ego. They didn't really want me and everything that came with to blend with thier life. I was there to fill whatever hole they felt they had. So it was more about them than about me or even us.

[Asker]

Did you marry that one woman?

[Opinion Owner]

Sadly, no. But we are still friends to this day. She new what great match we were, and still are. I wasn't smart enough to see it. I don't regret it because she's happily married with kids, and I'm happy for her. But I think (probably because I'm still single), "what if things had went a little differently".

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm not in a hurry, I give myself time to observe... if the man who caught my interest is patient and can play this game over time... there is a chance for a spark :D

I have experienced it 2 times already :D

[gemb00]

I’d love to know approximately how many people I’ve met in my time but 3 people stand out to feeling that spark. One was a female friend (non romantic) two being male (romantic)

[RingOfFire]

I had a lot of relationships with girls when I was a teenager, and spent time with a lot of women as an adult on a dating/relationship basis. But I think as an adult I've only had three that I would call serious and deep.

Sadly only one of them is still living. And ironically it's the only one who is much older than me. One of the women was 30 years younger than me and the other one just a few months younger than me and both passed away within the last several months. I was shocked to learn it.

The only one who is still living is a woman I had a relationship with when I was 29 and she was 42.

I think you only have room for a certain amount of real relationships in your life, it's sort of like a budget. If you spend it all then you have nothing left for anyone else. So I guess the lesson there is to use it wisely.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Are you asking how often I find mentally and physically compatible women my age in my area?

I don't, at all, there are none here. Tons in japan because of akihabara's geek culture and japan's "no one is in a relationship or having kids" problem. But the in US? They are all either taken already, or they hide from men.

[Twalli]

My belief is that there is ONE and only ONE person that you are supposed to be with. They are your ONE. Seeing as there are over 7 billion people on this planet, the likelihood is that you'll never meet that person. I think that you'll know when you do because the feelings will be unlike anything you've felt before.

[HungTexan]

I get that feeling a lot, but I think it’s often just lust.

[FreyaRed]

Rarely. I play sometimes game of being fascinated with a person but deep inside I know it's just a game to hide my cold calculating true nature.

[Nikki1989]

22 in total. 15 men and 7 women, but I have been with the same man for 14 years and the same woman for the last 6. I could have been with a lot more. Meeting people is too easy.

[sawno]

I had one true love who overshadows anyone else so strongly that I can't say I had that with others.

[PeachyPie93]

You can feel things for lots of people but not anyone.. it has to be someone you mesh with well..

[jahaims]

I married the first and only first to make me feel that way

[msc545]

I don't know. I think the only women I've ever felt a spark would have also been women that have caused me a great deal of difficulty and pain. I have trouble feeling excited about women who don't display a lot of crazy behavior.

[lightbulb27]

Bingo... his light bulb just sparked as a clue was found... give this man a surf board to get moving again! It's the pesky sub conscious mind were dealing with... or rather, it is dealing us... emotionally warped in early life (even generations passed on) connecting to what is familiar and often... screwing you. If early learnings were not love or interpretation healed, it's trauma wound, which controls. Trauma in control will seek and find creating more pain, to expose itself. It's a wound the soul wants to heal. When discovered and resolved, the prisoner is set free and can live, free of the trauma. Else, remains a slave to the emotional oppression. "God", if you will... at work from within... maybe even just design, but define God is love, thus resonating back to itself.. what "it" wants from beginning... love. Think about that, you'll discover a lot you didn't know before. Fear of the pain of the past, that is the "devil" if you will... wasting ones life. Number on goal of oppression is to waste time and make suffering. Pay attention to the sparks/feelings and where they are rooted so you can assess if it's a healthy match. Often, someone that does not resonate, you can handle better. Set the [emotional] prisoner free. Took a long time to figure that out, it's not turned into science... yet.

[NicholasRedone]

Many.
I've had many many women eyeball me and I eyeballed them 👀👁️👀👁️👀👁️

[NicholasRedone]

Hell forget the others, many times there are many fish out there :) those saying the spark only hits twice or thrice, far out - have they actually walked out of their homes and actually walked around :) lol the world the real outside world 🌍🌎

[Douglas1180]

It's happened about once a year since I was 14. You do the math.

[cele99]

As a 25 year old guy I believe I’ve met two romantically so far which eventually fades due to indifferences and growth.

[CruelParadise]

haven’t met anyone that has made me feel deeply happy or really understood me. Feel like I never will too.

[denzooo9]

girlyyy sameee:(🫶

[MikeTheBartender]

If we are talking lovers, I'd say one out of 50... Friendships one out of 25.

[DrPepper12]

Lust infatuation ONS friends with benefits NSA all count too! Gotta kiss alota frogs...

[Anonymous]

The second choice. Not just one person, but not that many either.

[LiamJHayden]

Friends - several. Romantic partners - three so far.

[PaleDale]

I think it's rare and therefore all the more precious

[denzooo9]

love how you said thissss🫶

[PaleDale]

@denzooo9 thanks, my own experience 🙂

[denzooo9]

🫶🫶

[Anonymous]

I had a spark, she did not - every time. All of my loves were unrequited.

[Alexa6]

Feel spark and one special person in life. But their also some might be great friends.

[TonyMetal___86]

Option b, i have only loved twice in my life

[chocolatetwopointo]

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