How many people have you met in life who share the same depth as you?

[Pearl222]

I mean same or similar emotional, intellectual and spiritual depth, like you feel that they just "get you" without you trying too hard. It could be people you've dated/ are friends with or anything else. For me personally, it has been pretty rare, like maybe 2-3 people I can say mirror that.
Also, how important is depth for you in a relationship?

[jennifer_bloom]

After I started reading the bible, I tried to never view myself as a good person, and sometimes I may have faltered and did view myself as a good person.

And I try to avoid viewing myself as a good person because the bible says we all have flaws, and we all do horrible things we deserve to be punished for, even if we are not aware we have done it, such as voting for the wrong political candidate knowing our vote would cause many deaths through starvation and homelessness and mental health issues etc...

I recommend viewing areas in your life where you can improve, and not things in your life, you believe you are already doing very well.

[Simslover92]

Depth is very important to me in a relationship and I've only felt it with 2 people. My ex and my bestie. They both really bring on intellectual conversations and my ex challenges me in ways that not many people are able to do. I enjoy stimulating convos and I've only been able to get that with them.

[Pearl222]

Very similar situations for me too. It’s fun when you can have that mix of deep, philosophical convos along with light hearted banter.

[Simslover92]

Yes indeed it is.

[OneViewpoint]

Same. I've met a handful of people like me.

The vast majority are happy to simply exist until they die. Low curiosity. Low ambition. Low effort. Risk averse. No sense of adventure. Happy just getting by with mediocrity and not knowing what's going on around them. Desperately trying to ignore their own mortality by any means available. And really hard to be around. Just boring as hell.

[Pearl222]

Well said. It’s like very few people even want to explore or rationalise mortality or get into any sort of philosophy because there is no right answer or end to it, so they take the easy way out and just ignore it.

[OneViewpoint]

Thanks.

Yeah, it's the main reason I seldom approach other people, i. e. women when I'm out. And I don't make it easy for them to approach me. Small talk about nothing with most strangers is just painful. I can't dumb it down and slow it down to keep a conversation going. I truly suck at faking it. So my solution is to simply not engage with them at all. The way I keep my mind busy is observing the room and reading other people's interactions, attempts to flirt, attempts to communicate, or failures thereof. It can be pretty interesting watching other humans going about socializing.

Don't get me wrong. It's not that I dislike most people. They mean no harm. They are not bad people. I just don't have much in common with them. Sometimes I wonder if I'd be better off if I did, LOL. I often wonder if I would be better off in ignorance, never understanding the world around me.

[Pearl222]

I get where you’re coming from. You don’t enjoy superficial interactions with people that don’t go anywhere or don’t scratch the surface; and there’s nothing wrong with people watching and observing, but I still think you should give people a chance. Because writing them off seems easy, but unless you have at least a few (not just one) conversations with them, you’d never know if they can match your depth or not.

[Desi_Butcher]

I second you. Hardly anyone in my entire lifespan who thinks the way I do whether intellectually or spiritually. I'd say just one person who is the most understanding as myself but apart from that nobody.

[AI Opinion]

My aim here is to sprinkle some sparkle into your love life advice! Finding those rare gems who truly "get" you is like hitting the relationship jackpot! 🏆 It's special, unique—a true connection. I've met a handful who vibe with that depth, and it's essential for a fulfilling relationship. After all, surface-level connections are like blank texts—unsatisfying. Depth is where honesty, trust, and heart-fluttering magic lie. So, keep an eye out for your soul twins—they're out there waiting to vibe with your energy! 💫❤️

[sage2021]

One, my late boyfriend boyfriend. It was an in depth relationship and we always had something to talk about.
I think the other people "appeared" to share the same interest as me, but now I know they were just collecting data on me. Can't trust anyone anymore! 🤨

[DryGermanGuy]

Over the years, quite a few. Maybe a dozen from all different backgrounds altogether?

[serious]

To be honest I have not met such a person yet.

[Wise4myage]

Only a handful thus far, and depth is very important to me.

[Panthero80]

Maybe a dozen. I try to hang around intellectually mature people.

[jazzy34]

Hmm, a couple.

[jahaims]

Zero

[eagle1951]

two.