Girls, if a guy in his 30's lives with his parents should he wait until he moves out to date?

[Anonymous]

That's the case with me. The cost of living is really high in the area where I live and I really feel discouraged to date by being a guy in his 30's who still lives at home. Unfortunately I will still be living at home for a couple more years too. Should I put off dating until I'm moved out even if its going to be awhile, or should I not let my living situation deter me?

[SueShe]

You date when you are ready for it and it seems that you are not ready. You seem to place quite some importance on dating.

As an adult, there is no ideal age to get into trouble with the opposite (or same) gender and if you think you are ready for trouble, then by all means, go out and date. However, be considerate with your parents as it is their place. Don't just bring your dates home to fornicate under your parent's roof. That is the least courtesy you can do.

If you need to fornicate, then chose a hotel, which will probably also be expensive in the long run, or then go to his/her place. Don't fornicate in public places. People don't want to be exposed to indecencies.

[Asker]

Yeah I do place importance on it because I have never dated and I'm 31. I'm already facing an uphill battle as most women do not want to date an adult man who has no experience with dating and relationships and if I keep waiting, it will pretty much be impossible. I definitely wouldn't bring a girl back to my parents house for sex because there's no bigger mood killer than bringing her back to your childhood bedroom to hook up. In addition to that, my parents house is in bad shape and is gross. So a hotel is really my only option when I host her, and it would definitely get expensive in the long run as hotels in my area are expensive even just for one night. But would you be okay with dating a guy who lived with his parents if he did provide hotel rooms for you two to hook up?

[SueShe]

Well, I am a bit of an odd case because dating is not interesting me the least. I don't have the urge to get into trouble because I prioritize others, more important things in life.

Also, being intimate is not important to me. I do without it and feel totally happy and satisfied with it and no, I don't manipulate my body either.

Now, since I am not interested in fornicating, I don't really like the hotel solution but having a platonic friend that lives with his friends is absolutely no problem at all.