Am I in love with him yet?

[SmileyLady]

When I’m with my boyfriend, I feel like everything is right in my world; just like when we’re apart. I trust him not to be unfaithful, without question. I feel like I don’t want to sleep with or date anyone else. Sometimes we annoy each other. Mostly not. We always support each other, feel affection and feel attraction to each other. We’ve been dating for almost a month exactly.

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1 y

We’re both autistic.

[SteveSmith1985]

It sounds like things are going extraordinarily well, and you're well on your way to love. I would say you're "falling in Love" just not "in Love " just yet.

It usually (nearly always) takes longer than a month for two people to know each other well enough, to know each other deeply and thoroughly enough to have feelings of true Love.

It's not uncommon for people who have hit-it-off great right from the start to think they're in Love after only a month (especially for younger people who haven't had as many relationships)

So, there is every reason to think that if things continue going well between you two... you will slowly and imperceptibly slide into Love as you continue to get to know each other better and grow closer.

Part of it, is that Love requires you to have some experience with the other person in different situations.

-You need to know that the person who is so great, doesn't become cruel and hurtful if you have a big argument.

-You grow closer when he's there for you when you experience the loss of a loved one.

-You learn over time that the person is thoughtful because they always make a point to pay attention important things (dates, favorites, etc) and got you that meaningful gift for your last birthday.

-You learn that you can depend and lean on each other through having to do so... over time just by being together a little while.

There isn't going to be a moment, where you suddenly cross a line and "NOW" you're in love.

You start with a great connection, you really like each other... you start asking yourself if this is Love (this is you right now).

Things keep going well through life's ups and downs... and getting to know each other on a deep level one day you realize you're in Love. And there is no doubt. You feel like Love for that person is going to shoot out of your eyeballs, you're overflowing.

It's beyond "I would die for you." It's "I would undergo torture; if it meant you didn't have to"

It's overwhelming and more intense than you knew any feeling could be.

It's a feeling way beyond any ability to properly describe.

It sounds like you're FALLING in Love. Not "In Love" just yet. But only because there hasn't been enough time for you two to grow to that point yet. With a bit more time and the resulting closeness it certainly sounds like you will be in Love with each other if things continue the way they have been going.

🙂

[Shiprex]

Sounds like you are in a close relationship. BUT do you want to seek and make a future with him?
THAT is the sign of love

[SmileyLady]

Yes, I do

[Shiprex]

Make sure you make him aware of this then.

[SmileyLady]

He’s told me he loves me and he’s talked about moving in together in a few years.

[Shiprex]

How does that make you feel?

[SmileyLady]

Comfortable.

[Shiprex]

And Happy? Like do you get excited when you know you're going to meet him? Hear from him?
Does your heart rate and/or blood pressure change when you think about him?

[SmileyLady]

Yes, but in a more comfortable way now, like when I’m looking forward to seeing my best friends, but with attraction as well.

[Shiprex]

So it sounds as though you are loving the thought of him and you together and that's a sure sign that it will grow if you want and let it do this.

[EmmaMary]

Only a month... It's far too early to say... Just continue enjoying your time together.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[katiesmuff]

WOW! Sounds like you are on the right track for some really happy days ahead.

[Stevepro68]

In my opinion it's love when you cannot stop the feeling even when things are not going good and you wish you didn't care. But you do.

[HungTexan]

Sounds like love to me whether you’re on the spectrum or not.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes your in love