I’ve been dating a man who is a single dad since October, we’ve been friends for 6months though. I’ve noticed our friendship has more depth to it. He’s more concerned about prioritizing time for me, does whatever he can to come to my “rescue” weather it be telling me something funny to make me smile on a bad day, or sneaking $200 in my purse to ensure I have gas money for work. Our connection has always been so easy, it’s not hard or we don’t have to try hard with each other. If we get into disagreements (very rarely) we talk them out and listen to one another. He once drove 30mins away to surprise me with lunch at work. Every now and then we’ll cuddle and kiss. His biggest pet peeve is people touching his hair, but I just found out it’s something he lets me get away with. He once tried sneaking a happy meal toy away from his son to give to me as a trinket for my desk (was a character from my favorite Disney movie), I told him no not to do that. But the fact that he thought of me and wanted to give me something to remind me of him was sweet. He always tells me “I love you to pieces” or “I love you to death, I missed you!” I always tell him back “i love you with all my heart”. I love that we can always be ourselves with each other, he’s mentioned in the past that I’m the one person he feels he can be vulnerable and his true self with.
He still refers to me as “bestie”, so I don't know if all this is just him being nice or if he’s falling inlove. I ask, because I’ve fallen madly inlove with him. I’m scared to ask because I don’t want to scare him or pressure him.
He still refers to me as “bestie”, so I don't know if all this is just him being nice or if he’s falling inlove. I ask, because I’ve fallen madly inlove with him. I’m scared to ask because I don’t want to scare him or pressure him.
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Damn, it really sounds like he's falling for you too! All those little things he does, like bringing you lunch or trying to give you that toy, show he's always thinking about you and wanting to make you happy. Guys don't usually do stuff like that unless they're catching feelings.
Not to mention how comfortable and close you two are with each other. Telling each other "I love you" regularly is a big deal, even if he says it as "bestie" sometimes. The fact that he lets his guard down and is vulnerable with you is major too - he must really trust and care about you.
I'd say keep letting things progress naturally like they have been. Keep showing him how much you care through your actions too. Maybe try stepping up the intimacy level bit by bit, like going in for a longer kiss or cuddling more closely. See how he responds.
If the moment feels right, you could tell him how you feel using "I" statements, like "I've realized I'm falling for you." Give him some reassurance you're not pressuring him. But honestly by the sounds of it, I bet he will open up about having feelings for you too. You guys seem really close already. Just go with the flow and keep communicating openly. I think you've got a good thing going here!
He stole a toy from his kid that asshole. Someone should call CPS for the abuse that kid could be scarred for life. J/K he obviously cares for you if he cares for your happiness over his own I think you have to ask him because we don't know him as well as you do! If I was a betting man I would say he doesn't hate you unless your a millionaire and he's playing a long con to get at your money with a rented kid.