How should I deal with a married man falling for me?

[AuburnRSA]

I (21) met this guy (40) from tinder a day after we started texting. I jokingly told him to pay me if he wants to meet up. He agreed , sent me money and we met. He's a policeman so works random hours. He booked a hotel room , we had sex. It was fun because he was so invested in pleasing me. He gave me amazing head , never really had someone genuinely want to do that. I knew he was married but this man was so easy to get along with. I told him to go home to his wife, in the morning he came back early, got in bed with me. Gave me a ring and asked me to wear it because he really likes me. I've been wearing it 24/7 since. I think he's falling inlove with me and I want him to myself. He wants to help me start a business He has 5 kids from 3 women, including his wife. He doesn't want to talk about her. They're together only because it's convenient for the kids. He always ejaculates inside me and says he wants to make me a mommy and start a new life with me I've searched his wife on social media but can't find her. Do I keep dating this man who reassures me everyday that he only wants me until he leaves her or distance myself until he's single..

[Anonymous]

Honestly, you should want more for yourself than to be the 4th baby mama of a cheating sleazeball of a man. He’s lived all his younger years and sort of sealed his fate with the life he’s living now. But for you, a 21 year old girl with goals and plenty of time ahead of her, you can do so much better! I know it’s easy to get swept up in a situation like that, but don’t set yourself up to get played and then cheated on when another younger woman comes along. Find someone who’s closer to your age, without all that baggage and you guys can pursue your dreams together and motivate eachother. It’s so much healthier, girl.

[AuburnRSA]

Thank you

[DarkCarousel]

"I jokingly told him to pay me if he wants to meet up. He agreed , sent me money and we met."

You weren't joking, you were baiting. Did you jokingly give him your bank account or venmo too?

This is harsh but it is obviously very unlikely that he will ever be yours exclusively. He wants you and the others too. And IF he does ever leave his wife for you, can you imagine trusting him to not do the same to you?

He doesn't love you. He's just bored.

[AuburnRSA]

Thank you for this. I needed this

[DarkCarousel]

I'm glad it was helpful.
It may be a painful process to let go of it all but I wish you all the best.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. He paid you and then you had sex, so you are his whore.

2. He's not in love with you. He likes your pussy.

3. He already has 5 kids by the different women. You want to join the list? And he'll never pay child support.

4. He is cheating on his present wife. You want to be the next wife he cheats on?

5. You want to bring a child into this mess? That would be a very stupid thing to do.

[invalid1]

He is not falling for you.. You're 😂
This guy makes me laugh, wow. 5 kids from multiple women is not enough.

Well as for your question. Just because you said you're 21. I'll help you. Just picture the head that he gave you, being given to a lady you don't know, while you're breastfeeding his baby. If it's fine by you, it's fine by you.

[AuburnRSA]

That makes me sad when I think about it. But I told him I don't want kids until I have a successful business. So he's helping me. I don't need a man to commit to me.

[invalid1]

Your life, your responsibility.

[LiamSawyer]

It sounds to me that there is a definite pattern with him, he already has 5 kids from three women and now he wants to get you pregnant then it will be 6 kids from four women and time to move on to find woman number five to have the seventh baby with, it's your life but don't be blind. I'd be running away from him if I were a girl.

[LiamSawyer]

Message me if you want to chat about it.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

What he's doing is very bad that guy is big time bad news, he has a wife with kids and he's sleeping around on her and also there are chances when he's not with you he is with another girl what will it take to show that this is dangerous, I'm from an America and no way on earth would I ever do such a thing plus he is law enforcement

[AuburnRSA]

I know it's so wrong but something about him draws me in everytime. I'll stop sleeping with him. We'll go on an actual date on Sunday

[FlySwimmer]

He has 5 kids from 3 women and is married atm but wants a divorce, he is cumming inside you, seems like an irresponsible player who is not actually interested in a very long term relationship. Get rid of him for your own sake, or have your hear broken once you have kids with him, you choose...

[AuburnRSA]

I'm not falling for him and just enjoying time with him until he decides when things will change
He says his wife doesn't even cook for him , they don't sleep in the same bed.
I'll stop having sex with him until he starts off my business or leaves the Mrs

[yucychan]

You seem to have no boundaries and is unsure of what you want.
On one hand, you said you do not need a man to commit to you but yet says you need him to be your man.
You said you do not want kids but is letting him ejaculate inside you.
He is a policeman but is cheating on his wife. Instead of spending time with his kids, trying to make it work with his wife, he is out there fucking a silly girl half his age who does not know what she wants. Both are idiots.
I feel sorry for his kids. Their dad is just such a lousy human being.

[AuburnRSA]

I encourage him to spend time with the kids, I ask about her to see what they're lacking , I really do want him to do right by them but he doesn't want to do I'll just enjoy him , he'd just do this with someone else if I left

[slatyb]

Keep dating him. Then he will have 6 kids with 4 women. What makes you think you are different from the other three? He’ll get bored with you too, especially if you have a baby to take care of.

[NorthAfrican]

You are both scummy people with no value and you deserve each other.
He should leave his wife and marry you instead.

[Avicenna]

Get away from him as soon as you can. It makes it even worse that he is a police officer. He's bad news.

[MindYourEyes]

Wow he pulled you in so easily. XD sounds like he’s done it to multiple women already. You wanna be the next one? And he’s married... how about look for someone available and single?

[Stevefiveo]

If he makes you happy, enjoy it. There's no crystal ball that shows what is going to happen in the future.

[Anonymous]

"Married father of 5 with 3 different women, soon to be thrice divorced, and who paid me for sex in a hotel room wants to spend the rest of his life with me"

Wow

[AuburnRSA]

He never paid for sex lol. He paid me to come see him. The sex just happened.
He doesn't have to be monogamous but needs to be my man not hers, live with Me

[Opinion Owner]

Okay then he paid for the possibility of sex. Not telling you how to live your life, but this man has a clear pattern of behavior and he will very likely repeat that pattern.

[Kaneki05]

"jokingly" shrugs do what you want, already have done so.

[AuburnRSA]

My time is valuable

[Nicegirldaqui]

Of course, he had tree women but you're the only special one. Trust.

[In_Trance]

Simple

[Anonymous]

Guys don't give girls head, and this sounds very fake.

[AuburnRSA]

Lmao it's so real that's why I can't keep it a secret and have to let it out , can't tell my friends.

[BakedBeanieBabie]

Tell em: piss off mate.

[jahaims]

By not talking to him

[AuburnRSA]

Why? I like him

[jahaims]

You would be a homewrecker and he will cheat on you like he cheats on his wife obviously

[AuburnRSA]

I can't be a home wrecker if I'd care about his kids and even his current wife's wellbeing. He's left her before. I have him wrapped around my finger

[jahaims]

Gotcha. Have fun trolling the forum

[AuburnRSA]

Lol no this is real

[jahaims]

Either way you are a horrible person

[Pterodon]

Cut all forms of communication

[AuburnRSA]

But he cares about me

[Pterodon]

No he doesn’t. HE’S MARRIED. You know he’s a proven cheater. How could you ever trust him? Don’t you ever think about that?

[melanieeeB]

Uhm not at all