Why do some young people believe cheating is the same for men and women?

[Vegasrunner]

[chefsam]

Maybe because they really haven’t experienced it happening to them. Or they believe cheating is cheating and that it affects both parties equally. They dead wrong; cheating isn’t the same for men and women

[WhitneySnow]

Cheating is cheating. It affects both parties equally and you’re sexist if you believe it doesn’t. Like I said above in my question, it’s just so obvious nobody discusses why.

That being said, I am curious as to why you think it’s different. And yes, I have been cheated on (no, I’ve never cheated).

[WhitneySnow]

Above in my anon opinion

[chefsam]

@WhitneySnow if you notice, majority of guys that cheat on their partners usually do it with a less attractive woman than their partner; mostly cause they just want a quick nut when they cheat. No emotions, no attachments or no commitments. But for some women when they cheat, it’s for a number of reasons: sex isn’t good anymore, not enough attention, the attraction isn’t there anymore, her partner isn’t emotional enough or he’s too emotional, doesn’t have enough money to sustain her lifestyle, finds another guy more attractive, sleeps with someone he hates for revenge, another man gives her what she wants while stringing along her current man, etc. Yes, cheating hurts but it hits men and women differently. Cheating is cheating & does affect both parties equally but differently. I’m not trying to be sexist. Go online and look it up; you’ll see thousands of videos of both men & women explaining what I’m saying. When men & women get cheated on, it affects each one differently; some the pain comes and goes while others that pain will last weeks to months to years.

[WhitneySnow]

At least women have reasons when they cheat

[chefsam]

@WhitneySnow True. For guys that cheat, the main reason really is cause they really horny and just want a quick nut; nothing else. No emotion, no attachments, no commitment; just a one night stand

[WhitneySnow]

In that sense, it is different. But men and women hurt the same way when their partner cheats on them.

[Madgedays]

This is wrong, you are making assumptions based on your experience. Men cheat with a variety of people. Some only cheat with prostitutes or skinnier women than their partner.

[natured]

Cheating is Cheating
I get that when women cheat it's more emotional and when men cheat it's more physical I GET IT
BUT IT IS CHEATING regardless of the emotional factor

[Vegasrunner]

@natured That right there highlights one huge difference. Can you think of others?

[Anonymous]

Men cheat when it's available to cheat. Women cheat when we are looking for a new man.

[Vegasrunner]

@Anonymous You get it.

[Opinion Owner]

The more my ex cheated the more determined I was to hold on to him and more attractive he became. I cheated on him once and he lost intrest in me.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion Owner That's because his cheat8ng was seen as validation of his value. You inherently understood that if other woman want what you have, there's a reason for it. While he looked at your cheating as doing what any woman could do.

[Opinion Owner]

We tried to continue on and he forgave me but you could tell things were different from his performance in bed and I respected him less for taking me back.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion Owner That's pretty standard.

[oldpigg]

I'm not interested at all.

[Anonymous]

I’m a young person. How is it different?

[Vegasrunner]

@Anonymous So you believe its the same?

[Opinion Owner]

I think it is, but I’m curious to hear why you think it’s different.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion Owner I created a post to get an understanding of why YOU believe it's the same. You never answered the original question.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s obvious. I can’t see any way it’s different, so of course it’s the same.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion Owner That's not an answer to why.

[Opinion Owner]

Nvm.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion Owner No worries if you don't know you don't know. Many women act off emotion.

[Opinion Owner]

Men get emotional when somebody cheats on them too. It’s not just a girl thing.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion Owner TY for sharing, what does that have to do w/ the question?

[Opinion Owner]

I am really confused. I don’t know any people my age who think that cheating is different for men and women. It’s like one of those things you take for granted, like that the sun is yellow. Nobody ever discusses why. But I hope you find someone else who can answer your question.

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion Owner Don't be embarrassed by your confusion. If your profile is accurate your age is 18-24 which means that most of the people you associate w/ especially the men, are inexperienced when it comes to relationship dynamics. This explains why you "take it for granted" vs actually examining the differences.