When you get rejected, do you always feel there's something wrong with you?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

No not even. Hey I have been turned down before or I can even call it rejected

After the girl has said sorry no. and most of the time you get. Sorry but I have a boy friend or they are just not ready for a relationship but they have all had a reason.. and I would walk away Looking all around me to see if anybody witness what just happened lol

And as i'm walking away my cheeks are red Because i'm embarrassed

I would be talking to my.
Self a hundred miles per hour and for a couple of hrs It's just embarrassment for what? for no reason.. so what. Let it go and move on 9 out of ten times you Understand in realize they're not for you.. That it was the best thing ever not to have happen. Because somewhere down the road you find out who they truly are because they got in trouble for something or just I mean a lot of different things... I had Run into a girl that once turned me down. And she explained the whole situation to me. That she had a boyfriend they had been arguing fighting and then right now in her space. She just couldn't deal with anything. It asked me if I wanted to go out

I told her no I couldn't because I was in a relationship then and I watched your eyes turn pure white Your face turned pure red And they should wait wait a minute And I gave her a big fat.
Hug because I remember exactly what it felt like me. And I told her look don't be embarrassed As I was laughing that I gave her a hug and said do not Be embarrassed about it at all. I said if I wasn't in a relationship.
Yes I would probably say yes.. It has nothing to do with you. It's me because It's just what I am I have to honor and be Loyal to the person i'm with.. And she said that made her feel better. So let if go. There is a real reason for everything Including getting turned down

You can't take it personally move on To the next one

lorenzomichael · Accepted Answer

Nope cause I come off like I don’t give a shit. And that’s the truth there is no chick out of my league I’m in a league all by myself. I’m have maybe too much confidence in myself I’m good looking, funny and I also have enough personality for me and her. But basically I’m a normal nice guy. But I’m not nice in the sense with take advantage of me. I’ll tell a hot chick to go fuck yourself if she gets stupid with me. I might be an asshole, but I’m not a dick. Normally 10 minutes after talking with me she’ll see that. And If she’s cool I’ll see that. And she’s a kind of girl that I’ll take home to Mom but never will. Well we might have a good temporary thing going. And I do treat them right. But if she’s looking for a guy to open the door for her and spend money on her and kiss her ass. Well I’m the wrong motherfucker.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

A little but then I say if at first you don't succeed, try and try again. You just have to take the hit and move on. Each blow lessens the more you get rejected and you end up finding out that there's actually nothing really wrong with you, it's just they weren't right for you.

trumpetplayerforlife · Accepted Answer

Yes but I feel like it's natural to feel that way no one ever wants to be rejected or told they aren't good enough

Finchie40 · Answer

No, I just accept it for what it is , not everyone is going to like or dislike us , I just move on and eventually flirt with someone else

Rosexøxø · Answer

I used to a lot but not anymore 😂

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

No.

Just like I won't be interested in every guy I meet, every guy won't be interested in me either.
People like different things in others.

Is it going to hurt? Sure, it's never fun.
A little bruise on the confidence at times too, for sure.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It depends.. Usually not, but if I really liked the guy, yet they wouldn't give me a chance I feel like there is something seriously wrong with me. Especially when a guy will lead you on and say he loves you but chooses not to date you "because he isn't looking for a relationship rn". But then a year or two later he is dating someone seriously.. It really feels like a hit to the gut, since I wasn't good enough.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

In life some say everything happens for a reason & when it comes to rejection when it happens I look at it in a different way & in a positive way as well. As for rejection I look at it like subconsciously the person knows they aren’t good enough for you & they do you a favor & turn you down.

Mon1to · Answer

Not really. People reject others for many reasons, and sometimes it has nothing to do with you. But if it is about you, focus on self-improvement—not for someone else's validation, but for your own growth

Hawaiikai · Answer

I always feel like it’s me. Sometimes people say it’s not you, “it’s me”. They tend to just say that to let you down easy. at least my experiences. I’ve said that to with the same intention of letting them down easy but now I’m working on it and just being honest. Honesty can hurt but it’s better to know the truth. At least for me. BUT!!! sometimes it’s nothing wrong with you. And it’s them. They may be noncommittal

ChiTown33 · Answer

Maybe when I was younger, not anymore. I know who I am and what I bring to the table.

The REALITY is most the time when somebody rejects you they're rejecting their perception of you. Because most people never even take the time to learn who you are. As society becomes less and less connected, this becomes more and more prevalent. So try not to take rejection personal. Most of the time it ain't you, it's them.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I've never been rejected.
It takes me 3 years to decide of I want to ask her out.
It takes her 3 weeks to 3 months on average to decide if she wants to ask me out.
I always get beaten to the punch.
It never works out when I accept that soon.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Nope. Not at all. I just wasn’t right for that person in that moment. I don’t blame myself and I don’t demonize them for using their free choice. I just move on down the road of life.

alice55 · Answer

No i feel like there's something wrong with the other person 😹 so far I have never been rejeted anyway as. I never asked anybody out 😹😹

strateguy632 · Answer

No way! Most times rejected, i felt "her loss" even when they said i was bad.

Communicationisking · Answer

Nope. Don't ask a question you don't want to hear the answer to. It is as simple as that.
I think that is why people (Men and Women) are afraid to ask others out on a date... they don't want to hear the answer especially if it is no

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Nope. But it's always good to have an ounce of honesty and humility in those situations

Pink_Strawberry · Answer

Yes, i always feel like i did something to the person or i said something or maybe i should change something for them. So yeah i always feel like there's something wrong with me or I'm the problem

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope. I cold approach and get rejected 80% to 90% of the time. I just move on.

itsannalee · Answer

Nope, I would feel there something wrong with them

Tranquility_Lady · Answer

No it's just a reminder to be more ambitious

Cheerfull009 · Answer

I have never been rejected , but I rejected many

wkhan_87 · Answer

No , don't take it seriously

jahaims · Answer

I don't get my value from others

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Not anymore

Sono83 · Answer

No, not always.

Beautifuldisaster21 · Answer

Be villian in their story and move on

eliegia · Answer

always

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