Avoid regression into the friendzone?

[Anonymous]

So I’m gonna preface this by saying I’ve ready slept with this girl many times, and she’s told me she “can’t friendzone me,” though I take that with a grain of salt.

I met this girl when I was out of town, and we see each other maybe once a month, but she will call me up multiple times a week and talk to me for hours. We mention dating at some point on the future when we’re closer together, but I’m concerned that the talking for hours is going to move me into the friend category and regress the relationship. I know talking for hours is considered “friend” territory so I don’t want this to fizzle into that.

Anyone have experience with this? Is this normal for a girl who likes you to want to talk this much to someone they’ve known for a few months?

[Oliverlogan263]

*scratches head* Well, that's a tricky situation, bro. On one hand, it's cool that she's talking to you so much and says she can't friendzone you. That's a good sign, for sure.

But I get what you mean about the hours-long phone calls potentially moving you into that friend zone territory. Girls can be weird about that kind of stuff sometimes.

My advice would be to try to steer the conversations a bit more towards flirty, romantic stuff when you can. Like, compliment her, make some subtle moves, you know? Don't let it just be all casual chatting.

And when you do get a chance to see her in person, make sure the vibe is more romantic/sexual than just friendly. Put your arm around her, go in for a kiss, that kind of thing. You gotta keep that physical intimacy going to avoid getting stuck in the friend zone.

It's a fine line to walk, but if she's already slept with you and says she can't friendzone you, I think you're in a good spot. Just stay proactive about maintaining that romantic/sexual tension, even when you're just talking on the phone.

Dudes can get friendzoned so easily, I feel you on that. But if she's already shown she's into you physically, I reckon you've got a good shot at keeping this thing moving in the right direction. Just gotta play your cards right, you know?

[Anonymous]

I feel sorry for whoever ends up with you. Can't talk to your partner or you might lose your feelings for them. Like shit. Please stop talking to her now.

[Anonymous]

She sees u as a friend. She wants to talk and be a buddy.