Is it weird to actually enjoy being single?

[Mon1to]

I honestly love being single—no stress about cheating or having to please someone all the time. I feel way more free, no chains.
My friends don’t pressure me to date or hook up, but they do brag about doing those things all the time. Sometimes I feel like the odd one out, especially with everyone my age always partying and jumping from relationship to relationship. I get that fear of missing out, but then I remember how I’d rather not waste my time on guys who just bring drama.
Is it strange to feel this way?

[ohsheeT]

Not at all. And you should be proud of yourself. Because out of all your friends you are a leader. I understand what your saying because your so right. Especially about the drama. .. now days or even back in my day people could not be true to themselves and they didn't think about anyone else or there heart ache

If doing what your doing makes you happy thats all that counts.

But I have to also tell you this when you meet that right person they will make you feel like you do today. You will know in your heart You are thevonly one that matters to him.. he will prove it in so many ways day in and day out. And you will feel the love and the freedom you feel now

So take this time to learn what you can through your friends and there relationships

[Mon1to]

thanks for understanding and also the words u said
tbh I don't know if I'll find that person bec of the generation but I'll try

[ohsheeT]

Yes, I thought about that as I was answering your question. I felt that you were older and wiser within. Then people your age.. I believe you will find or that person will find you

[Mon1to]

hopefully I'll find "the one" haha

[ohsheeT]

You will just keep leading you don't need to do something because everyone else

This is your time to watch and pay attention to your friends' relationships and the drama that comes with it for all the wrong reasons

[ohsheeT]

Or right reasons

[SteveSmith1985]

I don't think it's strange in a bad way. I think its perfectly fine. It's not usual, in terms of being common, but you already knew that.

I think it all comes down to, what makes you happy.

You aren't missing out on boys, unless you feel that way. It sounds like you don't really feel you're missing much at this point in your life. If you don't want it, you don't miss it.

If you feel differently at some point in the future, then you can reassess this 'single thing' then.

If you enjoy being single, that's nothing to feel weird about. Do what makes you happy. That's what matters.

🙂

[Mon1to]

I totally agree with u
And when i said I like to be single, that doesn't mean I'll be forever

[SteveSmith1985]

I didn't imagine you meant you wanted to be single forever. I just meant that you should stay single for as long as it makes you happy.

[Mon1to]

just saying bec some people misunderstood me

[SteveSmith1985]

No worries 🙂

[Simslover92]

At your age, it's certainly not weird but the older you get, the more you will want a companion to grow old with. Not everybody though but the majority of people want someone to build a life with.

[Mon1to]

yeah, I know that, thank you for the opinion
tbh relationships are a need, but rn i would rather focus on myself :3

[Simslover92]

You're welcome. And that's good. I would honestly give that advice to anyone your age. Relationships aren't the be all end all at 17. I didn't get into one until 31 and I'm glad I didn't. Keep being true to yourself. Don't follow the crowd.

[Mon1to]

aww thank u so much and u r complete right
people my age r not mature enough for serious relationships but that's what the crowd do haha

[Kaneki05]

No, not weird. There's perks to been single or not so of course you can enjoy the perks of one.

Though I would prefer not to be, but yes as an extreme introvert who don't like a lot of people been single is also great.

[Mon1to]

I don't know why people think dating is everything? the generation is fucked up

[Kaneki05]

I mean fundamentally it is. Humans are made to be social creatures that mingle around lol

If anything the weird ones are the ones who don't. But don't take that as me saying weird is bad. I call myself weird for many other reasons with pride.

[Mon1to]

why people think relationship r the most important thing
you can travel, learn new skill and improve yourself

[Kaneki05]

I would take cuddles over any of that any day and ya know I would need a girlfriend for that.

As to others I am sure they would say the same. But towards sex and having children.

[Mon1to]

people want what they didn't have so it's understandable hah

[Kaneki05]

Pretty much yup

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nah happens to me as well sometimes but then I remind myself why it's important to be ready if you are going to jump into anything, also the mentality of people being drama is usually a sign that you aren't

[Mon1to]

the drama doesn't come from me, damn
it's usually the immature guys I deal with haha

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well that's understandable but not everyone is drama, remaining single for that reason is a sign you aren't ready lol

You don't wanna jump into relationships with that mentality or you'll just look for drama in the relationship 💀

[Mon1to]

nothing else to except from a guy
have a good day

[ChicoFromThe305]

Do you not agree?

[Mon1to]

I don't, but there is no way I have a conversation with a person that just started attacking me😭

[ChicoFromThe305]

I'm not attacking, I'm just being logical, I don't deny that if the roles were reversed that I wouldn't behave the same, you don't think that if I thought all women were dramatic I wouldn't be looking for it in every partner, id take them being confrontational about anything as drama, same how a man that thinks all women are hoes will try to find any flaw in a woman's personality just to call them a hoe.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Ever heard of the baader meinhof effect? Aka the red car theory or effect, basically saying that if you go around looking for something specific, you'd find it, like if you look for a red car on the way home, you'd find several, compared to when you aren't looking for anything specific, you'd most likely miss many red cars if not all.

[Mon1to]

damn, never heard of it till now

[Mon1to]

it sounds interesting and it's true but some things can't be fixed

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's for certain and I know for the most part you aren't the issue and you made the right decisions but don't let those experiences cloud your judgement for everyone else it can ruin other good opportunities.

[Mon1to]

that's true but how do u trust after a bad relationship

[ChicoFromThe305]

Hope and faith, for the most part it's a leap of faith, that doesn't mean you should jump fully blind tho, you can always get to know people before you bring in any commitment into the connection.

[Mon1to]

I know that, tbh I get to know them too much that it ends before it even started (noticed the red flags)

[ChicoFromThe305]

Okay then you are moving right, that's how it should be, once you meet the right person you'll know and you'll be well informed on them before making any serious steps

[Mon1to]

this is hard but hopefully achievable

[ChicoFromThe305]

You'll be alright younglin 👍🏼

[Mon1to]

huh I'm not :D

[ChicoFromThe305]

I said you will be, rn you are a mess 😂

[Mon1to]

I said I'm not yupnglin, u r not that much older so

[Mon1to]

also your a$$ is a mess : P

[ChicoFromThe305]

But you are tho, and I'm old enough to call you younglin lol

N I'm a good mess tho, like a ball pit or a pool with floaties everywhere 😂

[Mon1to]

u r not that old, quit it
hahah, a good mess? u like balls or

[ChicoFromThe305]

A good mess and don't make it weird 😂

And I'm getting old unfortunately, time only goes by faster, that's why you gotta not make it harder for yourself lol

[Mon1to]

damn, life is not only about relationships yk?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Okay you make a fair point younglin

[Mon1to]

stop calling me that oldling

[ChicoFromThe305]

😂😂😂

[Mon1to]

see how it feels haha

[ChicoFromThe305]

Doesn't bother me, that's all you 😂

[Mon1to]

sushhhh, oldie :3

[Shiprex]

Not strange in the slightest. Your needs are being met and the other things that relationships bring aren't that important to you.

[Ariesman81]

No. So much more money and time to do fun things.

[Mon1to]

that's right haha

[Leonardo_Di_Vinci]

Are you waiting to get married?

[Mon1to]

tf is that supposed to mean😭

[Leonardo_Di_Vinci]

I mean that behavior usually gets you into marriage with that one guy who just came out of the darkness of your wildest dreams 😂

[Mon1to]

thought guys your age r mature but nah
also, relationships are not everything

[Leonardo_Di_Vinci]

Relationships ain't everything but later in life you'll know you need one anyways and why.

[Mon1to]

just bec I enjoy being alone doesn't mean I'll be single forever but guys expect every girl to be a whore that wants body count higher than 5

[Leonardo_Di_Vinci]

You just made no sense here, I said marriage you denied, I said a relationship and you related that with being whore, its not the case, you can marry or stay with one person forever.

[Mon1to]

whatever

[Leonardo_Di_Vinci]

Now I see, you ain't single you just confused af.

[Mon1to]

ja ja
u don't know me so

[Leonardo_Di_Vinci]

Alr whatever makes you happy.

[Mon1to]

FINALLY

[alice55]

You're 17 it's normal

[Mon1to]

yayy, happy to hear it
thank u!

[alice55]

You re welcome 😼

[Jay-_-]

Yea, maybe you weren't made for a relationship.

[Mon1to]

a relationship with immature guys like u, yeah

[Jay-_-]

"Like you" you literally haven't met me 😂

[Jay-_-]

You clearly aren't ready for anyone you lack commitment which is needed in a relationship, just so you know.

[Mon1to]

from one sentence can tell

[Jay-_-]

Please, enlighten me, what from the eight words I told were you able to come up with that assumption?

[Mon1to]

bro, u fucking attacked me

[Mon1to]

also, girls don't need guys to boost their ego

[Jay-_-]

1. I didn't attack you lmao
2. That's not what a relationship is about

and if that's what you think a relationship is be careful what or who you listen to because they are feeding your brain with nonsense.

[Jay-_-]

I'm not saying there's a problem with being single, I'm happily single by choice, why? Because personally I'm not ready.

[Mon1to]

nah, my own experience

[Mon1to]

oh, what

[Mon1to]

damn sorry, I misunderstood u😭😭

[Jay-_-]

You're fine, don't worry about it, it happens.

[Mon1to]

I don't know I thought u said it's bad to be single n that it's my fault being like that haha

[Jay-_-]

What I'm saying is there's some people who aren't made for a relationship and that's okay.

[Jay-_-]

In a relationship there are sacrifices that have to be made, but if it feels like chains then maybe you aren't made for one, give it time, maybe it'll change, maybe it won't, only time will tell.

[Mon1to]

yk I did a lot n still ends the same
relationships only heartbreak u and then u blame yourself but most of the time, it is not our fault

[Jay-_-]

Relationship are not only heartbreak with the right one if he was a bad man blame him, don't blame all men, I know plenty of men who would die for their woman as I would for the one I know I truly love, I'm willing to make plenty of sacrifices for the woman I have in mind, but overall I'm not ready to take care of her as I know she deserves so I'm single by choice.

[Jay-_-]

But listen, relationships can be a good thing if you both truly care and mutually build together, don't let someone stupid make you miss out on something that truly is beautiful if done right.

[Mon1to]

ik ik relationships can be healing and beautiful and I tried (not once) so now there is no point in trying when I know it'll end the same way

[Mon1to]

I want to be loved too

[Jay-_-]

DON'T RUSH you shouldn't have had to try more than once yet, you will be loved, for now concentrate on bettering yourself and loving yourself. The right one will arrive if you like him for the right reasons.

[Mon1to]

I hate waiting tho haha, also the judging for being single is killing haha
I don't want to die alone yk

[Jay-_-]

Who's judging you?

I would love to be in a relationship but it's better to wait than to waste time.

[Mon1to]

I thought u did in the beginning haha n probably other people too, like I never said relationships are bad, but being happy on your own is a big achievement in my opinion

[Jay-_-]

I was assuming you were unlovable at first, for blaming all men. 😂

[Mon1to]

hahah, I might be bec it's hard for them ig?

[Jay-_-]

Also maybe get better friends lol. You are who you hang around unless you are trying to change them for the better.

[Jay-_-]

That partying and going from relationship to relationship it's not normal, people try to make it seem normal and it's not okay.

[Mon1to]

I always try to fix the bad guys🤪 haha jk

[Jay-_-]

[Mon1to]

I WAS JOKING DAMN

[Jay-_-]

I know😂

[Mon1to]

ohh, bec the meme yk
also how did u do that

[Jay-_-]

[Mon1to]

kitty hehe

[Mon1to]

I want to do that too

[Jay-_-]

You have to paste the URL and it should create a link

[Mon1to]

url? I'm slow

[Jay-_-]

Yep, I'm kidding.

[Jay-_-]

Do you have gifs on your keyboard?

[Mon1to]

yeah and what?

[Jay-_-]

Click on the gif you want and if it doesn't paste the URL automatically paste it by holding on the gif and pasting it.

[Jay-_-]

I could show you better than I can tell you.

[Mon1to]

I'm holding on it and can't copy;(

[Jay-_-]

You should be able to copy and paste a video/picture if you go to Chrome, Google, or safari copy whatever link you want and paste it.

[Mon1to]

ohh, I'll try

[Mon1to]

bruh I can't bec I'm level 2😔

[Jay-_-]

Just yap up a storm whenever you have the chance, post opinions and questions. 😂

[Mon1to]

I can yap and argue hehe :3