Has anyone ever concluded that maybe being single is pretty comfortable?

[Anonymous]

I've come to the conclusion that it's actually pretty peaceful and I've noticed I never really hated being single, sometimes I run into things that makes me kinda go like, maybe where I'm at is the best position to be 🤔

[Simslover92]

I've been single most of my life. Getting a taste of what it's like to be in a relationship has made things worse for me. I was better off never knowing what that felt like because now it's hard for me to transition back to being comfortable with being single. But I have to I guess. I have no choice.

[Asker]

So getting a taste of it made you want it more?

[Simslover92]

It just made me want to be in a relationship with the person I want to be in a relationship with and now that I can't be in a relationship with him, it's killing me. I hate feeling like this. I wish I never went there.

[Asker]

Well the best option is to start the healing process not remain hopeful

[Simslover92]

I'm not hopeful. All I want to do is die

[msc545]

@Simslover92 I completely understand. When I was a little younger, I felt like that when I lost somebody that was very dear to me, too. All I can tell you is don't act out on it and let some time pass. That feeling of wanting to die will fade, and you will be okay, but you got to give it some time.

[Simslover92]

@msc545 ok thank you. I will try my best.

[msc545]

There really is no other choice other than to rush it or give it up and both of those are very destructive.

[DishLady]

Yes and no. "Pretty comfortable" is never "fully comfortable." I'm really happy prepping meals and hanging with friends and attending events where I'm able to chat up whomever I want without any caveman either lashing out bc I'm being social or staying glued to me in an embarrassingly possessive show to indicate "she's mine" as if I wasn't capable of controlling myself or of being faithful. Being faithful and supportive of friends, family and loved ones was never an issue for me. But people... are not what they seem and demand more from a naturally giving person than what's reasonable for anyone in the world to give...

So "single status" is not so bad. Would I like a good guy by my side? Yeah, ofc... but emphasis on "good"... We have to be good for each other. It can't be one-sided.

[MrChinaski]

As a general rule of thumb, every time life offers you a fork between comfort and discomfort, choose the latter. It may or may not turn out better, but it sure as heck will be more interesting. The basic idea of a good life is that when you get to the end of it you won't be lying on a hospital bed, tubes hanging out of you in all directions, and thinking to yourself: 'I wonder what that was all about'.

[Asker]

Interesting observation, I'll keep that in mind when moving forward

[Zack-Bann]

Nope. It’s called coping with failure.


There are people who are good at lying to themselves and believing the lie


But the truth is: if a relationship was handed to you on a platter you would take it.


Being single by choice is a lie.

[Anonymous]

being single is comfortable because your parents are still alive, your friends aren't married or have any kids yet, your siblings are still unmarried. Once you enter your 40s, all of that changes. Your parents start dying, your brother ends up too busy to ever see you after his kids are born, your friends stop seeing you cuz they're getting married...

you're getting old so its harder to get a date

you've seen nothing yet, young pup

[Asker]

Actually I have a friend with a kid, and he's my parents are alive, my brother is in a relationship and the other is on his own stuff with women, thing is I spend most of my time alone or at least mentality I'm by myself but yea I guess it would be different, can't say I'd want a relationship tho, id find new friends maybe, commitment isn't necessary to exist from what it seems

[Asker]

It also depends on the person, you slightly miserable but if you are a extrovert I can see how you'd suffer in loneliness but to be it's just peace lol

[Opinion Owner]

I really would not waste your prime not dating. One day you will wake up, find yourself old wrinkly fat unattractive, dick starts to not work, with a bad knee. And your parents will be dead. Your siblings barely visit you any more and you will be very lonely. At that point in life, people who you want to date will not want to date you

[Opinion Owner]

You look the best right now in your life. Don't waste it

[Asker]

I don't think I'd have an issue when I'm older even out of my prime time but okay 😂

[Opinion Owner]

@chicofromthe305

you don't think you'd have an issue because you are just a young kid with no life experience.

[Asker]

You don't know my life experience, you sound hella lonely tho, i grew up in struggle, which is when you learn to value even the small things, I can find happiness without a partner, it's just facts, perhaps it's a sensitivity difference, I have lost my ability to rely on others for comfort, I don't even remember the last time I vented to someone about personal issues, I think you and I have grown in a completely different environment, perhaps you are speaking how you feel but if you truly experienced life from my perspective you'd know how numb I feel towards everything around me, I think your understanding of me is only the surface persona I purposely promote to not spread the negativity I've experienced, you did get one thing right tho, I love my family and it's all I have left but where you are wrong is that if they passed on, I wouldn't look for love but I turn to something no one would recognize.

[simply_anomalous]

I have made peace with the worst case scenario a long time ago. I never end up dating the people I want to date anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

@chicofromthe305

you're not lonely because you have never been through many difficult times in life.
you're not lonely because you still have family alive and around.

when you get older, both of these will change. At some point in life, you will suffer without anyone to help you. Dating might feel impossible at some point. Making friends will feel impossible at some point. People stop making friends as they get older. People even stop dating as they get older.

I might sound lonely but you sound hella inexperienced.

[Asker]

Like I've said, you don't know what I've been through, I've been in many life or death situations, we are in different levels of environment, what you lived doesn't compare, I'm inexperienced in dating and that's not a necessity to live, at least not to me, what is your problem anyways 😂

[sage2021]

Not a darn thing wrong with being single and even remaining single. It seems to be working for you so I would stay with it and see what happens.

I've been single almost my entire life. I don't mind it at all. And you're right, it is peaceful. That's what I like most about it.

The only time I wish I had someone is when I need help fixing something, or reaching for something that's way up high. But if I had a neighbor or a brother close by then problem solved.

[midnightmoon05]

If you have never been in a good loving fun exciting relationship… single is good enough…

life is so much better with my hubby.
want to ask him?

[Asker]

Nah I believe you, you say it pretty much every time I ask a relationship question 😂

[MemeSupreme]

yeah, it definitely can, altho i dont think anyone should avoid dating bc it might make them uncomfortable either

[Asker]

The momo has spoken 😂

[fantasticass]

I love being single. I was in a relationship for a few year's, but ended it. My peace is more important and I can only find it being single ✌️

[Asker]

I can understand that

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I just don't go looking for relationships anymore which also slowed down a lot of my platonic encounters. Life is definitely more peaceful. But I still want a family one day. Feeling this way certainly has its perks though

[Anonymous]

Some people simply should stay single for their entire lifetime. They're to up their own arse to make room for other people.

[Asker]

Perhaps, it's pretty comfortable to not have relationship problems as part of the things that keep you up at night

[Opinion Owner]

I'm pretty comfortable not having relationships problems as part of the things if keeping me up and I'm in a relationship.
As I said, some people just aren't build for having to consider another person in their lives and thus should just stay single. Some people should just focus on their own arses as it's to hard work otherwise.

[Asker]

Sure I guess lol

[Kenkebuttery]

I prefer it. Nobody telling me i can't do that.

That's nice

[Asker]

I guess so but you must be wylin if people are telling you that so much 😂

[Kenkebuttery]

Naw. But if i see someone i want dick from. I ain't gotta be like damn. I can't cuz i got mr. Same ole same ole dick.
I ain't tryin to be attached to 1 dick at 20

[Asker]

So it's all about dick to you? 😂

[Kenkebuttery]

Shut up. Not all🤣 but i like dick😭

[Asker]

Really? I never would've guessed 😮 it's not like 70% of your conversations are about dick 😂

[Kenkebuttery]

Not that high

[Asker]

60% ?

[Iron_Man]

That’s only if you have your family around if you’re all by yourself on the earth you need somebody

[Asker]

Perhaps, maybe someday lol

[Iron_Man]

Yes, you’ll get your shot

[alice55]

Being single is comfy yes but I don't think it's sustainable in the long run, like some years yes but I don't see myself being single all my life that would be sad

[Chloe_Jones]

I'm currently enjoying the freedom of having a single life

[Bloodparadise]

Being single and having feelings for someone are different

[Asker]

Yea I guess that's true

[Pterodon]

Yes it can be. But it also gets very old doing everything alone

[Asker]

I can imagine at some point it does, I guess if you have time to think a lot, you more than likely think of this a lot

[queenofcardio]

It can be very comfortable especially if you live a busy life.

[RavVid]

There is a lot more peace whereas with a woman there never is.

[Staximus]

I'm over being single, but when you tell a girl you're a sleepwalker you might as well tell her you're a fucking werewolf

[simply_anomalous]

Being single is very comfy. I save money. I don't have to worry about going out. I don't have to worry about family get togethers. I also don't have to worry about sharing bed space.

[LiamJHayden]

It is definitely better than being in a stressful and drama filled relationship.

[Jeff51]

I've been married for 15 years now. Sometimes I think about what it was like being single.

[MissSunshine2]

Yes there are positives to it.

[Anonymous]

I prefer my single life

[Asker]

I'm starting to lean that way as well

[douride2]

I find being single very comfortable.

[Anonymous]

It kinda sucks in some ways.

[Opinion Owner]

But I’m not really looking atm either

[Opinion Owner]

Can u message me by the way , I can’t message u yet cuz I’m not at level 2

[Asker]

Sure thing lol

[Opinion Owner]

thanks

[serious]

It is actually comfortable.