How long can you start dating again after a breakup?

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[Summeroflove]

It really depends on the context of the breakup as well as the people involved. If someone’s cheated or did something horrible it may be best to eventually forgive and wish someone well but maybe not go back.

If it was a breakup on good terms because of life changes but you have grown together again or been reconnected. Absolutely give it a shot.

[Screenwriter]

According to how you FEEL after the breakup.

Some breakups have been a long time coming. The relationship has been schlepping along for ages and everyone's glad it's finally over.

So you lick your wounds and have some alone time. Then you perk up and begin thinking about moving on and want to enjoy yourself. This might take a few weeks or a few months.

On the other hand, if it was a longtime relationship that you didn't WANT to end, you're in a different headspace, aren't you. You might need a lot of mourning time and some therapy and crying to get over it.

If you were with someone for years or had intended to have a marriage or children with them of you HAD a marriage and children with them, you're talking about having to do some work before you're in the market again, eh?

Get help and support from all the sources you need to and allow yourself time. Rushing into something new, the "rebound" effect, is never a good idea.

[SueShe]

There is no law to my knowledge that stipulates that you have to wait a certain number of seconds, minutes, hours, days or years before you can start dating again. Unless of course you live in a country where separating from your husband is perceived as a shame, mainly for a woman and where you may have to bear the consequences.

However, the shorter the time between a break up and starting to date again, the more it tells about the person and his/her ability to keep a relationship standing. If you date the same day again, I would see you as a person that does place more importance on quantity rather than quality and that is a red flag in my eyes.

[OlderAndWiser]

This is a very individual matter and there is not one time frame that applies to all people. In general, however, it is unfair to a potential partner if you start dating and you are thinking about your ex instead of your new date.

[Simslover92]

Everyone is different but I would say give it at least 3 to 6 months especially if you were together for longer than a year. It took me 8 months to get him out of my system, but for a lot of people it might not take that long. It just depends on how long you were together and how deeply you felt about them.

[Finchie40]

Whenever you feel ready to date again, there is no time limit whatsoever , when someone walks away from you and becomes your ex , they never loved you the same to begin with , so why wait if someone better is waiting for you?

[DishLady]

It depends on you and on how deep the affection (and trauma) of the last relationship was.

[ohsheeT]

It all depends on the girl that I would have just meant

[AviatorTom]

It depends. It can be a matter of hours or weeks or months.

When I got divorced, I waited about 6 months before I started dsting.

[MadinaHasABensheer]

i mean, i broke up two years ago and im still single. its not because i miss my ex, rather, i find it hard to approach someone and develop feelings for them. i feel that i have become much pickier then i used to be and my standards rose to a crazy level. it made me wonder, why did i settle for less when there were men who are twice as attractive as my ex who wanted me as i am. now im just having hard time finding a guy whom i would get along with personality wise, on a closer, more emotional level.

[lightbulb27]

Process what happened and resolve emotions. General rule is a yesr for esch 3 years but that just says… take some time. Sometimes its been well over for a while emotionally and ready to go day 1.
Learn lessons else repeat. Look deep inside yourself for why wanted that one… is importsnt to evaluate the chooser!

[TheSpaceGnome]

Depends on if I had more female friends that I've already known for 3 years that were matches or not.

Without that luxury, I have no idea. it could take a decade or two just to find another match, and 3 years after finding her to realize thats what she is.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

I've heard your "healing time" after a relationship should be as long as the relationship. But honestly I think it depends on how invested you were in the relationship.

If you didn't care that much, you could be ready to date again after ten or fifteen minutes.

[PrincessC16]

There is no standard set time. It's all about your healing, and when you feel that you are ready to be back in a relationship.

[Jove79]

For a female.. a couple months just to get over it.. for a male.. whenever possible. Much more difficult for a male to start dating at all.

A chick can walk down the street and have multiple guys to choose from.. a guy walks down the street and he’s almost always invisible.. especially after being complacent after a LTR.

[236color]

I don't know, when you feel ready, I guess. Also I'd think it has to do with the nature and duration of the relationship. Dating for 6 weeks, pretty quick I'd imagine. Married 5 years, yeah that's gonna take longer.

[Nikki1989]

The same day if it works for you. There are no rules.

[exitseven]

IfI could find somebody I would start the next day.

[MemeSupreme]

it's when you no longer wanna be with them and you've properly processed both of your guy's mistakes in the relationship

can't move onto the next relationship repeating the same mistakes lol

[BarryLiverstone]

You need time to heal, it’s like someone died. Go with the pie rule: # days dating divided by 3 (3.16… technically ). So if you were with him 9 months then you are ready after 3 months.

[itsannalee]

Immediately, but I don’t take the date seriously until years.

[Lliam]

Whenever you want to. When you are ready. There is no timetable.

[MrChinaski]

As soon as you feel you have something to offer a new partner.

That could be 1 hour or 2 years.

[ottawahuman]

The guy is allowed to right away, the girl should wait at least 6 months or she will look like a slut. It's not fair but that's the truth.

[MrChinaski]

Allah only knows where you are living, but this is not the case in the West. Women, not 'girls', are treated respectfully.

[ottawahuman]

Not a matter of respect. A woman who goes from a long term relationship into another one too fast doesn't do well.

[MrChinaski]

I respectfully disagree, friend.

[ottawahuman]

Well when you get over the idea that life is fair you'll realize that it's not a matter of opinion it's a matter of observation.

[Cuminginside]

If you have a backup or a sister wife does that still count? I'm asking as a person that wrote a paper about this years ago.

[FunkyMonkee]

I think it's the same as for going into the water after eating.

[Fireguy17]

depends on the breakup and how long it takes for her to leave.

[Anonymous]

It depends on circumstances. If I meet a great woman after a breakup, I'm usually reluctant to start a new relationship soon after. But I have done it when I've met a women I really liked.

[Pterodon]

When you’re over your last relationship. The amount of time depends on the depth of feelings involved

[standardguy]

The new relationship shouldn't be done to make the lost of the last no hurt any more but for the person themself.

[nawtee_me]

It was twenty years from my divorce until I started dating again.

[fish5505_87]

A day, a month, a year, all depends on my luck.

[Chely00]

When you’re ready. And depends how longs you’s been together.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I never had a breakup, and I never had a date :/

[EmmaMary]

I don't think there's any strict timetable.

[Armourdillo]

The only requirement is master self love and being happy alone.

[EmmaMary]

@Armourdillo

Absolutely Spot On.

[Anonymous]

If you need to ask, you're not ready. Just learn to be happy alone first.

[slatyb]

About as long as it takes to get online.

[conanbdetective]

When you feel like you're ready to do so.

[DrPepper12]

Immediately if you're up for it or never

[LiaRaven]

Same day

[Staximus]

That depends on the person

[Donalnichualla]

Depends on how quickly you can move on

[shortster]

Me personally, a week.

[Yohenis]

Roughly after 2 months

[Anonymous]

(((((Looks at watch))))😆

[trumpetplayerforlife]

The next day

[yotaman99]

I still haven’t started yet

[Kelley1]

One day.

[Professor-college]

Depends on how the first break up happened

[WhitneySnow]

A few months

[StevenMcGarrett]

Within seconds.

[LiamJHayden]

Next day

[dudeinohio]

Immediately

[chocolatetwopointo]

as soon as u want

[ABC1x1x]

The next day

[bralesswonder]

You just give up