Would you rather someone too clingy or too reserved?

[Simslover92]

Too clingy

Too reserved

[NathanDavis]

if you really REALLY force me... to pick one

I would have to go with reserved... clingy people can get way too anxious if you're not around them... and I am usually splitting time, between my partners and my family, friends, and other things I have going on for myself so... that might not be compatible in that sense

as for people who are too reserved, in my experience.. they do tend to open one-on-one with me... and I would assume my partner would do that even more..

[Simslover92]

I see...

[NathanDavis]

I could give her... 70, and even 80 or 90% of my time and dedication

but that little 30 to 20% that I do need for other things... she is still going to be too anxious, because she is the very clingy type

so, I am not sure I would want to put her through that... lol

[Simslover92]

Right. That makes sense. Well my ex says I'm too reserved. I thought I was too clingy but I guess not lol

[NathanDavis]

too reserved? hmm... I don't really get those vibes from you, so I am not sure what he meant by that

[Simslover92]

Yeah I know me either

[SteveSmith1985]

I can't choose. They're both equally terrible. Just for different reasons. If someone is "too" clingy, that's suffocating. I couldn't be with someone like that. Someone reserved, I wouldn't end up falling for in the first place. I couldn't imagine myself being with someone who was reserved (with me).

How much is too much, when it comes to "clingy," is subjective. So it's only too much, if that's how the clung-to-person sees it. If it's not mutual.

[DishLady]

I like reserved more, especially at the beginning, but too reserved also isn't healthy.

Too clingy can be misinterpreted by the other person and by those in your friends group.

In the end it's not important what the other person is. You can't control how they will be. You can only control yourself... and set the pace of how reserved/clingy you'll be together.

[PrincessC16]

I'd much rather have someone too clingy. I can deal with that easier than a person who's advoidant. Avoidant just keeps me guessing all the time. Not knowing how that person truly feels.

[Simslover92]

Me too.

[ohsheeT]

There is a time and place for everything I like both but in order for both to work and be understood you have to be in a relationship to really know each other deep

[HawkPerception]

Clingy for sure. I'd much rather someone always wants to be around me than never wants to be around me. The latter is arguably not even a relationship.

[Avicenna]

If I have to choose between the two, it’s clingy

[MemeSupreme]

oh god definitely too reserved

i HATE it when people get too clingy. bc of how i am, ik i'll upset them which makes me feel shitty when i do, but i also feel claustrophobic when someone is clingy

it's a mess i try to avoid lol

[OneViewpoint]

Neither. I want someone who is a mature, balanced personality with the confidence to navigate a range of social situations and the bedroom without making me cringe or feel like their babysitter.

[slatyb]

Both can be intolerable. Someone too clingy can make it difficult to live your life. Someone too reserved can leave you feeling lonely in the relationship.

[Phoenix98]

Honestly given the lack of affection of my previous relationships I'd rather have someone to clingy, let me see what that genuine affection is.

[NicholasRedone]

Are you a hugger and is that a consideration? What if she ain't or - it's only as rare as the full moon lol 😆

[Phoenix98]

@NicholasRedone In general I'm not much of a hugger. I mean with my partner I'd hug em but I have to be close with someone in order to do that.

[Sonorous]

None but I'll entertain. Out of the two I'd prefer clingy because it would make me feel like they actually love me.

[Nikki1989]

Both are equally bad. I can't choose.

[RandomUser1000]

I would rather pick too clingy then too reserved.

[McLlovin]

I like my space and i rather spend my time drawing them in then peeling them off me.

[libralove]

I like a mix of both
I like the when my girl is all over me but we also have times where we can be away from each other and do our own thing

[Iron_Man]

it’s better to be clingy than to be distance and cold but give me some space you don’t need to be on top of me 24 hours a day

[NicholasRedone]

After all, I see what you wrote there double ended lol 😆 "eventually woman on top is tiring, just like constant missionary" wink wink

[bddddd]

Ummm neither. That's what 'too' means, right?

[Anonymous]

Clingy , because I’ve been with people who deserted me before and said nothing , but too clingy can be a red flag too.

[soe11]

• When we know each other then I like clingy.

[msc545]

Both are bad but reserved i worse, since it usually feels like rejection.

[NicholasRedone]

Or bipolar

[NicholasRedone]

And deep down, respectfully, some folks don't want a constant hot and cold supposed partner

[Jay-_-]

For me... I definitely would want my woman clingy over reserved.

[Jay-_-]

"I got nothing to hide ask me whatever you want baby, question me, glue yourself to me"

[Jay-_-]

[Knightwatch27]

Both are extremes that make a relationship untenable so I couldn't and wouldn't pick either.

[Lilly1979]

Some where in between I like knowing I exist in their lives but not to smootherd.

[PeterLegg91]

Clingy as too reserved can come off as if they're not really interested

[NicholasRedone]

Or they're a player / hiding something inside

[7Phoenix7]

Ugh... I can't pick 🥴 lmao

[Simslover92]

Lol understandable.

[7Phoenix7]

Would you rather not breathe or not eat?

I need oxygen and I need food lmao

[Simslover92]

Lmao true true

[7Phoenix7]

Lmaoo

With my ex we were both clingy haha.

[Simslover92]

Haha that definitely wasn't the case between me and my ex which is probably why it didn't work out. We were both too reserved.

[7Phoenix7]

Wow you don't seem like you would be too reserved at all

[Simslover92]

That's what confused me when he told me I was too reserved. I thought I was too clingy to him but he said I didn't express myself enough. He definitely didn't either though. So I guess we kind of were going off of each other in that relationship. I don't want to be that way with the new guy though. I want to be expressive and a little clingy. Not too clingy but enough for him to know that I'm really interested.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Clingy because when I love I’m clingy

[Sam1133]

Ohk noted maam

[Simslover92]

Same

[Anonymous]

If a girl is too clingy, it means she cares. I'd probably like that.

[itsannalee]

Clingy but don’t too much

[jazzy34]

A healthy combination of both.

[On_cloud_wine]

My love language is touch so..

[nawtee_me]

I like clingy…. are you clingy at times?

[Simslover92]

Yes I am

[nawtee_me]

So you like to touch? Hold hands? Arm around each other?

[Simslover92]

Yes I do. I like doing all of that.

[nawtee_me]

So do I, I also find that a lot of girls don’t. My ex didn’t. It is refreshing to see girls that do. High five…. lol

[Simslover92]

Lol high five

[yotaman99]

My ex girlfriend said I was clingy

[Simslover92]

Better than being too reserved. I would prefer clingy.

[yotaman99]

Really she told me I was annoying

[Simslover92]

I've been with a too reserved guy... never again. I think it's better to be somewhere in the middle but I would prefer clingy over reserved if I had to choose.

[yotaman99]

I wish you were my ex then she was really mean

[Simslover92]

I'm sorry 😔

[yotaman99]

Don’t be sorry it’s not your fault plus i learned a lot from it.

[Simslover92]

That's good you learned a lot from it. I did too in my relationship.

[yotaman99]

Yeah it was a crazy experience to say the least

[exitseven]

too clingy is better thannot clingy enough

[Babygirl_S]

Neither…prefer being single peacefully

[TheSpaceGnome]

I like a very clingy girlfriend.

[DrPepper12]

I've had reserved. Clingy is better

[Jennz6]

Both, depending on my mood

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Both are terrible. Balance is key in life.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Definitely too clingy

[Celticwolf78]

Clingy doesn't bother me

[alice55]

too clingy

[BarryLiverstone]

Reserved

[shortster]

I prefer clingy