Would you rather have an over possessive partner or someone who doesn't care at all about anything?

[girlwithglasses01]

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HYPOTHETICAL: If you have to choose one what would u go for.

[Thingsby]

Love hypotheticals!

Hmm... I'd go for option number 2, please. I do not like the thought of having my privacy being taken away, my social life dictated by them, constantly being put under suspicion of unfaithfulness and not being kept out of their sight.

I can't imagine waking up every day next to somebody I know who doesn't trust me and won't let me do the things that make me happy, or talk to other male friends just because he feels insecure about his possession in my life.

Not only is it an unattractive trait to be mega insecure, but possessives could also end up as stalkers after a breakup. While somebody who doesn't care about you or anything... won't care why you guys broke up anyways. So... yeah, I go for the one who doesn't give a shit. Less complicated and there's no chance of finding your sex tape on a revenge porn site. 😅

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Damn, realistically, neither… But hypothetically, probably possessive. I’ve dealt with both a possessive partner and a partner who doesn’t care before, and a partner who doesn’t care feels a lot worse to be honest.

[Miristheiss]

Possessive.
I can deal with that. I'm a 6'2", 215 pound guy... she can't really do anything to me other than annoy me. I stand me own ground and I am usually pretty understanding of feelings and I think I can be fair as to what is a legitimate insecurity of hers that I'll be patient and loving with and work with her on and what is just anything overbearing and psycho. If anything, within reason, was crossing her boundaries I'd do my best to listen and be understanding and cooperate within reason.

If she was just too annoying or crossed the line into unreasonable demands and expectations then I'd just end things.

The bottom line, I need to feel wanted. If I don't feel wanted and needed then I'd leave the relationship anyway so someone "not caring" isn't a relationship I would have ever stuck around for.

[Phoenix-gb]

Possessive, not that I've got anyone after me to be jealous of, but being on the sub side, the idea of a partner possessively considering me "Theirs" is attractive to me.

[Desconhecida]

Neither. Both choices aren't healthy.

[sissyalexa]

I think in reality either is bad and can be quiet damaging!

Personally I'd choose over possesive over disinterested but there is definitely a limit to how possessive someone should ever be!

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[HighlyVolatile]

How far does not caring about anything go? It seems like a spectrum idea to me. I don't really understand what it means exactly. For an extreme example, someone who doesn't care about hunger and whether they die would starve to death.

[Emerald55346]

It’s hard to say but the one that doesn’t care at least i know there will be no restrictions placed on me, as long as the one that doesn’t care is still loyal that’s my choice.

[DizzyDesii]

Definitely possessive but he won't be getting his way often. I’ll call him out on his behavior and We’ll be battling for boss position

[Vegasrunner]

@DizzyDesii That sounds miserably unhealthy. How long ago was your last relationship?

[DizzyDesii]

@Vegasrunner she said out of her two options. I rather have someone who cares too much then a guy who doesn't care at all 🙄

[Sour-rose]

Who doesn't care... at least he won't care when I'm cheating on him.

[skytatoe]

I'd rather have a partner that doesn't care about anything lol.

Over-possessive will fuck your life. Doesn't care about anything, won't care about the breakup either, easier to move on LOL

[Klinklins]

Over possessive. I expect my partner to be little possessive or the relationship will be like just a roommates or business partner

[Emiku]

Ew no. Those types of people are disgusting with no ambitions. They are losers in reality.

[Gwenhwyfar]

I would rather stay alone than choose either of those

[douride2]

I had an over possessive partner once I don't want that again. The other option isn't much better though.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I want a girlfriend who is possessive / dominant over me

[bowenw]

Ideally somewhere in the middle. If I had to chose it would be an over possessive partner.

[Ninania]

I'd rather be alone than choose either of those two.

[Iron_Man]

If she doesn’t care we won’t get very far so what choice do I have

[NathanDavis]

none... rather have dignity and self respect

[NathanDavis]

edit/update... rather have hypothetical dignity and hypothetical self respect

[babybunny06]

Possessive definitely

[lrina]

i'd rather be single.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Overpossessive is honestly attractive.

[Agape93]

Over possessive. But I'd leave either one anyways.

[TyLeeAndPink]

Depends. Do they still love me but are distant?

[jahaims]

I wouldn't pick either

[ashish804]

possesive is good. but over of anything is bad

[Wise4myage]

Neither.