Why men don't chase, pursue you , and acting like it's whatever for them it's this new dating way?

[Anonymous]

Okey help , I just wondered why is the same happening with every guy I met , I talk to them agreed to meet with them but for them is like don't know how to exactly explain but it's like whatever or not pursuing much... and I very attractive must to say the most of the guys which I go out with are not even in my range... So instead to stressing out about loosing me or make me to want them more they just don't care...

[SteveSmith1985]

Yea. I can help you. Nobody likes to chase someone. Your idea that it's his job to worry about losing you. You need to be putting in your half of the effort. There should be nothing like "chasing" involved. There should be... he shows interest; you show interest; he shows more interest; you show more interest. If you don't give him the feedback that you're equally interested in him... it's not surprising they assume you're not, and move on. I would.

In other words, you need to be stressing out about loosing him in the way you're saying is lacking.

I think you're just thinking about this in a really outdated way. It makes sense to me that this is what's happened. You've got a misunderstanding about expectations. So you are not seeing the behavior you expect. You just need to put in your half of the effort. And not think of it as a guy needing to impress you. You are seeing if you're right for each other. Everything is a two-way street.

🙂

[Asker]

Thanks for your help advice:)
But I meant different with my question
I mean what if I show effort or that I open to seeing him but he's doesn't put much effort and not making plans or date to see me, but if I text he will come... So is this because he knows that I will sleep with him or go out so that's way he thinks that he doesn't have to care or put effort to to win me over

[Anonymous]

Generally it comes down to the woman's LACK OF EFFORT. Men typically start off as driven to meet a woman, fall in love, get married, and raise a family. But along the way they find out that IS NOT the goal of most women anymore. Guys get used and abused by woman after woman until he learns this REALITY.

So once this happens a man learns to only pursue a woman that matches his effort. Yes, unfortunately even some of those women will be gaming him. Some of them women like to initiate strong interest and as soon as he reciprocates she pulls back and expects him to just pursue him continuously. But usually by around 30 if a guy is still single. He adept at women's games and he has seen just about every trick your gender can play. This is why women 30+ complain about men not responding anymore. Because they simply cannot get men to bite on the same games they've always pulled.

Hope this helps.🙂👍

[Nikki1989]

Laziness is like a cancer these days. People are so glued to their screens, it is really pathetic. Look at the number of men on here that gripe and moan about dating apps when all they have to do is get off their ass, go out and meet people.

And don't get me started on the texting people that are verging on being mutes at this point.

[EmmaMary]

I can fully understand why guys aren't interested in pursuing you... You've certainly got a very high and mighty opinion of yourself.

[Asker]

Having self respect is nothing hing , every woman should have it

[EmmaMary]

Absolutely... But there are times and places to show it... And others to curb it a bit.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Shiprex]

These days relationships aren't providing men with much of what they want even though it could be what they need. It's probably not you but that guys are finding alternative ways to get pleasure that are not dealing with women or relationships.

The juice is not worth the squeeze is an unfortunate term I have heard used to describe dating for dudes.

[itsannalee]

If guys don’t chase you, it means they don’t find you that attractive. If they want, they will.

[EmmaMary]

Precisely right.

[Asker]

Well this is not 100% accurate because I saw guys who chase girls that are not attractive at all and marry them...

[itsannalee]

Just because you think they aren’t attractive, doesn’t mean they aren’t attractive for them. Beautiful is subjective.

[EmmaMary]

I sense someone green with envy. lol

[itsannalee]

@EmmaMary kinda agree lol

[Asker]

Well yes exactly for some I mabye attractive for some mabye not..
But that wasn't the question !

[EmmaMary]

I do believe we've both have answered your question.

[itsannalee]

I think our opinions are perfectly answered your question. Maybe it’s just doesn't fit with what you expected.

[serious]

I don't know but maybe it is your thinking of yourself that makes men not to pursue you.

[In_Trance]

If they don't chase, it's because they don't like you

[Hellraiser1984]

Go look up mgtow. That's why.

[jahaims]

You want immature games

[Fury_storm]

you are probably ugly