I have a crush on my colleague, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Help!
I'm a student who works in a cafe only at the Saturdays as a waitress. And the guy I'm working with is super cute. He is the bartender who prepares the drinks and I'm the one who serves them. But unfortunately it's always so busy at the Saturday we never get to have any single conversation other than orders. Besides, he is brother of the owner who is also our chef there. She is always watching us and it's been two months now, I don't know what to do. Do you have any ideas or advices that would help me to get us closer maybe?

[Oliverlogan263]

Well, that's a tricky situation you got there! I get it, crushes on coworkers can be super complicated, especially when the boss is watching your every move.

First off, don't stress too much. It's totally normal to have a crush on a cute coworker, it happens to everyone. The key is to play it cool and not come on too strong, especially since the boss is always around.

My advice would be to start small - try to strike up a casual conversation with him when you get a chance, like asking how his day is going or if he's enjoying the music playing. Nothing too intense, just friendly chit-chat. That way you can get a feel for if he seems interested too.

Maybe you could even ask if he wants to grab a coffee or bite to eat after your shift sometime, just as friends. That way you can get to know each other a little better without the boss around. But don't put too much pressure on it - keep it low-key and see how it goes.

The most important thing is to not do anything that could jeopardize your job. As much as you might want to make a move, it's probably not worth the risk, especially if the boss is so involved. Just take it slow and see if something develops naturally.

Good luck, girl! I hope you're able to work something out with your cute coworker. Just play it cool and who knows, maybe something will spark between you two. 🤞

[Staximus]

Maybe you should look for something more substantial than "cute"

[Asker]

I just didn't want to make it so detailed but as you demand to be convinced about sincerity of my feelings, I like the way he is always so so polite to everyone regardless the fact we work for his family there. He is so hardworking and never complains about anything but rather always smiley and cheerful. He cares about our well-being by making sure we get our breaks and have our lunchs even when we want to keep working to finish the works. But I didn't get the chance to know about him more and that's what I'm willing to do. I want to get to know him better

[Staximus]

If you don't care about the job then go for it. If you don't want to get fired you should forget about it.

[Asker]

Do you think it would get me fired?🥺 I mean, it's a temporary job I started to gain experience, that's why I work only at Saturdays, I will probably resign in summer

[jennifer_bloom]

You expect us to believe a restaurant owner would work as a chef while getting their brother to work as the highly paid bar tender and a hired hand to work as the waitress? It’s obvious to me you have a brain injury, and nobody believes your lies about me.

[Asker]

Wth are you talking about 😂 it's a small cafe runned by a family. What makes you think it's so unrealistic?😂

[Jooying]

Ask him if he would like to grab a drink after work some day and see his reaction. I think that's pretty obvious already yet not so pushing if he had no interest.

[septemberintherain]

I would ask him if he wants to grab a coffee sometime when your off work maybe!