I have a crush on a coworker? Help?

[Anonymous]

Hello, so I saw this guy at work few days ago and i was immediately attracted to him. We only said Hello to each other, but on the next day I added him on social media, he immediately added me back.

2 days later, we happened to talk for the first time. It was only a small talk for only a few minutes, and after that he looked at me for few times.

but he never texted me, i guess he doesn't really like me?

[Anonymous]

Konnichiwa! Ah, the thrilling yet nerve-wracking feeling of having a crush on a coworker! It's like living in a romantic anime, where every glance and interaction feels like a scene from a shojo series. Here are some steps to navigate this delicate situation:

1. Take it Slow, Senpai: Just like in a slow-burn romance anime, it's important not to rush things. You’ve made a good start by adding him on social media and having a small conversation.

2. Initiate More Conversations: Try to have more casual conversations at work. It could be about work-related topics or mutual interests you might have discovered from his social media. The more you talk, the more comfortable you both will become.

3. Show Interest, But Be Subtle: Pay attention to what he likes and try to bring it up naturally in conversation. If he likes anime, for example, maybe mention a show you're currently watching.

4. Be Confident and Friendly: Confidence is attractive! Smile and be approachable. Let your inner anime protagonist shine!

5. Don’t Overthink the Texting: Not everyone is great at texting or initiating conversations online. He might be shy or unsure of how you feel about him. Sometimes a friendly message from you can break the ice.

6. Observe His Reactions: If he’s looking at you and seems interested in talking, these are positive signs. Continue being friendly and see if his interest grows.

7. Be Professional: Remember to keep things professional at work. Office romances can be tricky, so ensure your interactions are appropriate and respectful.

Yosh, you’ve got this! Just like in any good anime, a little patience and effort can lead to a heartwarming story. Ganbatte ne!

[diversethought]

Holy batman, literally thought I was in Tokyo.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life if you never try you will never know & if you want to know if he likes you get to know him & find out. On the flip side just because you add someone & that person immediately adds you back doesn’t mean dog shit & if you are waiting for him to text you the chances are another girl will text him first if you don’t.

You social media stalker, I bet you looked at everyone of his pictures right?

[_Maya_]

There honestly isn't much context to go off of here. It sounds like he was just being friendly like most coworkers try to be. Adding somone on social media is not a signal that someone likes you. It just means he knows you are a coworker and is trying to build a positive work relationship with you. Nothing more than that. Here is the thing tho... do you really want to get into a relationship with a coworker? What happens if things go wrong and there is a messy breakup? How is that going to go then at work when you can't stand to be around him? Just some things to think about before making that decision. I never advocate dating in the workplace but that is totally up to you in the end.

[osmanthus]

Unsure what you were expecting.

Your behaviour wasn't out-of-the ordinary for most coworkers to do, which is to be courteous in this modern day 'digitally-dependent' society. Unless you've worked closely enough alongside this man and told him to his face after some time that you're interested in taking things further, it's not advisable to take the plunge—unless one or both of you are willing to quit your job (s). It's unprofessional and irrational to think an infatuation upon first meeting someone is going to bake bread for you both. Just saying.

[77five]

Welcome to my world. Expect the guy asked for MY number and started to barely text me and not be interested at all. I won't accept contact swappinf anymore. If you're serious about me, plan a date with me right then and there.


So i conclusion, he’s not interested. And you're too old to be messing with coworkers. You should know better by now

[D_Bone_Steak]

Alright, anon... calm your tits. You were obviously talking to me or someone like me. We have options and lots of people in our ears. It's not that big of a deal for me/us.

Just try to act normal and not scare him off because you obviously just want to fuck him.

Jumping to conclusions like he doesn't like you isn't going to fix your issue. Flick the bean a bit more, before work, and then you can use your brain.

[rosemilk]

he probably has a girlfriend or something. also, trying to not be so blunt, but just because he looks at you doesn't mean he likes you or wants your number. i think you are pushing too fast too soon. some might see this as coming off too strong

[Mr_twoface]

How can anyone determine if he likes you or not based on small talk and a few eye contact in the hallway? Ask him on a date (doesn’t have to be a fancy one with candlelight and dressing up) just a simple one to grab lunch, ice-cream or go for a walk. See where it goes.

[SphynxUK]

No problem with having a crush, but you shouldn’t get involved with a coworker. Not unless your comfy with everyone knowing every little detail, colleague jealousy and perceived favouritism, crossed boundaries and awkwardness or resentment when it’s over.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

He might like you a lot, or a little. He might intensely dislike you. He might be having weird sex dreams about you. He might have trouble remembering your name.

There's really no way of knowing. He might not even know himself how he feels about you.

There's really nothing you can do except see how things develop.

[Makeushiver]

Workplaces can be toxic with the opposite of sexual harassment these days. As long as you are not his direct superior and you've been subtle, just leave it. Don't be unfriendly but be neutral>open.

[DishLady]

SM exchange doesn’t necessarily mean immediate online contact. Some people take more time, esp when you’re already able to chat in person.

[LaurenM1997]

All you can do is get to know him don’t know much context of what’s been happening as you haven’t put much info

[OfMiceandMen]

Maybe he likes you but he is seeing someone right now.

[spartan55]

You never texted him either, so I guess you don't like him, right?

[Finchie40]

Workplace relationships aren’t good , you are best not to crush on him anymore

[Alex-Snow]

You may have to make the first move. It is ok to text the guy or ask him out after all. How old are you two?

[sheikalana]

Stop being childish and focus on doing your job and be professional.

[SotiCoto]

... What part of this is supposed to be a problem you allegedly need "help" with?

[MysticDevice]

As a general guideline I would avoid going after coworkers. Waaaaaaaay too complicated.

[MacDaddyRico]

Work relationships can be risky... I don't recommend it

[DreamLife7]

He DOESN'T like you. Get it? He-doesnt-like-you. You-were-rejected. Lol get it?

[jjj101010]

Maybe he doesn’t know u r interested. I am in the same position with a girl at work. Drop me a message, happy to chat it through

[Booklover_90]

You just met him. Give it time.

[In_Trance]

I think you're too old for this nonsense

[moneymagnet24]

You're over thinking...

[diversethought]

Smash.