He just told me is emotionally unavailable and slept with a few other people?

[Anonymous]

I have been off and on with him for a good while, and we reconnected where he was super different, so affectionate. And then some things happened that he got upset over that he did not talk to me about, and we have been fighting for the last two weeks where now we spoke a bit over text. He just admitted that after I was with him and after I left for my trip, he´s been sleeping with other people (he would hide so much while I was gone and after I came back) and I told him like I know you have been sleeping with other people. But then he opens up and speak to me about his mental health and that he is emotionally unavailable and love sex too much to be faithful, he also said that where we are is we are in a semi-relationship and even if we see each other casually we will catch feelings. And then he speaks to me further how long he has been working on his mental health and continues conversation, I just figured the conversation would die out as I was a bit stunned by him. But he tries to have a conversation flowing and tries to have that line open.

I'm just a bit confused where we go from here? and what he is wanting from me

[SteveSmith1985]

Yea, I can appreciate why you might be a bit confused. I think though, that he was saying he didn't want to catch feelings which would happen even if you two kept it casual. His mental health issues make him unable/unwilling to have even a "semi-relationship" with you for that reason.

So it depends on what kind of conversation you two had. It sounds like he was confiding in you as a friend/acquaintance (not romantic or sexual in intent. Unless I'm misunderstanding something).

I don't know what you meant by "tries to have a conversation flowing and tries to have that line open"

Do you mean he was trying to talk to you about... random shit? his struggles? Was he flirty? (It's the "line open" part that's tripping me up. Are you saying keeping that line open... romantically/sexually?

or

keeping that line open, as in "trying to keep a conversation going about normal things"

I think he just ended things. Unless your conversation afterwards gives you any better indication (was he talking to you like he was going to be seeing you again? Was he joking around and normal? was he just talking about his struggles with mental health?)

I am not quite sure here. I don't know if he wasn't/expects to be... friends or something? but It sounds like he is ending things romantically/sexually.

You really should ask him. Its a fair question.

[Asker]

I was just with him again now, and things just shiftet strange. He have started to ask me if what we have, am I doing it with someone else? And we are in a good place, and started to take the next step.
I don´t get why he´s asking me these things when he has been sleeping with other people.

[ohsheeT]

And you really believe this shit. Come on I'm sorry this is going to sound rude. Because it is that's a truth

You ask any guy on gag if they are seeing some one they go out of town 7 guys out of 10 if there had an Opportunity to sleep with somebody else. They're going to do it not because of Mental health problems not because they're addicted to sex because they're fucking dicks , they don't care

And then If they get cought they have An excuse of mental health or addiction and they keep trying to sell you over and over and over Too manipulate you even more Thinking you're going to buy it and they can still get in your pants.
You cannot seriously say that you really like this guy.
And that you would still want to be with him

When a guy does not care Of course he's going to be emotionally Unavailable

The only time he's going to be available is when there's nobody else to go out with and your the last straw and then a new Manipulation a new story.. your supposed to be smarter than this

[ohsheeT]

Maybe look at it as. Where do I go from here. Because this is about you now. And who you are. There are times when you give a guy an inch, and he will become bold and take 2 feet because he thinks he can.

This is when you have to make a choice and say. Um, excuse me, but I don't think so, Mr. Back up.

And if you can't say it, then do it for him to walk away if he is real. He will come get you and change.

If not, then there is no respect, and the relationship is meaningless

[PeachyPie93]

Any person who says they are "Emotionally Unavailable" is not worth seeing.. look how he tried to hide his behaviour. They just aren't that into you, I would know since I was in love with this kind of guy, and he loved to blame me for how he acted lol. Yet now he is being faithful and dating someone else. Leave him, he can't be honest and upfront so block him and get him out of your life so you can find someone who actually wants you.

[serious]

That just means he likes having sex with women but does not really want any serious relationships

[slatyb]

Where do you go from here? You stop wasting your time and find someone who is able to be the partner you want.

[In_Trance]

Move on