Have you guys ever felt like you are behind in life?

[MizzArtFreak89]

Have you felt like you’re way behind on life? I feel like my peers are getting married and having children while I’m here in my mid 30s, single, unlucky with dating and I’m just not the woman to have a relationship. My dad said any man that ends up with me will have a good woman. Well the thing is what if a man doesn’t accept my aspergers? I work, I am studying to be a teacher, graduated from college last year, independent and get myself places (take public transportation because I don’t drive) but I’m still working on myself and I’m not girlfriend material. I still live at home. What man wants that?
My former coworkers and friends are mothers. One just had two twin little boys. She has a little girl.
One of my other friends and her husband s expecting a baby girl this year. I mean I am so happy for them but I can’t help that I’m feeling….. jealous. I know it sounds bad but it’s true. I’m so jealous. I don’t think I’ll ever have that experience. I’ve only had one boyfriend in my life when I was about 21/22 years old. I’ve talked to different guys but didn’t work out. I mean I do have some childhood friends that don’t have kids but two of them I know are in relationships.

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Maybe a sign is telling me to just go after love but I feel like I have a wall surrounded in my heart. We went through a tragic death of our mother (stage 4 cancer, death was expected) last year and I need to get some grief counseling before I get myself to date again. People don’t understand I need time.

[HollyK21]

Comparison is the thief of joy. You don’t have to be on the same path as everyone else and maybe it just isn’t your time to meet the right guy. But until the time comes, focus on yourself and your betterment. I believe that everything happens as it’s supposed to, when it’s supposed to. Maybe you aren’t meant to be in a relationship right now and instead will meet the right guy once you’re all done with school and can focus fully on romance. Who knows, but it’s ok if it’s not on the same timeline as others. It isn’t supposed to be.

[SteveSmith1985]

Yea. I do know how you feel. Our situations haven't been the same. But they have left us in a similar place. I do know what you're talking about here. I think you should take things one-at-a-time. Take the time you need to grieve your mother's passing. I am sorry for your loss. Then you can take a look at the dating thing. Try not to stress yourself out about the relationship question; if you're not ready for dating right now. I know that's easier said than done. Hang in there.

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[ohsheeT]

Well I say take a deep breath. Don't be Joe's of anyone because Things are put in our life.
To teach us who we don't want to be or fir us to dream we can be and you need to see your self just like other believe me when I say we all have something we don't like about ourself. Andvwe let it hold us back don't do thatbto yourself This is just a moment in time and it will pass

[serious]

In my personal life, I have no regrets but in professional life yes I do think I am behind.

[Anonymous]

Not even close.

[jahaims]

Nah, I've been ahead.