Do you listen to warnings other people give you about someone you're thinking about dating or judge completely for yourself?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes I do. I listen but I don’t take it for 100% fact unless I witness it for myself. But if someone tells me some things about a girl then I kind of k ow what to look out for to see if those things are true. I don’t believe it 100% because that person may just not like said girl. For instance, this isn’t a dating situation but when I first started working about my job four years ago, people would tell me about a certain staff member. That she’s rude, disrespectful, talks to customers like garbage. So I just watched, come to find out sure enough she was what they said she was.
I also have to consider ok if it’s another dude telling me this maybe he was trying to be extremely controlling or something. Maybe he was treating her like garbage so she responded that way. So to him he seen her in a different light as opposed to a man who treated her well but then she was a devil. I don’t think it hurts to keep things in mind, but that shouldn’t be your be all end all decision maker based on what someone else told you. It’s actually hearsay till you experience it for yourself.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

This us a good question. Because when it happens our friends are just trying to save us heart ache. And we always say thank you but I don't need to hear this I will Decide on my own

Even though we have already thought about it and we already knew what the person was telling us to maybe be true.

But there's something about that person you like and we take that risk. It's 50/59 chance

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

I'd certainly take into account warnings from people I know well and trust and who know THAT person well.

I'd also make my own evaluation. I'd expect the combination of the two would yield accurate results.

trumpetplayerforlife · Accepted Answer

I take it into consideration but don't base my life off of it

Summeroflove · Answer

It’s a balancing act it depends on whose giving me advice. If someone’s legitimately trying to warn someone of someone verses someone whose jealous trying to sabotage someone. As well as people who are well meaning but assume the worst in literally everyone.

A lot of people see things but they go into denial because they don’t want to see it or face it. So it grows and gets worse as time goes on.

MrOracle · Answer

I make my own judgments, but I will definitely take people's opinion/experience into consideration as long as I respect them generally. Some people's opinions are of no value to me because their own values have been proven to be wanting.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Cute girl, ugly shadow. I have rarely listened to others' opinions about my chosen dating partners, but several times wished I had listened and considered their opinions.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

So far, warnings I heard rarely made sense, because people (including friends & family) instinctively transmit what they personally like, dislike, fear and wish into someone else's relationships. Unless I'd be very similar with one's giving those warnings, it can't produce great results. Though it tells me about what my friends & family fear, for themselves, lol

OneViewpoint · Answer

Oh I'm very careful when it comes to who I allow around me. It's why I pick specific places to hang out and where I know a bunch of people at least superficially. If a woman approaches me, I'll generally have some idea who they hang out with. I will definitely do my homework and solicit input on her. I'll weigh the input from several people along with my own experience with her before making my judgement.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's a bit of a balancing act, but yes, I do listen. I generally go by who their friends are, more than by my own interactions in the very beginning.

When someone has a reputation for being a certain way or their friends all act a certain way, it's almost always a reflection of their character. ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO CONFLICT RESOLUTION.

There are definitely exceptions to this rule, but why take a chance?

DrPepper12 · Answer

For dates I will listen to a person who knows her better or history.

For students I made it a point not to ask or be told about kids from last year's teachers. Tabula rasa.

They were usually wrong too. Kids just hated the ass wipe teachers.

red324 · Answer

I wish they told me the things that mattered. Like that I'm just another guy in her life that she's going to move on from after a couple months. No telling how many dudes that girl did that to before me. Then I have to find that out from an 8 year old after the fact 🙄

michalpl00 · Answer

Myself. Because other people fk up your relationships. My ex talked with her sister who messed it all up in 3 days. She left me and we planned to spend our first Christmas together. We already bought gives and shit. Messed up. Everyone has their opinions. But you need to trust yours.

BDRick · Answer

This isn't as much a yes/no answer as it may seem; Being, since I'm a man, first variable, and I like females, second variable, I do listen to others for the most part because of how I was raised, third variable, and how my genetics, fourth. It's a simple nature/nurture question as well as if you're fickle as most people are.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends who those people are. I have four sisters and a mother who are good people. And if they saw something to be concerned about in a woman I WAS dating they would say so to me. And thier words do carry weight. Because they would not do this lightly.

Renegade_Sailor · Answer

Women should never take girlfriends advice. I don't know how many times I've seen a woman tell another to leave her man, then she winds up dating him.

Your girlfriends will straight up gaslight you out of a good relationship.

glennos89 · Answer

I take their warnings serious but still I need to find out for myself if this is truly the case. I don't let others make decisions for me when it comes to dating

Nikki1989 · Answer

It depends on who is giving me that advice.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes, I listen to others. In fact, I expect them to save me against my wishes if my judgement isn’t good and I can’t trust anyone or know who’s wrong and who’s right

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I judgement mostly for myself. I do take into account what others may have to share … especially if the feedback is consistent. Character is important….

Gaylordslav · Answer

All women are truly possessed by Satan since men lust after them and they use it against them. Not just a figure of speech, they truly are she devils. Thats why use devil horn filters to suggest their naughty, sexual sin nature

alice55 · Answer

usually I don't, I like to create my own opinion myself

Fireguy17 · Answer

Usually find out for myself. It could be that 2 people just didn't get along but who knows we might.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Both. I keep the advice in mind, but I also know not everyone is perfect. Besides some people can come across differently to different people.

MrChinaski · Answer

All information is good information. You don't have to obey it.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Depends on if you have evidence to back your claim or not. I listen to proof, not rumors.

Jennz6 · Answer

It depends on what I have heard but I usually make up my own mind when it comes to dating 💃

exitseven · Answer

I make up my own mind. However , I have sometimes did my thinking with the little head.

Anonymous · Answer

I should have listened more carefully as I knew her friends, but I didn't understand. Lessons learned.

WonderingManII · Answer

I don't need too. I don't have girls in my life.

Anonymous · Answer

You're 36-45 years old. Are you that dense you can't identify red flags yourself?

BobbyLee789 · Answer

Both, some warnings I should have paid more attention to.

Zoi2000 · Answer

It's a little both for me unless it's more than one person.

Anonymous · Answer

I never had a date, so I don't really have to worry about it.

MasterKS · Answer

I listen but follow my own guts more than anything.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

What @trumpetplayerforlife said.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Depends who’s warning me

Eempriyanka · Answer

Idc either way 😏

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

Heusus · Answer

Nu bc i no best

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