How do you just be happy alone?

[Anonymous]

The advice people typically give on this site when asked for dating advice is "just be happy alone".

Is the implication that people who ask for dating advice, aren't happy alone?

Please indicate that you read the description.

[Simslover92]

"The advice people typically give on this site when asked for dating advice is "just be happy alone".

Is the implication that people who ask for dating advice, aren't happy alone?

Please indicate that you read the description."

Being happy alone is not an easy feat to achieve. You have to get very comfortable with yourself which not a lot of people are willing to admit that they don't like being alone or comfortable with themselves.

While it is great to be by yourself once you truly love yourself, it's not all what's it cracked up to be just like being in a relationship is not all its cracked up to be. You are always going to end up compromising on something.

For being alone, that's lack of companionship.

For being with someone, that's lack of solitude.

Ultimately you have to choose which one you can live with more. Being alone and no companionship or being with someone and hardly no solitude.

I think once you figure out which one you can do then you can go from there. If it's truly to be happy being alone, then you have to work at it. Practice self love and self care daily.

[Pearl222]

It’s not too difficult actually if you have a strong sense of self.
Yes, we all want companionship and love at the end of the day but happiness itself is not solely derived from that.
You can be happy if you have a good family, a few good friends who you talk to or hang out with regularly and travel to new places, good food to eat, a place to live and a job which is satisfying.
Besides you can always try out new hobbies or avenues to meet more people or indulge in something you’re passionate about like dance, yoga, baking, reading etc.
Lastly, unless you learn to be happy by yourself you won’t be happy with someone else either!

[Asker]

I appreciate your answer, since it's not hard, what does that say about people who haven't done it already? Is lack of happiness and relationships simply an effort deficit and a case of "pick yourself up by the bootstraps?"

I asked in the description to indicate that you read the description, you did not so I'd like to ask you read it.

[Pearl222]

Yes, I read the description and my bad for skipping the implication point, but I guess yes it does imply to an extent that people who ask for dating advice are not satisfied by themselves and are therefore asking for advice from strangers so they can find a mate and fulfill the void or unhappiness in their life.
For people who haven’t already achieved happiness by themselves but are in relationships, I would say it’s kind of like avoiding the inner work to give yourself that love and compassion and using someone else for external validation. It’s a form of searching for it externally when you can’t find it internally

[Asker]

I'm asking plainly, are people who ask for dating advice, lazy people?
do you judge people as not having done inner work if they're not in a relationship?

[Pearl222]

No, they are not lazy…but unsuccessful
No, I don’t judge them

[missindiana93]

By knowing you dont have stressful people in your life. Most men can be perfectly happy being single. No wife, no kids, always able to pay for things. Cause wives like to spend it all on themselves.

[Asker]

You didn't indicate reading the description, not sure you answered with full context.