How can I maintain happiness being alone for life?

[Inthecraphole]

I am 27 and never had a real girlfriend. I only want a woman who had never had her first love or a previous boyfriend, especially from her youth (college age or younger). Seeing that I may not have that, I am facing a life alone.

Being alone for life doesn't mean I have to be lonely, cynical, and depressed, but it is incredibly difficult not to be.

I want to be able to be happy despite never achieving my dream of having a girlfriend, wife, or family of my own. I may never experience sex or intimacy again, which is very stressful, especially because I crave sex a lot. I haven't touched a girl in over 7 years!!!

My fear is, how am I going to function once my parents are no longer around?

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All this is just sad to me

[Anonymous]

You’re your own problem, you could’ve had a girlfriend long ago if you weren’t so strict with your criteria and if you’re willing to go out there instead of constantly posting on here.

Maybe move to a different town to meet new people and gain independence. Or try one of those foreign dating sites. Most young girls in the US aren’t willing to get married super young especially to someone who is literally a decade older. They need to enjoy their youth and have fun, if you lock her down too early on then you might end up getting hurt when she ends up leaving you bc she’s too young to settle down and still needs to “experiment”

[Anonymous]

lower your standards. if you’re not open to that, then good luck.

[Inthecraphole]

My standards I have are really important and dear to me. I have my reasons that are legitimate to me as to why I have those standards. But I at least want to be happy.

[Opinion Owner]

find someone at a church or a traditional, religious gal. they’re the most likely to be of your standards. that’s the best advice i can give. most women of your age or near your age have already been on dates, relationships, made love, hooked up etc.
that’s your best choice.
either you do that or you will be stuck in a position of loneliness with your narrow standards of women of your age.

[Inthecraphole]

I found 2 devout Catholoc girls like that, but they both rejected me on the first date. One was 18, and the most recent was 17.

[Opinion Owner]

that’s why you find girls your age or a few years younger. not many want to date someone a decade older… regardless of shared interest and standards.

[Inthecraphole]

Well, how else am I going to find a woman that has never had her first love other than seeking younger women? I may end up alone for life, but I at least want to be close to family and have a shoulder to cry on one day when my parents are no longer around.

[Opinion Owner]

well you have your standards that are so unrealistic, that you seek women who are basically freshly 18 or are minors. big red flag. i understand your standards, i have my own, but you are 27. you should not be seeking women who are a decade younger. there are some women who have never had real love before and are virgins, but to search for someone who is a virgin and has never had their first love, AND is in your age range, is very rare.
at least lower them to where they’ve had at least one sexual partner or one romantic partner. it’s hypocritical to hold them up to such high unrealistic standards when you yourself have had one hookup previously.

[Inthecraphole]

I had sex only one time during a weekend fling with a girl I didn't know in another state. I never had an actual girlfriend. If I found a girl that maybe had one hookup with a stranger and no first love, then maybe.

[Anonymous]

"I want a unicorn."

You can't have a unicorn, they don't exist.

"Well I guess I'll just be alone for life instead of wanting something I could actually have!!!"

Idiot.

[Anonymous]

No, some people suffer by being alone and you sound like one of them. Engage with someone comparable to you and avoid self imposed cruelty.

[Inthecraphole]

What self imposed cruelty?

[Opinion Owner]

The normal thing to do is to love someone you can attain. i. e. In your league
By deviating from this, you are indirectly being cruel to yourself.

[Inthecraphole]

I just seek an average looking woman without a romantic past, meaning no previous first loves or boyfriends, especially from their youth.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, but are you average looking yourself? Take into account the mental gap between you and your peers as well as your age compared to these young flames.

[Wlkk001]

wake up from the day dream

[Inthecraphole]

What day dream?