Why don't I feel anything?

[Ice_knight]

Been talking to this girl and she's honestly amazing. Everything I could ever want and a bit more. We are always laughing, teasing, and flirting. There's so much that we have in common, not too much. It's just enough that we can easily have things to do together and outings to go to. I like her aaaaaa looooottt. Haven't known her for long, so I don't expect love. However, I still don't feel much. Like is this what it's like to not be overly infatuated. Just enjoying her and vibing? It's just a very strange feeling right now. It isn't bad. Like I said I really like her and I can't wait to see her again. It's just I've never felt this sort of way before and I don't know how to even feel about that. It's like is there something wrong with me? Lol. I would love to build something with her. I suppose those feelings will grow in time? I don't know. I do know I want to be with her.

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Figured out I've been very out of tune with myself and emotions. Plus I think I just needed some time. Not sure why some of you thought I didn't know what I wanted. I literally stated I wanted to be with her in the very last sentence. This was about my emotions and why I didn't really feel things. Thanks to those who pointed out that I clearly did have feelings for her. It helped me stop and self reflect on things.

[FreyaRed]

When you don't feel anything you won't ask yourself such silly questions like "why?"
It is like it is and your job is to play the perfect partner as you would really love her. Focus on her needs, desires and fulfill them and stop asking yourself "why?". Why not?

[Ice_knight]

That's why I said maybe it's something that'll come in time. Not that I don't have feelings for her, I do. Just maybe I am too worried about it and overthinking it a bit.

[Abbycado]

This makes absolutely no sense. You pretty much indicate you don’t have feelings for her “I suppose those feelings will grow in time”

but then you talk about how much you like her aaaaaaalooottt. How do you like someone so much but feel nothing?

@EmmaMary? 🤔

[Ice_knight]

That's what I am saying and why I am very confused. It's an extremely weird disconnect for me. I guess I do have feelings for her, but it isn't over the top crazy. My feelings for her reside in the I like her a lot and want to spend time with her. However, I don't feel a strong sense of anything.

[andreasderjuengere]

You do feel something.

Otherwise, you'd not have posted this :)

It's just that some of ''us'' have some ballast on our backs that makes us doing (and feeling) things a little different from mainstream ideas.

[Ice_knight]

It's refreshing and a bit confusing at the same time tbh. It's different from what I have ever experienced with a person.

[andreasderjuengere]

No one can be awesome, when they only act average.
Make the best from it :)

[Alex-Snow]

There is nothing wrong with you. You sound like a normal guy. Have u asked her out yet?

[Ice_knight]

Absolutely, we actually made things official. I guess that's honestly why it has been bothering me. It just doesn't feel like the other girls I have dated, been with or liked. I mean not really bothering me. I was just a bit confused.

[EmmaMary]

Fucking Hell...28 years of age and can't make your mind up? I suggest you Grow Up, sit down quietly alone and ask yourself precisely what you do want in life. smh

[Ice_knight]

How is this not making my mind up? I am with her and I am going to continue to be with her because I want to build something with her. My question is about how I feel. With women in the past it was an over the top strong feeling. With her, it's small and quiet. Not bad and not lacking. It's comfortable and easy.

[Twalli]

Just hang out as friends. It's not a crime to just be friends.

[Jeff51]

Why ask us. Just do it.

[Ice_knight]

Just do what? I am with her currently. We are a thing.