Why are short men still being rejected for their height?

Question

It's the same thing, over and over, the problem doesn't seem to improve, it's only getting worse. Short men are still being overwhelmingly rejected, and while there are some women that might not care about it, there are still more short men than there are women willing to look past their height. I don't know where this is going to go, but it looks like short men will only continue to get more and more excluded as the sexual marketplace becomes more free and open.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Girls and women nowadays are so hard-headed and stubborn. The argument women will make is that, "Oh, will you go out with a fat girl? No. So then, guys have a standard, and so do females, we don't want short guys". To the girls & women reading this let me break it down for you. You can't control height, but you can control weight. Sure, parents might be averaged sized and have tall kids or the parents can be tall and have average sized kids. Michael Jordan is 6 ft 6, his dad was like 5'9-5'8, MJ's brother was 5'8 and his mom was like 5'6. MJ said he did stretches, he ran, he played sports, he ate healthy growing up, genes matter but sometimes they don't. Another thing I will mention it's easier to lose weight then it is to gain height, you can't grow more once you reach a certain age. If females are going to knit pick a guy's height, then why is it justified that a female can get social media famous by wearing tight clothes, inserting some fake boobs and getting lip injections for attention. Eventually, women and their demands and absurd choices will dry up. I see a lot of women dying alone one day with their dog Roofus or their cat Whiskers because some charming, handsome 5ft8 guy is such an ick to them. Dating apps cause more stress and rips a dude's self esteem. There will be a shift in society one day where these ridiculous demands won't be so emphasized. For women and girls to have those absurd demands while her own father is like 5'6 or something like come on ladies, grow up. Another thing I've realized is a lot of girls and women have this -- if he's taller he's a protector, so are women saying no breakups or divorces happened by her being with a taller guy? Lol what rubbish.

Women and girls can enhance their beauty, stay at 5'3 and receive a boat load of attention from dudes, and social media and dating apps only inflates her ego which will essentially destroy her because ego eventually destroys the soul. This isn't a rant that women and girls can't have choices but I'm a guy in my 30s, women and girls are far more judgmental then guys. Once guys leave High School, his network and friends also goes down (unless he's rich and famous) for the most part, many guys, including myself are just average dudes--going to work, going to school, paying the bills, work out alone, and do things alone, may be kinda depressing but it's just the truth.

I say this because guys rarely talk to each other about other girls. The older the guy gets the more he wants to keep his life private. Girls and women on the other hand doesn't matter -- teens, 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s... etc will yap and dissect everything about a guy, even in a rude way and that's what I find pathetic about how females conduct themselves in society today. Let me also add, i've met a lot of girls and women who come from broken homes, abusive fathers, absent fathers and these females rebel, they act out, and in their mind they shape this thing of PRINCE CHARMING - 6 ft+, incredibly handsome, muscular, manly, etc. but yet still dealing with the pain in her heart of what her father did to her. So in a female's mind, not all, but I've met a lot who think this way. A taller guy = protection and maybe inside her mind, her dad broke her heart so she wants to find someone who really "protect" her, but like I said, to say a breakup or divorce has never occurred in human history where a girl or woman was with a taller man or taller guy does not always work out 100% of the time. Then it comes down to this -- who does a female choose a handsome 5'7-5'9 guy who's loyal and caring or does she choose the tall guy who also breaks her heart... Tie a string of broken hearts through her own choices of guys she's chooses in life and her father breaking her heart and she will eventually hate all guys... Guys, welcome to the 21st century of the modern woman, the modern girl in 2025.

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

So, are you sure your being short is the reason for rejections you've experienced? Perhaps you do know that. But I would imagine, that in most cases, the girl didn't say "no, because you're too short".

Guys who aren't short get rejected too. For a million other possible reasons. It seems to me, that some short guys get-in-their own head about it. They start to assume girls wil reject them for their height, and either don't bother trying, or attribute any and all rejection to them being short. (which is not the case).

I do not think that being short will be as much of a barrier as you seem to believe. I do, however, think that your viewing things through this lens, can be actively harmful to your prospects. It makes you discouraged before you even shoot your shot. It's like the opposite of a pep-talk... but all the time. It's not going to let you be at your best, if you convince yourself nobody would want you because you're short.

Texasgal95 · Accepted Answer

I don’t know why, but I love my man. We’re actually surprisingly the same height, which means no having to destroy our neck up or down for kissing rat I level I’m never gonna reject somebody or because of their height. That’s something you can’t control. I try to look more at your character in your heart before I really know of course I wanna be attracted to you which I am with my current boyfriendbut looks aren’t solely the thing you should determine because just cause he looks good, but if he has a ugly heart, he better leave

Реrverted_Сreeр · Accepted Answer

Who cares?

coachTanthony · Answer

because they are short... many women don't like short men. I am short but hasn't really hindered me in any way but I do see many guys who just give up and blame it on there height instead of being the best version of themselves they can be.

Summeroflove · Answer

All women are different if someone rejects you over that she was never worth your time to begin with. I’m about 5’11 and plenty of women as tall or taller have shown interest.

hahahmm · Answer

Or maybe, she rejects him for reasons that have nothing to do with height but height is the easiest thing to put into words that people won't try and force her to explain.

But at the end of the day both men and women have a right to preferences. And realize that you could be the hottest looking man on earth and you would not be able to get every woman you want. Every type as far as looks, sure. But as far as each individual or personality type: nope. So when a guy focuses on his height it is easy for him to think that this is the reason... it doesn't require him to improve anything about himself OR to change the type of women he looks for but I have seen a lot of short guys in my life who got (hot) women and married the same. So obviously it doesn't really keep a guy from getting women.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't have that problem, instead I have the problem that most women my age think i'm jailbait. Once they realize I'm an adult though they usually 180 their interest.

I don't askout strangers though, and with female friends or strange women its always her that asks first because I need 3 years of friendship first to know if I'm even interested, most of which i reject because of them not being a good match.

The ones that were taller than me never cared about my height.
I think in part thats because I have a "baby face".
Most women like the "boyband" shorty look but not the "danny devito" shorty look.

RingOfFire · Answer

It's not up to women to say that they are attracted to something that they are not. It's up to you to adjust your own expectations so that it doesn't make you miserable.

The fact is that there are plenty of short men who have found relationships. So it isn't a death sentence to romance.

It might be that you are so paranoid about it that it is your insecurity that is the barrier, not your height. Most people don't find insecurity, self consciousness and lack of confidence attractive, especially women.

Whatever it is, your best bet is to figure out what YOU need to change in your attitude and approach because the only other choice is to be perpetually miserable. The world is not going to change to fit your expectations. That's your job.

Staximus · Answer

People say oh it's not an issue it must be something else you're doing but that's bullshit. I said this on here plenty of times-I have a bunch of friends that are that are tall. A few of them are six and a half feet tall. When we used to go out to the bars I looked like the coach of a fucking basketball team. I'm 5'7", surrounded by guys who were six and a half feet tall. I was basically invisible to the girls because they were too busy gawking at my tall friends. When I went out without the tall guys, girls would actually talk to me.

Miristheiss · Answer

Dating apps.

They set their preference to these arbitrary settings like 6 foot and up as if a 5'10" or 5'11" guy is short and they never even meet these guys and possibly miss out on a great match.

The guys should get to screen based on weight and hip to waist ratio. Only dating women under 130 pounds with a.7 hip to waist ratio.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

I actually know plenty of guys who are short who have no problem with finding girls especially attractive ones. I think it's more of a confidence thing that short men struggle with. You gotta own what God gave you and even make light of it sometimes. If you have a great personality and can make a girl laugh that's 70% of the work done

NoDecision · Answer

I have no idea. I saw a short guy at Walmart yesterday blocking the aisle so I politely asked, "Hey Rumpelstiltskin can you either move it or go back to riding on the rocking horse?"

NicholasRedone · Answer

The same way I guess men desire a woman who's got a gorgeous face and a gorgeous figure personality to match all three lol - 🤣 😉 fat guys, short guys, ugly guys, what can anyone say, except smile and be happy 😊😁"it's always sunny somewhere" ☀️🌞

beenherebefore · Answer

I think that if you are a short men then you need to put some effort in other areas of your life like your financial stability, your physique, the way you dress, your confidence etc. The moment you have other things right in your life your height will no longer be that big of a deal. You need to have more to offer than a tall Man basically.

Jove79 · Answer

I’m 5’6 and my height has never bothered me, and I’ve never had any problems with getting dates or problems with girls not liking me.

Only until recent years I noticed more and more guys didn’t like their height.. and felt insecure about it, which is surprising because It absolutely never crossed my mind.

I think guys should ignore it and build rock solid confidence.. then they won’t even care about their height

msc545 · Answer

Most women would rather be alone than be with a man that they don't find physically attractive in all ways and also a man who can't provide for them which is code for paying for all their stuff. The only way you can get her around the prejudice against height is to become extremely Rich.

SamWinchester058 · Answer

I'm 5'5" and I've never had a problem with women. I think most manlets like me need to work on their body, ability to talk to women, humor, and purpose (work). Don't develop little man syndrome by focusing on your height. Focus on what you can control and make those the best they can be. And if the women you are seaking don't find you attractive then they aren't for you. Don't be offended by this, just accept it and move on. The only way out is through, my friend.

Shanom12309 · Answer

It's just a preference, but complaining about it/making it your whole personality doesn't help. There are tall guys that get rejected, there are short men that are happily married. Just take control of what you can, and don't take rejection so seriously. A change in perspective might help if you look at dating/relationships as such, instead of it being a "sexual marketplace"

ChristianMaeTorres · Answer

They aren't. That's a stereotype. I feel that that idea is outdated. Newer generations don't really have those same ideas.

Anonymous · Answer

Taller people have the ability to hold more muscle mass because their bodies are bigger. I think this may be a reason why a lot of women prefer the taller man is because they want to feel protected.

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

Women are vain. They are vain about themselves and they are vain about men.

Anonymous · Answer

I dunno, but your constant posting and whining about it night be seen as a bit of turn off for most women. Just a thought. 🤷‍♂️

OneViewpoint · Answer

Still? Did you expect cultural preferences to change overnight. They haven't. Get over it.

Anonymous · Answer

Still? Why do you think it would change? It's like asking why unattractive women are still being rejected. The answer is the same to both questions.

Fireguy17 · Answer

probably for the same reason women with small boobs are rejected. They just do not seem as desirerable than someone who is taller

Anonymous · Answer

It's up to each individual girl who she chooses and for what reasons. Nothing will ever change that.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe come on to GaG for the 618th time and complain. If you get to 1,000 it'll all magically change.

genericname85 · Answer

cause no matter how much the sjws lie, men like big tits slender girls and women like big dick tall guys. it is what it is. it's not personal.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

A learned sense of romance. A shorter guy may have better head game and an above average cock, but she might not wear heels going out dancing together, and he may not literally sweep her off her feet

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

KShort men are usually like the devil, I had a short boyfriend before and I had this problem

Reem12345reem · Answer

not true , many girls would date short guys , it's about personality

WonderingManII · Answer

I think women are growing taller these days.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they carry undesirable genetics, see back in the day the bulk of the make population worked in factories, mines or went to war so many were killed leading to a balanced supply

Nikki1989 · Answer

At least you gave me a chuckle with the sexual marketplace bollocks.

Anonymous · Answer

Women nowadays have rigid checklists. All they care about is their rigid checklist then forming genuine deep emotional connections. Women with rigid checklists mostly stay single with disappointments

Dongie · Answer

What do you expect? Women were a WHOLE lot nicer two generations ago and they played that as well.

LiamJHayden · Answer

My friend is 5'4 and he does quite well. Not rich, not striking, but he is funny.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I'm 5'81/2" and have never been rejected for being short.

Anonymous · Answer

why are older women, rejected for their age?

Anonymous · Answer

I guess it's genetics, because they subconsciously think that it's better to have kids with a tall man.

foxsquirrell · Answer

Its the same problem. Why should it be any different today then it was yesterday?

Twalli · Answer

I got a girlfriend and we're not letting each other go

Jeff51 · Answer

I don't know. I'm 6ft. Not rejected by height anyways.

Godihateyou · Answer

They aren't. Gay men are being rejected for being gay.

Panthero80 · Answer

The problem is you view it as a "marketplace." Find women who don't play games.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Because hypocrisy

AnonAndrew · Answer

Because they're considered less attractive.

oldpigg · Answer

Short women disgust me.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Men are still being rejected, Full stop.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

the same way why men dont want ugly women

HM1189 · Answer

I'm 1m77cm / 5'9 tall. Am I tall enough?

Anonymous · Answer

Limb lengthening surgery.

Anonymous · Answer

Attitude

In_Trance · Answer

Yeah

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