How to get over fear of approaching girls?

[Anonymous]

I just dont like approaching as a complete stranger. I never know what to say and i feel like i am bothering the girl and feel uncomfortable. What helps you?

[Chazmatazz269]

First, be honest about the nature of your “fear”. Take a fear of heights for example. Most people think they’re afraid of falling. However, it’s not the fall that messes you up. It’s the sudden impact at the end.
Walking up to a strange woman and talking to her doesn’t hurt one bit. It’s her response that can be painful.
There are two things to remember. One, you have to believe that the outcome is in your favor. You’re a good guy with a lot to offer and it’s her loss if she doesn’t want to at least get to know you better. Two, even if she rejects you outright, it doesn’t say ANYTHING about you. It’s all about her. She rejected you on first impression. She knows nothing about you and therefore didn’t make an informed decision, because she quite simply couldn’t have. It’s going to happen. Appearance is the primary factor in selecting a mate among nearly all vertebrates. Humans are no exception. That just means you’re not the most physically attractive option, or she already has her mind set on someone else. Either way, be real with yourself about how you look compared to other dudes in your dating market, and NEVER take rejection of a cold approach personally.
I never cold approached. I know i’m not a good looking man and i always valued much more than looks in a woman. If she hadn’t impressed me with her personality, intelligence or sense of humor, she never had a shot. So i didn’t care if i didn’t have one either! Ell oh ell!

[Anonymous]

By not giving a 💩. Once you accept none of them like you and stop giving a 💩 about what they think of you, then you're ready.

What helps me? I ridicule them unmercifully. Women are kind of dumb. If you do it with a smile on your face they're think you're flirting with them.

Try this go up to your target woman and say. "Are you looking for a handsome man with an 8 inch 🍆 that will tend to your every need, emotionally and sexually.😆 And when she looks at you in disgust and inevitably says no. Then say back to her (whew) Thank God! Hi, my name is (your name). If she hasn't heard this before then it should elicit a laugh. And now you've successfully broken the ice.

[Anonymous]

Join large groups with a common purpose where you'll be working with a lot of girls for extended periods of time.

This is what school's for, you are in large groups with lots of girls. You're supposed to learn how to communicate with each other during those years.

If you can't do that, you're going to have to do it now, and find those groups on your own.

[Stevepro68]

Good question. I found that my career inspired starting difficult conversations with strangers and then a lot of public speaking engagements. Made me singularly immune to most rejection.. my best advice get used to having conversations with strangers that has nothing to do with romantic interest. If they like you, even if they don't have interest in you. It will be less traumatic and you will get better at it with every failure. Like all games it's about practice.