As a girlfriend, should you let your boyfriend kiss you in first date?

[Anonymous]

[Genie23]

How's he your boyfriend if you're going out for the first time? He isn't. I don't think you should feel obligated to kiss him or let you kiss if you haven't reached the stage where you feel comfortable and trust enough to take the next step. It's okay to gently let him know that you're not ready yet.

[TheSpaceGnome]

"How's he your boyfriend if you're going out for the first time? He isn't."

As a guy who would be a boyfriend doing just that, I take issue with that kind of claim.
If I'm going on a date for the first time with a woman, its because she just became my girlfriend recently.

Dates are not for getting to know someone, they are a treat for existing couples to do something fun together outside of the home.
The getting to know eachother part is the 3 years of hanging out everyday as friends prior to the first date/being a couple.

[Genie23]

Getting to know someone as a friend is very different than getting to know someone as a prospective partner, so when a guy ask a girl out. It is a date and they're in the process of getting to know each other more before they commit. I'd say he's my boyfriend only if he confesses he really likes me a lot and I reciprocate too.

Until then he'd be just the guy I'm interested in and he's interested in me too and we are getting to know each other to see if we are compatible.

Going out after making it official is also known as a date, yes. But she clearly said she's going out the first time with him and she's young. So, they're clearly in dating phase, not in a relationship phase yet.

[TheSpaceGnome]

"Getting to know someone as a friend is very different than getting to know someone as a prospective partner"

No it isn't, when it comes to friends, they are like family, I know every secret, every preference, every pet peeve, evety personality trait, every hobby and life/career/home goal and what they want in a partner. I even know all this about the male friends I've had.

[TheSpaceGnome]

In fact I learn all of that rather quickly, usually within a few months. The 3 years is just so I can confirm none of it is lies, as most people cannot hide secrets that long without me figuring it out.

Going on dates is far too limited a timespan to prove or disprove anything your date says as true or false, so using it to determine if they are right for you is crazy.

[Genie23]

It is different. I have had bunch of guys friends. I dated few. It was completely different experience having them as friends versus dating them before getting into relationship.

Let's just agree to disagree and leave it at that as I'm exhausted and don't have energy to debate. I am going to sleep soon. You have a good day

[TheSpaceGnome]

Its not different, because getting to know someone as a prospective partner requires being best friends, the relationship is doomed to fail otherwise. But ok.

[Genie23]

And you think I wasn't close friends with the guys I dated? Please. You're starting to bug me now. Stop taking offensive everytime someone has a different way of looking at things and different opinion than you. Honestly, all I cared about was giving a advice to young girl. I am exhausted, quit commenting. It's irritating.

[ohsheeT]

That's going to be your choice Always remember you are the boss of your body and yourself.
And and I hope it doesn't go.
It's far, but 1 day of it does no condom. No sex you have to always remember that

[Summeroflove]

At some point someone has to kiss first… so

[RavVid]

Yes. Just don't let him stick his tongue in though.

If you are a girlfriend though, I think you can be quite confident that what you are doing is working and I would have thought you'd already kissed.

[slatyb]

Do what you feel. If you want to kiss him, go ahead. If you want to have sex, go ahead. A man who judges you for doing that is not a man you want.

[CountryWanderer]

That's entirely up to you

[jahaims]

He is your boyfriend and it's your first date?

[hello4433]

Only if you are comfortable

[In_Trance]

If the chemistry is there why wouldn't you?

[Anonymous]

It's your personal choice.

[Anonymous]

It's up to you

[Pterodon]

If you liked him yes