Out of curiosity, should a person kiss on the first date? Why or why not?

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VinnyMac · Accepted Answer

I've been with my Fiancèe for close to 9 years and our first kiss was before we began dating 💋. Some connections form quickly and you may know someone for only a short period of time without dating them when you share your first kiss.

When you're meeting someone for the first time on a date perhaps navigating what you should or shouldn't do is going to be differerent. If your chemistry is off the charts and you're both super and attracted to one another then you may take things further than a kiss and go all in. If one or both of you are really nervous or shy taking things slower is more than likely the best course of action. Another option is to simply ask. Whereas others simply want you to be spontaneous, take initiative and go for it.

I think every situation is a little different. Age is a contributing factor too. A couple that's younger may not have ever dated and are still navigating what makes them most comfortable.

Beliefs are huge to for different people. Some are much more conservative and some religions have very set ideas of what they deam okay and what they don't. If you don't know the other person's beliefs or values they may try to set rules or boundaries they insist on abiding by with zero room for compromise. A person doss not change unless they decide thar they want to.

I've heard of couples not even kissing till they get married, because it could be viewed as a form of lust thst may lead them to a more physical or intimate relationship. I even read about a Christian mindset that does away with dating and is more like a promise to the other person. The idea of not dating makes way for another and that is that the relationship you've chosen is going to be the one that leads you to marriage.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

Absolutely not! It's only the first date! Smh. You just MET them! 😂

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

For me, the relationship doesn’t begin on the first date, I will spend at least 3 months flirting and learning about each other before meeting at a coffee shop or buffet for a friendly hang out so if it’s been more than 4 months of flirting before the first date and I view him as an exceptionally kind person, I don’t mind kissing on the first date, but nothing more than that.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

I voted maybe/depends because it really depends on how it goes and their level of comfort or how fast they want to go.

I personally wouldn't. The farthest I went on the first date was a hug. First dates are like casual job interviews to me lol, I don’t want to rush things in the first place. I would at least kiss on the second if things went well.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It really depends on the situation.

its definitely not something that should be expected, if it happens it happens.

Also it may just be a chaste kiss.

It sort of goes hand in hand with hugs.

both are where the other person enters personal space.

Humans have an invisible boundary around us, where we get uncomfortable with anyone entering that space.

On a date if both get on well and are breaking that space, then a kiss is more likely as that boundary has already been broken.

obviously if you understand this, then you can use that space as part of interactions during the date..

HighlyVolatile · Answer

I would actually find it strange not to kiss on the first date (I would think the date went poorly if both people don't want to kiss each other by the end). However, I think maybe that's because here in Japan, we typically don't date complete strangers. We date our friends mostly with whom we already know quite well from hanging out repeatedly together.

If it's a complete stranger we're dating, then I could see far more reasons to take far more time before getting intimate in any way. From my standpoint though, that seems to be bypassing the whole friendship process.

CountryWanderer · Answer

I wouldn't say that they should or shouldn't. It's a question of personal boundaries and how they feel about each other. And a question of what a kiss means to each of them. I believe dates are the first step of ascertaining if someone is a potential marriage partner. I personally wasn't comfortable kissing until I knew I loved her. Other people might find a kiss a simple gesture of affection and not mind a kiss after the first date. It's probably best to not make out, though. I'd say that level of intimacy should be reserved at least the couple is an actual couple, if not until later.

Explorer91 · Answer

I used to. Now I don’t anymore. Most first dates don’t lead anywhere, so you just end up kissing a guy and never see him again. And sure if it’s what you want. But normally at end of a first date I ended up kissing a guy because he wanted to kiss me. But now I sort of have it like. Well nah. Not into soberly kissing boys anymore, I have to have some feelings there now. And feelings take time.

Prezzi3 · Answer

It is all up to the two individuals. Do what feels right in the moment. I personally haven’t felt such a strong connection on any of my first dates where I felt the need to kiss the person, but if I did feel like that in the future on a first date, I would kiss them.

Gigi2019 · Answer

Because you are putting your health at risk. Kissing strangers can win you:
Gingivitis (gum disease), Epstein-Barr virus, HIV, HPV (oral warts), Herpes (cold sores), Hepatitis A, B, C, and G, Zika, Ebola, Mumps, Measles, Rabies, ETC. Get to know the person really well before swapping bodily fluids with them.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I voted YES but I should have picked Maybe because it really depends on your date. Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there (yet), kissing could be inappropriate.

But if there's a spark between you and your date then I'm definitely FOR kissing on the first date. Deep kiss even making out if the date was really good...

Soremain · Answer

You shouldn't plan it. Kiss whenever it feels the most natural thing to do. Don't force it on any date. If it happens on a 1st or 5th date, doesn't matter.

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone is different , but personally... No! Even if you are dating after being friends for a while and are comfortable being with each other. Think after 2 or 3 dates is more understandable or after you make it official and are actually in a relationship and not "testing the waters" dating. After the first date a close/tight hug is more reasonable.

I just had my first date and I would have given her a hug but she broke her foot and I wanted to have a nice, tight, close hug to end the date but if I did I would of most likely kicked her foot and she would have remembered the date leaving in pain (something I didn't want).

musicbrain5 · Answer

Nobody should feel forced to kiss on the first date, at all, especially if you barely know them at all.

OpenClose · Answer

I mean if you're feeling it, you're feeling it. But a first-date kiss has been the norm if I'm dating a girl I'm already friends with. If the date was our first outing together, then things probably aren't there yet.

MarkRet · Answer

It depends on whether the magic is there or not. If it’s there, then go for it. When I was on my first date with my wife, we kissed, and on the second date, we went all the way cause we both wanted each other

msc545 · Answer

Maybe, but be aware that if you do this it is probably more from a hormone response on your part than from any actual affection for a person you barely know. When that chemical response recedes, and it will some weeks later, you are going to feel empty and miserable.

It is better to wait until you really know a person before you become physically intimate with them in order to avoid infatuation and disappointment.

tommyvegas7618 · Answer

Sometimes it just feels right and when it does, hell yes. Sometimes it doesn't yet, so then see about a second date. I do feel kissing should happen pretty soon in the first 3 dates or it's probably not going anywhere.

Massageman · Answer

My younger daughter and her husband did not kiss on the lips until after they were married. They wanted to make sure that their commitment was based on true love and not lust or sex.

Leoxen · Answer

It depends, but in my opinion, no. If you're looking for a hookup, to have fun time with someone who you're not interested in as a potential partner, then sure, go ahead and beyond kissing if you both agree.

But on the other hand, if you just met a girl/guy and you would like to get to know them and see how far you can get, then no. A hug is ideal for the first date, kissing should happen after the 2nd or 3rd date.

Seizure · Answer

I would feel awkward and especially anxious to try and kiss someone whom I am just starting to build a foundation on.

It would be only the first time we met and you can imagine how similar (not identical) it would be to kiss any stranger standing beside you on the bus or roadside in public.

Anonymous · Answer

I think a kiss on the first date is pretty innocent so long as you aren’t full fledged making out. And I think if you give a kiss and you feel disgusted afterwards it’s a good indicator to not date them past that point. But if you liked it you know you have some chemistry

AviatorTom · Answer

If the date went well, and there's going to be a second date, a good-bye kiss is a good thing. It can be a peck on the cheek or very passionate, depends on the situation.

DeeToPlay · Answer

To kiss or not to kiss... that's completely dependent upon the development or lack thereof during the date. There's nothing wrong with it either way as far as I'm concerned so yes enjoy your kiss and relax.

Bubbles16 · Answer

On a first date you're just getting to know that person so I don't think its a good idea to kiss on the first date

HighValue · Answer

I need emotional attachment first, so unless I have talked to her for a while online first and discussed important stuff that caused me to like her, I wouldn't want to kiss her so quickly.

PhenomenalQueen · Answer

It depends on YOU, everyone is going to have their opinions.. It generally boils down to you and if you’re comfortable.

Nagahime · Answer

No, because you're meeting the person for the first time and in my opinion just feels like you're rushing into things before really getting to know the person.

WalkingInTheRain7 · Answer

I mean, it really depends on the situation. I'd say in most cases I'd lean towards not kissing on the first date, but, it really depends.

thepsychologystudent · Answer

It is not a must for me but if it feels right I will definitely go for that kiss. And if I want to and I'm not sure about how the other person feels I will ask if I can kiss them.

Serenitykayyy · Answer

no, just a hug and maybe a kiss on the cheek depending on how comfortable I am and if the date is going good.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

If hearts are on fire kiss away even if it is the first date. On the other hand if you have the collywobbles maybe wait until a later time or date.

jshm2 · Answer

I suppose it's how you would measure if the date went well or not. Though ideally sex on the first date would be a certain flawless victory.

OddBeMe · Answer

Same for youngsters making out a party. If you’re lucid and can make a good decision go with what you feel.

They still call it make out parties? Funny that it lasted for about an hour then we just drank and watched tv. :)

petitedollbabee · Answer

That’s up to the individuals. I personally don’t but I do on the second date if I really like them.

Ellie-V · Answer

Not a wise decision, people would do well to stop sharing their intimacy so freely

IveGotNoName · Answer

Depends. Have you just met? Then no. Have you been friends prior and known each other for a good while? Then yes.

Daniela1982 · Answer

No, because these days it usually leads to first date sex and 9 month pregnancies.

Sour-rose · Answer

Oh god no, you don't know where they put that mouth.

TyLeeAndPink · Answer

I think it depends on the intensity and duration of the kiss. A quick peck is okay, but not a full-out makeout session.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Depends on what you are looking for and how big of a dealbreaker a bad kisser would be.

RawIronhide · Answer

Sure, I'd like to. Not sex on the first ever but maybe a smooch if things go well.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

B. I suppose. It really depends on how things go. For me the ideal first is just going on a walk, talking and getting to know each other. Things go well, Hey lets grab a bite or go back to your place.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If it feels right for both parties then sure why not, but there's no pressure to

Ninania · Answer

If both want to kiss, sure. It's not something that should be neither expected nor held back.

DCooper · Answer

If at least that much doesn't happen, why would either person want there to be a second date?

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

I say yes. But it also depends if both feel a real connection and really see an interest in each other on the first date.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Depends on how long and how you know this person. If she's basically a stranger, I'm not putting my lips on her

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Depends. I’ve had sex with a guy on a first date oops… no but seriously you do what you want if you both are perfectly fine with it.

Anonymous · Answer

If it’s natural and consensual, why not? There shouldn’t be rules for what happens on which date. People should just be emotionally honest and genuine with each other.

marish01 · Answer

I would act in a way he would think it is too early to even hold my hand. I've never been on a date by the way.

SuccessfulHornDog · Answer

Maybe, but what if you decide that the other person is not what you are looking for. should they still kiss?

chulo1992 · Answer

Time is too short, best thing to do ESPECIALLY if the vibe and connection and chemistry is undeniable... IT IS IMPERATIVE!!!

888theGreat · Answer

It was kissing she was concerned about now its texting. If he doesn't text back after 10 seconds , no second date.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I think it's too soon. I would like to know a person more before getting intimate.

RebeccaSJ · Answer

I slept with one guy on the first date. He's my hubby.

Darine123 · Answer

Depends, if u feel great w each other so that’s not that bad to kiss on the first date

McKellar · Answer

The best response I can give in relations to this is if the person (most likely the girl) is comfortable with kissing on the 1st date or not.

IsoUser · Answer

It all depends on the girl and how emotional and physical the kiss not to mention where the kiss was given lol

Anonymous · Answer

For me it's a no as to me i feel it would be awkward as youve only started to get to know each other. And well with my anxiety issues it would be very difficult for me to even think of trying to kiss on a first date.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn’t. You don’t really know the person that well yet and there is a big chance you won’t see them again. Unless you were looking for a kiss only

dudeinohio · Answer

I believe it is tradition to kiss on the first date. I've always kissed on the first date.

HotelWhiskey27 · Answer

I have I see no issue with it a kiss can tell a lot

Anonymous · Answer

If you're both comfortable, it's fine. There's no "should".

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