Should you always go for a first kiss on a first date?

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Punkbuster107 · Accepted Answer

I polled people on G@G about this a few years back. It was really insightful, and I applied the advice on my first date with my wife to good success.

The question about what romantic gesture you would want to end the ideal first date with, assuming it went perfectly.

I won’t recap in full, but I got quite a few responses (my best poll on G@G) and women stated their ideals were:

38% for a hug, 27% for a kiss on the cheek, 26% for a kiss. I was impressed that a make out session and having sex on the first date each had less than 4% votes.

The way I internalized this advice was that if a first date went really great, like, as good as I could hope for, I would choose to end it with a kiss on the cheek. I figured it had a good chance of seeming perfect to about 1/3 of girls, while the remaining 2/3 would have expected either a downgrade to a hug or an upgrade to a full kiss, but would at least be satisfied that I was only one standard deviation away from their expectation in either direction. I might seem a little extra cautions/respectful if they were expecting a full kiss, or I might seem just a tiny bit extra confident if they had expected a hug, but not enough to be off-putting. Everyone wins.

My first date with my wife ended great, and to this day she reminds me how kissing her on the cheek as went our separate ways was the perfect ending to a perfect first date. It kind of sealed the deal that we would both remain infatuated with each other for the coming years.

You can always consider a straight up kiss on consecutive dates. I totes recommend the cheek kiss though, you cannot go wrong.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

In the past, I have always been hopeful for a kiss on the first date, but you must pay attention to the non-verbal signals from your date. If she isn't ready for a kiss and you try to rush it, she will only become uncomfortable and the odds of a second date (if that is what you want) decrease.

On the first date with my current girlfriend, I walked her to her car and she jumped in before I had a chance to try to give her a kiss. I let that one pass.

On our second date, I walked her to her car and she again jumped in her car. I pulled her car door open, leaned in, and said, "There was one other thing I wanted to tell you," and then I gave her a kiss. It was a romantic kiss but not a I'm-gonna-remove-your-tonsils-with-my-tongue kiss.

On the third date she was expecting a good night kiss!

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

No, you shouldn't.
People are so different when it comes to this.
What's important is you feeling where the other stands, first if all. What kind of person are they.

Personally I haven't kissed someone on the first date yet, I don't feel comfortable doing that. So even if I was attracted to the guy, I would decline.
However, I also have a friend who have had sex with a guy 3-4 times the first time she have met up with a guy.
People are so different.

So, what's important is you read the atmosphere and the person.
Remember you can always flirt with them, maybe some light touches to establish contact and all that.
But read them! And accept if they decline. Be respectful.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Not if you not "feeling" the person.. Well, for myself anyways.. If there's no attraction or chemistry or the date don't go well, I'm not giving no kiss 💋

Daniela1982 · Answer

Are you going on a date to have a good time and get to know someone or to figure out if you want to go out with them again, or to kiss, make out, and maybe have sex? Some people can't seem to see the difference between a date and a hook up. I think a kiss is a bad idea as it may give someone false readings that this is the person of their dreams. Doesn't sex usually start with a kiss? They kissed me, that means they really dig me. Oh boy! I'm gonna plan our wedding tomorrow! Give me a kiss baby!

nolabels · Answer

Good question.
Even though I used to be a fan of kissing (is that a thing?), I now find the act of kissing to be rather strange.
I do recognize that it is a typical form of expressing affection, so I'll let it stand as such.

I'd say that if you have any desire at all to be more than friends, you have to go for it, otherwise the chances of ever being anything more than a friend will be significantly reduced.

If you get shut down, too bad, move on. She wasn't for you anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally speaking, the first date would be a little too soon for me even if the chemistry was there and we were attracted to each other. If I were you I would just let it build up until the point where you guys are undeniably both wanting to kiss each other and then let it happen naturally at that point. If you have to guess it’s probably best that you just wait to do it.

ZackBan · Answer

I kinda play my hand on the first date and if it pans out I can tell and go for the kiss.

Although to this day only once did I have a kiss on a first date but no sex followed. The other 4 times it ended up becoming more than a kiss

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

I honestly wouldn't have minded giving a little kiss on a first date but I am so paranoid of kissing in general. With mono and all sorts of STDs that you can get from kissing gets me scared.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

If the date's going mutually well, a 1st kiss isn't far fetched. Besides, it'd be nice to know early on if there's a "spark" which might seal the deal.

Miah02 · Answer

Naw should be based off how it's going and if the person seems fine wit it

muscularbumblebee · Answer

No.. well personally I never do even when I really like the person. Call me ‘modest’ or whatever but I don’t want men/whoever to get the wrong impression from a date. Only once did I kiss on a first date and that ended pretty badly so it’s individual I guess

electromagnetic · Answer

It really depends how well and comfortable you know and feel about that person. Personally I could never no matter the circumstances. But I don’t see anything wrong with it either.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Not always but if the date goes well sure. Night just be a soft peck on the lips though. Not a full kiss with tongue and everything.

ChiTown33 · Answer

My personal opinion is "no". You got to Gage it by the situation. I mean if the date has been utter s***. Going in for a kiss is most likely NOT going to turn the entire thing around. Lol

Ellie-V · Answer

No. I don’t understand why people are comfortable doing this..

ArrowheadSW · Answer

In my life up to this point, I can't think of any instance where I kissed a woman on the first date. Although maybe once when I was around 25. I think most of the time it would make the woman uncomfortable.

DrHonesty · Answer

Forget the date. Just make out. If she leaves, she's not what you were looking for anyway.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

I did it once and it was good.. it was like we both wanted it and it happened spontaneously.. it was good bcoz I had met her for the first time and didn't know her.. then we were together for few months after that

NathanDavis · Answer

No... kisses should not be forced and there will definitely be times in which things just didn't work out, getting a half-assed kiss would amount to nothing worthy if that were the case

Anonymous · Answer

I think it’s best to wait and reserve it for later. If the girl wants the kiss already, she will want it even more later. And if she asks, you shouldn’t call her crazy, it kills confidence. If you don’t want to kiss, just say no and kindly say the reason why or if you want to give it more time.

Wiredone · Answer

I always asked the girl if I could kiss her before I did it. I didn't want to come off as being pushy or forceful

Roserain · Answer

Depends on how the date went. If you think the person is right, go for it but also you might wanna note how the person is open about intimacy. If it's a friend you very well know, thn even a peck myt change everything hehe x)

dudeinohio · Answer

Yes, if the date went well and you got a positive vibe.

tata1993 · Answer

I would NOT like a kiss in the first meeting. There was many awkward moments where they went for it and I had to reject it 🤕

Anonymous · Answer

No, honestly if I’m really serious about a girl I won’t even touch the bitch. Physical intimacy should be last.

Anonymous · Answer

No, next time it will be three months of dating later.

Dnice1 · Answer

Only if the first date went extremely well and there is chemistry between each other.

Shamalien · Answer

Yes this should be normalized. A small kiss is good

SheerKiss3 · Answer

I need to know him better to know if I really want to kiss him. Definitely not kisses on the first date.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

There's really no reason not to if it went well and you want to establish that there will be another date

legalboxers · Answer

only if it feels right and you get permission from her. Its a delicate balance

kdmichler · Answer

A kiss on the first date shouldn’t be a goal. A first date with tons of chemistry might make it irresistible though.

keniyaa · Answer

no just let stuff happen naturally and at some point it will no need to force it.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope. People who kiss on first dates are probably walking herpes factories. No touchy till tested.

MackAMills · Answer

No absolutely not, but honestly it you’re okay with it and they are too then it’s fine.

Browneye57 · Answer

If the date is an overall success, then sure.  If you never want to see the bitch again, then it's rather presumptuous, don't you think?

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It depends entirely on how the date went. therefore, my answer is no, not always.

Avicenna · Answer

I used to (and for more actually) when I was young, but never now

copiecat · Answer

I cud have but glad I didn't. I wanted to have a meaningful relationship so I'm waiting on a second date. She made a moment and hug all over me and kiss my cheek. I wish I went for it. But no I'm waiting.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Not if he’s a stranger. That’s weird.

Anonymous · Answer

Hell no. It cheapens the experience. Too expected and normy.

Omario2049 · Answer

I just don't as a general rule of thumb. If we really hit it off and she's not holding back and making her feelings obvious, then I'll reward her accordingly.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

I would have to feel the girl out and see if she seems like she would be okay with it because some women really don’t like that

K-I-S-S · Answer

No, kiss when the mood is right not by the nr of dates

katiesmuff · Answer

If you are at all interested in a 2nd date!

SeanshterMonster · Answer

Hellllllllllll no. You'll lose your chance at a relationship and get slapped.

kevyhanma · Answer

If a girl tries to kiss on the first date I give her the same look she would give me if I just whipped out ma dick

LemiaOfChampions · Answer

Depends on the mood of the date.

exitseven · Answer

No, Sometimes it takes a couple.

TheAfrikan · Answer

If passes on thesignals then you can openly go for it.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Only if you both feel like it.

DonArnold · Answer

No. I think that should wait until you get to know each other a little better.

Scottty2hottty · Answer

Well it's one way to find out if she is interested in seeing you again.

SaoirseS · Answer

I have no problem with it.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

ALWAYS?  No

spartan55 · Answer

That along with a nice ass squeeze...😁

fonduegirl · Answer

If you got chemistry, yes.

Slartybartfast · Answer

No, wait for the second date.

JosyJosy · Answer

No, only when it's right

Bluemax · Answer

No, not always.

TessCasie · Answer

if you feel like it

sullyk1234 · Answer

i wait and make him want

MrMilti · Answer

Not if you are not interested.

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