2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Morals, values, and life goals. Those are the primary factors that determine whether a relationship has long term potential or not. And I would say that it's also the primary reason that men disqualify women from consideration as a potential serious relationship partner.
Most women seem to think it's all about looks, but there are LOTS of beautiful, widely physically attractive women who will never be taken seriously by the vast majority of men as a relationship partner (though many of these men will pursue her for casual sex), and that's because of their morals, values, and life goals.
The things that women value in men are NOT the things that men value in women. Men do not care about your advanced education, your degree, your career, your income, or your independence, except to the extent that they are actively negative factors, but these things are important to most women about men, so women assume that they are important to men. They aren't.
Men value youth, innocence, purity, a LACK of experience (because he wants to be the first person to share special moments with you), femininity, cooperation, and being family oriented rather than career oriented. Men do not want to have to go out and battle the world and then have to come home and compete with their woman.
Feminism has taught women to BECOME the men that women want to be with, and to vote for rules and laws to disadvantage men in order to make that happen, and then are surprised that men don't want them. But men have not changed what they want - it's women who have changed, and who expected to still receive all the benefits of the patriarchy while also getting all the benefits of feminism, while somehow avoiding the responsibilities of either. But that's not how the world works, and that's why so many men have abandoned relationships, and some have abandoned women entirely. It's why, by the end of the decade, HALF of women under 40 will be single and childless.
Of course, women have near-complete control over the factors that men care about. They decide which morals and values to embrace and which to abandon, as well as what their priorities are. They know how to vastly increase their odds of success, but most are simply unwilling to make the necessary changes. Meanwhile, more men are actively educating other men about how modern relationships work and the consequences of their failures, which means more and more men are unwilling to compromise on morals and values, even if that means remaining single forever.00 Reply
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11 moI’d like some qualification on “soon” being honest. There would be no “commitment” inside a year though , unless she lived in my pocket there is just no way I could know enough of her to make a choice like that , if she wanted commitment sooner then I’d likely back off.
For commitment , like most guys ( I think? ) I want to feel emotionally connected , A woman who gets me , my values and life goals and who generally agrees. She needs to be compatable , and generally in sync with me finish each others sentences etc. when I see that this woman has the ingredients of someone I can build a life with , the energy , the confidence , the sense of humor , etc - those that I share mostly. When you have those foundations it just gets better and better.
I have found that though , took me a while but the journey is at least as important as the result.00 Reply
I’m 27 and no guy wants comitt to me. I’m shy but romantic loving , nice , supportive , and men treat me bad.
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11 moAge and job. Once he has a nice job, he wants regular sex. Past 40, he's too old to chase mini skirts
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3.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. Her beauty and personality and how great her and I’s chemistry and connection is together , finding a girl like that is worth committing to , so we both hopefully stay loyal and honest with each other so love can continue to grow between us. Relationships don’t have to be hard , Selfish people
Make them hard02 Reply- 11 mo
Men care for looks women care for money before looks
2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.
If I can picture her sitting at the dinner table with my family putting smiles on their faces by just having a true personality and something real to talk about I would consider committing
Personal attraction is crucial as well.
But sometimes I’m personally attracted to a woman for my own selfish desires and these are not foundations to build a future on
We also need something bigger and more long lasting
I’m trying to build my own post modern empire so to speak.
And the true partner I would want is someone willing to be in my corner and help make it happen
Sometimes I think I ask for too much
But I can’t help not being able to settle25 Reply- 11 mo
@Zack-Bann What you stated is not too much. Stick to it.
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@Zack-Bann, sugar likes to wallow and feel sorry for herself… don’t get caught up.
As for you and your empire, a word of caution: many a guy thinks like this and hits his 50s/60s having burned through too many women and has no options left to settle with. Be careful about how long you wait to find ms right. You actually WANT to find her before you hit the big payload so you know she loves YOU and not your fabulous Deathstar. 😉
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11 moIf communication is good , and we know each other , for at least five months, and spent a full day together , several times to see reactions... in theory, commit, but with modern divorce rules, in courts, i would only marry a christian woman who was actually sincere about jesus and his teachings.
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11 moShe is virtuous, high character, very feminine, family oriented, marriage and kids are her main life goal.
Promiscuous party girls with tattoos and piercings, dumb and entitled, career is thei goal. Not a chance in hell I would have ever had anything to do with them.
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11 moUsually a month of regular interaction is enough for me to tell if we'd be compatible in values and life expectations.
The hard part for me is finding a woman who wants to be exclusive. She'll want my attention but keep entertaining other dudes when I've made it clear that she is my main (and sometimes sole) focus.13 Reply- 11 mo
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BIM, you’re right. Friends in my circle also tend to seek monogamy even in the early dating phases, with only one exception so far and I consider that fellow more of an acquaintance than a friend bc he’s “burned through every gal in town and travels now to meet a new batch of gullible women” according to what several discerning folks I know are saying… very sad.
831 opinions shared on Dating topic. What I look for is an honest and emotionally stable woman who has goals and shares similar values to me. One who is loyal and can show that she is able to clearly communicate her wishes and desires
00 ReplyQuite simply her personality. Yes, it’s always nice to have a girl who is a nice looking girl, but personality says a great deal more.
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11 moWhen she lets me be myself around her without judgement
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m 11 moWhat? My hopes. How soon? A couple of months of intensive contact.
00 Reply 681 opinions shared on Dating topic. Her morales and values. How she portrays herself. And most importantly, how much she actually cares about you and how much she wants to be a part if your life
00 Reply1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. True, genuine compatibility. The how soon differs on how easy we bond which differs to how compatible we are.
00 Reply8.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. It is hard to describe. It was like knowing that I could spend the rest of my life with her.
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11 moOh it takes a long time I have to see that the girl also wants the relationship like she showing signs putting effort before I will actually commit
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Anonymous(25-29)11 moI've only felt that way about one girl, and it wasn't something I chose to happen.
10 ReplyPersonally, I’d like to know within 3 months and then take the next year+ to make sure I’m 100% right.
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11 moThe way she looks and her personality and intelligence and how soon depends
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11 moGood vibes. Compatibility. About 3 to 4 weeks.
10 Reply 6.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. She's a good person who has mutual feelings for me
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Anonymous(36-45)11 moIf she's my type of girl - at first sight ;)
00 Reply672 opinions shared on Dating topic. No commitment, just casual.
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