Guys what makes you commit/know the girl is the one?

[Syatesxo]

Guys, how do you know if a girl you meet is the one you want to fall in love with and share a life with. What does the girl have to have to make you want to commit and be with them?

[Bruce_VVayne_]

To be honest, I never had a filter about girls but I am sure of one thing I can't control these things at all either. Surely the beauty matters up to a point, you just can't feel somethings for someone you have no attraction to how they look, but that doesn't mean you can't have any interest with the person you will never be attracted to. Just saying not everyone are perfect in their looks and it is not like we would always be after model like people.

Sometimes you see someone's eyes, the way how they smile is enough for you to be attracted or when you just hear of their voice, it is just so cute or the way how they talk attracts you to them while you could think you wouldn't be interested in them. The beauty only matters for the first looks and if the person is really really not away from your own standards then the all other features such like even the voice or smile get in to the game.

I never cared about cliche words like "I love you" from the first months, because I don't believe in the sincerity of it at all. People while they only care about the looks or they are only having attraction, they deceive themselves like they are really loving each other while they have no idea what the real love is. Before loving someone in an emotinal way, we have to learn to love that person for who they are, for their character. You can love your even own pet or your shoes, why can't we love someone without having romantical feelings at first? We can do care about them purely with our all heart and it is the way how I want to fall to a girl. I want to be friends with her, I want to get to know her better, I would want to keep her happy, seeing her smiling even if she is not my girlfriend, because I have to care about her at first regardless if she could give me anything in return. When you can achieve that, you can start really having emotional connection with that person, imagine you love someone you really don't want to upset ever, you always like to see them smiling, imagine you tend to love someone who is already so important to you. So how could you even dare to even break their precious heart? That way, you start idealizing them with your all heart in the most deepest ways, that way you want to show your real love to them with its all meaning, because it is not the words, it is the time shows how much we love each other and in the time, if you can show, if you can prove you really loved that person, keeping your promises and all then it means you really loved.

People don't even try to love each other for who they really are. They have no understand for having some empathy for each other, they don't know what it means to sacrifice for someone or being respectful. They mostly just have their own ego and they always want to be the winners, even breaking up is easy for them because they think "There will be always other for me". Yes are not slaves to each other, but for people we wanted love at least, we can't be that selfish. If we do, then it means we never really loved them, didn't even care about them.

I could even talk more pages about that, but these are all I can say at least in summary. The key is caring about someone, loving them in a pure way at the beginning regardless they could be your significant other or not.

[LordSnuggles]

My current girlfriend is the first and only woman I've ever loved. She didn't have to do anything. She was herself and that happened to mesh perfectly with me. I felt it was so effortless and right. Naturally that means it's going to be different for everyone and there's no way to fake it or make it happen. For me, it came as a realization that our conversation was effortless, that we were the same in the ways that mattered, our humor clicked, we had the same sexual energy, it all just clicked in a way that I didn't even think about it. It just felt like she was always there and always would be.

[coachTanthony]

The girl has to have a LIFE! No guy wants to be a caretaker!

[Sevenpointfive]

i enter all relationships with the intention of committing. we don't know if all of the boxes are checked until after it's gone past a certain point, but it doesn't mean there isn't compromise, or that someone can't easily be open to change. i'd never change something big that someone believes in, but there are certain things you can work on in relationships to make them work if you as a couple want it to. but that hasn't worked out for me lol

[dudeinohio]

She needs to have a similar life experience. Similar interests, likes, dislikes. Essentially a compatible personality. Also, not one to nag or criticize.

[Guanfei]

Well if she's what I'm looking for, I want to commit. But that changes from people to people. And you can't know who is the one. You can think it is, but you could be wrong.

[winterfox10]

There's definitely a somewhat unique feeling of comfort and safety that the woman gives you, but it's just as much a question of timing as anything else (if not more). Some people are just ready to be happy at that particular place and time.

[JSmuve]

1) I'm physically attracted to her
2) I'm emotionally attracted to her
3) She has the qualities that I think would make for a great wife and mother

If she can check all three boxes, then she's got a shot.

[Southeast]

First time looking at them can tell a lot there's been 2 woman in my life it was instant infatuation but you know Melbourne girls they love to bounce 😍

[donnny2367764]

Has to make me want to become a better person for myself, and for our potential family if we were to tie the knot... she also has to be able to accept my love will devour her both mentally and physically

[JimboGB]

Compatibility, sexual chemistry, shared passions. Most importsntly, you should feel an connection between the two of you which only grows stronger each time you see one another.

[Pejtu]

You cannot list those things u just can't
Every guy values other things in his girlfriend
It takes time and effort from both sides