Why do people get so angry when you crush their narcissistic fantasies?

[Summeroflove]

[RavVid]

There are two types of narcissist arrogant and vulnerable. The arrogant are so convinced they are superior they they don't need and assurance they are.

Vulnerables need assurance and seek it. They get nasty when they get negative feedback. You are destroying a large part of their life after all.

There is touch of vulnerable narcissist in most people especially when young and building who they are and their skills. As people get older their skills stand on their own.

[Summeroflove]

Well mant arrogant ones too need that part od them fluffed. Because they need validation.

[RavVid]

Well non-narcissists like to have their ego's fluffed too but it is just at a different level to vulnerable narcissists.

[genericname85]

everyoune gets angry when you take something away from them that they liked or were looking foreward to. you as well. don't need to be a narcissist to understand that. just a tiny little bit of regular human empathy.

[Summeroflove]

I’m usually respectful until someone isn’t

[genericname85]

or were you actually getting narcissistic joy out of your ability to "crush" something, cause that made you feel strong? let's see if you react angry :D

[Summeroflove]

Not really. It’s people who have unrealistic expectations especially for relationships that are also one sided.

Such as. Someone wants someone to accept them for all their flaws but want someone whose perfect all the time

[genericname85]

yeah, seeing people not living up to their own standards can seem annoying but i guess we've all been there XD

[Summeroflove]

Well yes. Irs rules for them but not for everyone else. Such as they want someone to look past their flaws and imperfections love them for who they are and forgive their past.

However, they refuse to do the same for someone else.

[genericname85]

I Don't see how suddenly the irs has something to do with it xD that conversation took an unexpected turn.

[DishLady]

Lol… bc you crushed their whole universe.

[Summeroflove]

I feel sad for many of them. Their real lives typically such so they indulge in fantasies and have to convince everyone that it’s reality in order for them to keep believing it.

[DishLady]

There’s nothing to do about that

[Summeroflove]

Nope

[Nikki1989]

What is a narcissistic fantasy?

[Summeroflove]

People especially when it comes to dating and relationships but any topic really. Where they have a massive fantasy in their head that’s one sided and delusional. But have a extreme sense of entitlement

[Summeroflove]

Examples?… one is for men. They have a high body count and beat off to porno all day. But want a woman whose a pure virgin. He can cheat on her but she can’t cheat or leave the house. She’s stuck

[Summeroflove]

For a female. One was a woman wanted to marry a man in the military. But when I begin talking of PTSD and how hard these relationships can be with someone deployed far away not knowing if he’s coming home.

She began getting very angry with me

[Avicenna]

Narcissists have high self-esteem but it’s extremely fragile and suffers “narcissistic injury” when their ego isn’t stroked.

[mobiusforniner]

A true narcissist has very LOW self esteem. So, crushing their fantasies or doing nothing other than indicating they are WRONG, is received very poorly because it is a reminder of their low self worth. They almost always react (not respond) with verbal (or in extreme cases) physical violence.

[Summeroflove]

And most the time I genuinely try to be helpful sometimes I’m snarky. But they want to argue and argue

[mobiusforniner]

The arguing is intentional. They’re provoking your emotional reaction - be it anger, sadness, frustration - it makes them feel they have control over you and therefore they’re relevant and important. Remember, no self esteem = need to validate oneself at the expense of others.

Don’t react. Respond. And I discover the most powerful response, is nothing at all. Your silence communicates that their existence doesn’t warrant your time.

[SotiCoto]

They don't generally see them as fantasies, and for that matter they don't see it as said fantasies being crushed. They just see someone disagreeing with them and don't understand why, and since they don't understand it, they get angry.

[ArrowheadSW]

Because they've been shown that the gig is up! They are found out for their BS.

[SuperZonicGUY1992]

I don't know ask yourself that question! You Maga are all narcissist.

[Brendan824]

Cause that's a part of who they are they take it as you're attacking them.

[Texasgal95]

They hate not being able to control you

[SamWinchester058]

Narcissism is actually fairly rare...

[Brittanyrunner06]

Narcissistic traits are actually pretty common and exist on a spectrum. It’s the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder that is more rare. That clinical diagnosis belonging to only around 2% of the population. The overwhelming majority of actual narcissists are never diagnosed, though, because the last thing a narcissist will do is realize they are one, then proceed to seek professional help for it. Most diagnoses come from people who are already seeing a mental health professional for something else (stress, anxiety, depression, etc) and it ends up being a secondary diagnosis.

[SamWinchester058]

Correct.

[SamWinchester058]

It's over used for every excuse we like to use for our failed relationships.

[Summeroflove]

@Brittanyrunner06 you have a good take. Feel free to post a opinion

[Anonymous]

Narcissists hate that

[DCVsMarvel2]

why do you think narcissism is ok?

[Anonymous]

Probably because of egotism.