Am I just traumatized with baggage or is it a sign? ?

[Anonymous]

My last relationship was a shit show. All the little things he said, and did was just messed up. This new guy, however, is way nicer, but I’ve noticed he’s been saying the same things that the last guy I was in a relationship with. They also have the same birthdays, same race, etc. It’s just so weird. Very avoidant can’t handle confrontation, even if it’s in a gentle way always feeling like he is being attacked when he is not. It’s just the same as the last guy it’s just really really weird

[Vevv123]

Welcome to the club 😅 but to be fair, if he can’t handle confrontation then that’s not very good because then how are you supposed to communicate and resolve problems? As long as you’re communicating in a calm manner, you should be able to feel comfortable to talk about issues openly. You can see it as baggage, some men will see it as that and that’s ok, to you it is probably because you want someone that will be with you forever so these little things will be important to you and that’s why you’re questioning, probably because you fear being with someone that is not looking at things long term.

[PeachyPie93]

He probably is the same then.. it's probably best to move on..

[SotiCoto]

They're the same guy. Best set him on fire and make a clean getaway.

[jahaims]

You will keep attracting the same problems if you don't heal

[ChicoFromThe305]

The worst thing you can do is compare him to an ex, just keep that in mind, it can truly ruin it for you

[BigSwingingBalls]

give an example of one of the bad/weird things he says

[MasterKS]

dont go with low confident, kick him out of your life, be practical.

[StephanieChick111]

Probably a sign.