Why do women get garbage for rejecting men they don’t like back but when men reject women they don’t like, nothing happens?

Question

Us women can’t get a break. We’re allowed to have feelings just like men are. I refuse to date someone I have no interest in. I’m not giving them false hope.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First off, NO. Just because you make what SEEMS like a statement. Does not make it factual.

I'm sure it has not escaped your attention by now that there ARE gender roles. Women in large WAIT for men to approach them, and men are EXPECTED to DO the APPROACHING. Now just because these are rules doesn't mean they are absolutely concrete. Women SELDOM wait. They are always trying to INFLUENCE a man's behavior. In short, she wants the guy she wants to approach her, and say what she wants him to say, the way she wants him to say it. But she wants it to be HIS idea.😆 Some women go about this through subtle hints. Most of the time so subtle that NOBODY knows she ever did anything (which is why so many women fail). But that brings up the more AGGRESSIVE woman. And these women do it by MANIPULATION. These women bend and a lot of time flat out BREAK this dating rules. Most of these women do not even give 2 💩' about the object of the (twisted) affection. These women will flirt and manipulate till she gets whatever emotional satisfaction she was seeking through the exchange. At this point she drops the guy flat. Leaving the guy feeling exploited and used.

Now mixed in with all I just said is the simple miscommunication from both genders. Some women are socially retarded Some men are socially retarded. So sometimes it's not always clear whether the exchange was malicious or not. What IS clear is rejection IS NOT fun. Unless a women takes the initiative and asks a guy out she never really has to endure rejection. Oh sure, women will tell you they do. But they really don't. They may get ignored, but they don't get rejected. Because they never really risk anything by virtue of thier gender role. But the point is women and men by thier gender roles are only afforded certain emotions. Men are not allowed to cry. We can quibble over this if you want, but that's just reality. Crying is not a an accepted masculine emotion. Anger is! So it's natural for a guy to respond to rejection for 2 reasons because as I said men are not allowed to cry. But also because as I alluded to earlier. Women do the influencing to get a man's attention. This is probably the single greatest thing your gender does not understand or is just willfully ignorant about. MEN DO NOT APPROACH JUST ANY WOMAN. Some do, but they are and extreme minority that simply do not give a 💩 about her or whether she rejects him. These guys generally just want to f***. But as I said this is NOT the vast majority of guys. Guys WILL NOT approach until a woman gives him a reason to.

And this brings us back to your question. So either you're kind of socially retarded, ate willfully ignorant. Now which that is only you know. But one thing you better get real with is the fact that guys ARE NOT going to change. My guess is you're likely willfully ignorant.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Both genders can be assholes when it comes to rejection, so it just comes down to whether that person is an asshole or not. Me personally isn’t rude when it comes to rejecting a girl that I am not interested in or attracted to , because I tend to put myself in their shoes and think how I would feel if a girl rejected me rudely. The only time I would possible get rude is if the girl didn’t take no for an answer. After I politely rejected her. I can’t stand people that are assholes right from the very beginning , it’s not like we walk around with signs over our heads saying what we are into and what are relationship status is. So I don’t care for people that are rude from the very beginning whatsoever that act like their shit doesn’t stink , because it stinks lol

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Ah, that is part of the vast double standard.

A woman will hear about it for weeks: "Aww, what was wrong with [X]? He's such a nice guy! Don't discount him... give him a second chance." (Meanwhile [X] has a lot of shady dealings going on and thinks he's got enough mojo to juggle a pile of women at once, which wasn't what you wanted.) The gal has to provide an explanation and typically hears about how she's too difficult, blah blah.

A guy won't hear about it if he dumps a gal. There's no, "What's wrong with [Z]? She's such a catch! Why not go out with her?" All he has to do is shrug and say she's nice but not his type.

The guys SAY less. We should learn to just shrug and not justify our choices or feed the insanity.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

Because rejection hurts egos and some people have way too much ego. Gigantic bloated giga egos. If you were his girlfriend he would instantly tell you what you have to wear and what not, what you have to eat and what you have to say. This is exactly the type of a guy you have avoid with any means and those mofos are always the ones who try to gaslight you and to manipulate your perception if you say fuck off to them.

HawkPerception · Answer

I don't know what you're talking about at all. Men are the ones that approach over 80% of the time. Women don't generally approach men. And if you're talking about garbage, there are many women who tend to react terribly to men approaching them. It's to the point that a good number of men don't even want to approach women anymore. Yes, there will be some emotionally unintelligent men that can't handle rejection and give you shit for not being interested back, but they are a minority.

You and everyone are free to be interested in who you want to be interested in. However, you should always aim to be kind and empathetic in response if you're approached.

ManOnFire · Answer

Because women like it to be known that they're not interested in a guy. And they make rejecting men into something they see as a privelege for them that they enjoy talking about. "I wasn't into this guy," "I'm not into that guy." And they seem to think turning a guy down has to be a nasty affair.

Men who turn women down are not interested in trying to be nasty about it nor do they see it as a privelege.

Avicenna · Answer

LOL, when a woman hits on a guy she’s generally much less used to rejection and will normally be shocked if she’s turned down.

Datboi65 · Answer

Yeah I'm gonna call that bullshit.

Try being a guy and rejecting a FAT woman. They literally created an entire fucking movement just so they could be "included" in other people's dating choices (aka "body positivity"). You're gonna be called fatphobic and all kinds of other insults.

Try being a guy and rejecting a woman outside of your race for not being your type (not throwing any shade at anyone, we all have different preferences) and telling said woman that that's the reason why you rejected her. She's gonna call you racist.

Men definitely have to deal with worse reactions, because women just can't handle rejection well.

David318578 · Answer

Pretty sure men get "garbage" for rejecting woman as well. Its just for different reasons.

The vast majority of women it seems like a guy over 6' and making 100k per year, which os a very small% of the population and they all complain "where is all the good men" well you friend zoned them.

Men on the other hand dont want to marry a whore so when a woman has a high body count a guy only would be willing to fuck them and not marry them. And when they ask "where are all the good women" its because you fucked them and dumped them.

Which one is worse? Simple

Women..

Your welcome

emeraldsaphire · Answer

I'm not familiar with this double standard. Women reject men way more then men reject women. We rarely put ourselves in a way that can get rejected. or at least I don't. I always had guys ask me out.

But the double standard probably comes from men's entitlement to women's bodes

OneViewpoint · Answer

LOL, no one has any obligation to date anyone they are not interested in. Everyone should deliver the message they are not interested in as kind a manner as possible. Understand that person is putting themselves out there. Put yourself in their shoes. Don't be an asshole.

Unfortunately, (some) men and women don't handle rejection well. No matter how kind it is. When that happens, disengage. GTFO of there. Leave those assholes to their dysfunction. Not your problem.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I never take offense at rejection. Not every woman will be into me, or vice versa, and I much prefer she be upfront about it.

But I cold approach. A lot of guys spend weeks or months planning their move, misinterpreting her normal kindness as flirting, and get perturbed that they invested so much time and energy and she was only "leading them on" (all in their minds, usually). It is their own fault.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Most times they don't... In fact men get more sh! t for rejecting a woman sometimes, especially when she's of certain body types.. It seems that these days men are hardly doing the rejecting, and it's mostly women.. Some women do it harshly for multiple reasons a d try to justify it.. And some women have unrealistic standards because they feel they can (some men too, but yeah)..

Anonymous · Answer

Because it's uncommon for men to reject women, because men are the ones who are required to approach women, so they are almost always the ones who get rejected.

Women don't approach men. They just make subtle hints and hope the guy they are interested in approaches them. If he doesn't, she will FEEL rejected, but there was no act of rejection on the man's part, so nothing to get garbage for.

Caughtulookin · Answer

What i dont like is when women just volunteer their phone number to me and never speak to me again. I certainly have never done that to any woman. I also dont see the point of trying to persue any woman that doesn't like me.

Anonymous · Answer

Get shit from who? The guy they rejected? Some guys are just assholes. Same with women.

The rest of world would only give women shit for rejecting a guy if they are unnecessarily mean about it or if they friendzone the guy and still let him buy her stuff.

Cormac995 · Answer

Woman reject men constantly. Men almost never reject a woman. The reason woman get crap and men don't is because of how big the difference in the ratio is.

Caroline91 · Answer

I'm not quite clear on what happens when a woman turns someone down that makes you think we can't get a break. If we're polite about it, what does it matter what someone else thinks?

spartan55 · Answer

Seeing posts like this makes me wonder if women have EVER talked to ANY guys about this type of thing. (relationship advice is another myth filled fun house)

Zylos · Answer

Men get rejected a lot more than women. Also, some women are really unpleasant when they reject people. Just be polite, but firm.

Miristheiss · Answer

Garbage? No.  Unless she rejects him by being mean, degrading or sarcastic. If she just says no thanks then all is good.

Billlewis · Answer

For one thing, because men, particularly nowadays, rarely reject women at all, so there aren't many circumstances to compare.

fonduegirl · Answer

Because men want a picky woman until you tell them they didn't make the cut. In that case, you're a nasty bitch

Anonymous · Answer

You've obviously never seen a guy reject a woman. Women do NOT take rejection well.

Abbycado · Answer

It’s like asking, why are anons such cowardly fuckwits? Get it?

SotiCoto · Answer

I'm sure every guy who has ever been called an incel or told to die a virgin because they rejected a woman would gladly call you out on your bullsh! t premise.

Dongie · Answer

You ask a lot of guys out do you? I've never heard of a guy being rude when, on the rare occasion, that they are asked out. 99.9999% of the time a person is asked it's the man doing the asking.

genericname85 · Answer

why do you act as if women don't give men garbage for rejecting women. that's absolutely happening all the time.

Shy_Steve · Answer

When do you see Men rejecting Women? I hardly ever see it. I have only seen it once. You are getting Garbage because Women are more likely to reject Men.

Jackblue · Answer

I am sorry if a guy wouldn't take no for an answer from you, some guys can be too proud to take rejection.

Anonymous · Answer

because studies have shown that men tend to be more sociopathic, psychopathic and narcissistic. To sum it all up, men tend to be more EVIL

Twalli · Answer

I think it's because a lot of them have stupid rules. I am short, deal breaker. I don't have a 6 figure salary, deal breaker. Stuff like that.

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

you'll miss out on some great people, by being picky

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Can’t catch a break? That’s adorable. You wanna try being a man for a while? You’ll be sobbing uncontrollably begging to go back 😂

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on how you do it. I have had a women go scorch earth on me.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m guessing you dealt with an encounter recently with a guy who you rejected?

Anonymous · Answer

We live in a fucking patriarchal world. You can not change this system. Never mind. Whatever men do is right. Simple as that. 🤷🏼‍♀️

79CupOCoffee · Answer

Cause we aren’t supposed to have feelings come on get with the program.

RageBabe · Answer

Stop generalising.

TheLovelyWoman · Answer

Because men cannot take rejection.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Yeah yeah good for you move on...

Anonymous · Answer

It's the sort of men you are chasing.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Guys reject women? Blasphemy!

In_Trance · Answer

You're incorrect. The exact same thing happens

Anonymous · Answer

It goes both ways. Everybody gets shit.

Anonymous · Answer

Because of the patriarchy.

Anonymous · Answer

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