Girls, If women aren’t selfish in dating, why do good guys get ignored while jerks get chased?

[Anonymous]

[DishLady]

People all have a "fix it" gear cranking within them. Guys have it when they see a girl cry... right away they instinctively want to "fix" whatever made her cry so she can be happy, calm and pretty again. Meanwhile, gals have it when they see a guy who LOOKS and SEEMS like what they want but he registers in their mind like "a fixer-upper"... a very very common mistake women make.

I have a strict, "buy as is" policy with guys. You either like the guy as he is or you don't. If you don't, then keep walking.

[PeachyPie93]

Well if I go off of myself, I find nice guys too nerdy..
Maybe because my dad was tough and a bit of a mean guy, I go for guys who are a little bit mean to me usually in a playful way. Tho I'm trying to get away from that since nice guys could actually give me what I crave but most nice guys lack in the looks department and for me face is super important lol.

[Asker]

Thanks for being real. I get what you mean since we’re all shaped by how we grew up. I’m a shy guy, and it’s tough seeing girls go for guys who act a little mean. Most of us shy guys would never treat a girl badly. We’re often kind, loyal, and just want something real, yet we rarely get noticed. That’s what makes it so frustrating.

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I can get that.. but the thing is if you are a guy unfortunately you aren't really allowed to be shy since you are expected to make the moves.. Even if it is just letting the woman know straight out that you like her, then she can reciprocate and the ball gets moving. Guys tell me to get a girl to like you you have to make them feel a little insecure..

[Abbycado]

That’s only happening in your head. My guess is you have trouble getting dates and therefore make up this excuse that we are all into jerks.

What a load of crap.

[Asker]

Spoken like someone who's never had to face rejection. Funny how anytime women are called out, the first response is to blame the guy instead of addressing the pattern. Maybe look outside your bubble.
It's not all in my head when thousands of guys say the same thing.

[Abbycado]

Nice sob story

[Asker]

Funny how anytime a guy points out the obvious, it’s suddenly a ‘sob story.’ If the truth makes you that defensive, maybe it’s not the story that’s the problem, It’s your ego.

[RageBabe]

What a broad generalisation.

Grow up.

[Asker]

Calling it a generalisation is just a lazy way to avoid the truth. If it didn’t hit close to home, you wouldn’t be this defensive. Maybe take your own advice and grow up.