Girls, Why do so many girls reject kind, shy guys, then complain that the men they chose turned out toxic, selfish, or emotionally unavailable?

[Anonymous]

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Thanks for the replies, but you’re proving exactly what I meant. Women ignore shy, respectful guys, chase confident ones who turn out toxic, then blame men for how it ended. The problem isn’t that guys are fake — it’s that you keep choosing the wrong ones and ignoring the ones who actually treat you well.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Fucking CHRIST we’ve explained this a thousand times already. The toxic guys PRETEND TO BE THE KIND GUYS and they manipulate women and they fall for it and the relationship, shocker, is shitty but she’s already been so heavily manipulated that SHE BELIEVES HIS LIES ABOUT HOW SHE WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO HAVE ANYONE BUT HIM. I hate you dumbasses who can’t fucking listen.

[Asker]

So you're saying women are smart, independent, empowered... until a guy pretends to be nice, then suddenly they're helpless and brainwashed? Sounds like an excuse for bad choices.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Shocker, you still don’t listen

[Asker]

And shocker — you still think being loud makes you right. Maybe if you picked men as carefully as you pick arguments, you wouldn’t be so angry.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

This attitude is why you only get picked as a woman’s regret

[Asker]

This is why you’ll keep ending up with the same kind of guys, you mock the ones who’d actually treat you right.

Good luck with that.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

My dumbest of asses, I think it’s abundantly clear that I never pick men.

[Asker]

Coming from the reigning Queen of Dumbass Island.

I obviously knew that.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Sure you did, that’s why you insulted me by saying I would never be able to do the thing I never wanted to do lol

[Asker]

Nope, I insulted you by accident, turns out the truth just sounds mean when it hits a nerve.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I should rephrase: “Attempted to insult me by saying I would never be able to do the thing we both obviously knew I didn’t want to do” lol

[SarahP080106]

Because our natural biological urge is to breed with the Alphas which are usually more outgoing and aggressive in nature

[Abbycado]

We don’t. You just want to believe that narrative to justify your struggles.

[Asker]

Funny how you dismiss men’s struggles, then expect empathy for your own. Truth is, most guys don’t care about your trauma either.