I asked him to remove a girl that's always posting herself in bikinis and tight tiny work out gears?

[Anonymous]

I asked my boyfriend to remove a girl that is always posting bikini pics like she's single and this was the conversation that happened:

Me: can you unfollow her? (Shows screenshot) She's gross and attention seeking.

Him: Ok, I will

Me: Thanks I appreciate it , love you 😘

Him: love U too but can you tell me something you don't actually think she's gross? U just said that cause you're angry.

Me: Course I do

Me: A girl that says take a photo of my ass while I pose and posts it is attention seeking and gross

Me: If you don't think so. I'll do it then.

Him: You already have done that Missy.

Him: You've twerked on Snapchat haha

Me: What I did on Snapchat stories was deliberately for attention from guys. I fucking know what I'm doing. Just like she does. We girls are not stupid

Me: If I stand Infront of the beach and say take a photo from behind and make sure my ass can be seen. I know exactly what I'm doing.

Me: If I take a photo in a bra that's low cut. I know exactly what I'm doing.

Him: Yes yes I know. Its ok u dont need to blow me up babe

He then said "talk later"

Why couldn't he just leave it at love U too?

Is this a red flag?

Updates

9 mo

(the Snapchat posts he was referring to were from my single days)

Updates

9 mo

The woman he's watching IS MARRIED. I checked his Instagram (the husband's) he doesn't have one single photo of her in a bikini or tiny see through workout gear, which, to me, shows he doesn't want the world seeing that. But she splashes them all over her Instagram account like she's single and makes her Instagram public

[ohsheeT]

Well basically the message i got out if it

He's watching a single gurl do her thing
And he says. Well you did the same thing and then you tell us you were single...

Well I thought it was about him watching other girls

And now im thinking im single who do I get to watch lol.

Well im nut sure its a red flag at the moment.
But it was something that you both need to talk about

[Asker]

She's married. But ACTS like she's single

[ohsheeT]

O wow so just an attention seeker.

[ohsheeT]

I dont haven't had instagram for probably 8 years.
The girls like that on there. But it is what it is. snap chat is cool, but I think they are 2 different kinda apps

[888theGreat]

Open relationship

[SueShe]

The entire situation is degenerating because he cannot accept the fact that you have asked him to remove a girl from his social media.

To me it is indeed a red flag because what he is doing is actually emotional cheating. There is only one step from emotional cheating to physical cheating. He keeps these pictures because he wants to fantasize about those girls and possibly even manipulate his penis to induce those pathetic spasms and muscular contractions.

I honestly believe it is time to have a serious conversation about where your relationship is heading because to me, it looks like the boat is starting to sink.

He will deny it of course.

[DishLady]

The only red flag rn is that he will think you're nuts.

Don't make a big deal about this idiot on social media. He said he would do it and that's it. Don't continue on the topic at all, even if he makes an extra comment. He's trying to see if you're jealous/crazy... and now he knows that you are.

[HawkPerception]

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you suddenly lose attraction to others. I think it's fine to eyeball others (discreetly), but not go out of your way to check them out.

As long as he has no intention of reaching out to whoever that girl is, I don't see a big issue.

[Shiprex]

Your insecurity about him following or seeing or looking or even imagining other women scantily clad is the red flag. You'd probably be the one keeping a sneaky eye on his line of sight when you went to a beach or something just to try to catch him "looking at other women" so as to "test his loyalty".
She does it to get attention that her partner doesn't control her or is ok with her doing it for HER enjoyment. Your boyfriend is looking because he likes it, stopping that or judging that is the problem.

[Ask105]

Is it a double standard you do the same thing at your age ! no disrespect when does it end he probably would be hard pressed to see you as wife material or someone to be taken seriously the only red flag is you ready to throw in the towel he is over it ! but now its been saved in your memory file as far an argument next month you seem like a toxic girl?

[Ask105]

So whole thing is a little stupid he said he remove it every girl is doing what you used to do when you were single most men actually do this back then it was the tv if you’re so actually bothered i can see how you would be just approach him like you should simple you’re already dating so he can see the same stuff on youtube and never searched for it

[DonaldDarko]

You're right she is gross and attention seeking which is also gross. The only girl I follow like that is this girl on facebook that knows a lot about weight lifting. She wears next to nothing but I guess it's expected and profitable to show off her body as it's advertisement of her skills. Her face would scare the rust off an old ford pickup though.

[SotiCoto]

Fucking up the word "you" is a red flag. It is a three-letter word. It isn't difficult to spell. That and you came into the situation barking orders and openly criticising what he was doing. Of course he was going to get defensive because you were being offensive. Long story short... he should dump you. You're a twat.

[Nikki1989]

Stop dating men with the mentality of children.

[jahaims]

He got with you because you're a attention whore and now you are mad he likes attention whores lol.

[Asker]

She's married and all her posts look single but her husband's posts are all of them together

[In_Trance]

You're the red flag

[Asker]

Me and him have been together 2 years. It should be normal to ask your partner to remove someone off social media. He asks me to do it ALL THE TIME

[In_Trance]

Not normal. That's toxic behavior

[Anonymous]

Cringe

[888theGreat]

Poor guy