Have you ever felt a lack of motivation to approach girls?

[Anonymous]

I feel this way for a long time now. Relationships have never really worked out for me much or for a longer time. Last time i got hurt bad. Even though it is more than two years i feel lack of motivation. I dont know why. I dont if it is worth it for me. I feel like i lost that thing when you just go for it. I met some pretty and nice girls but i dont know. I feel like i would have to meet someone so good that it would take my breath away. I also have a lot of goals and dreams i want to achieve and that my main focus now. Have you ever felt this way or what do you think?

[capriVib]

I feel exactly the way you described. I see most men putting an incredible amount of effort into approaching girls on Tinder or in real life, and I ask myself, "How are they so motivated for this?" I feel different compared to most men. I’ve never chased after women, I don’t think it’s worth it. Arthur Schopenhauer: A man’s happiness comes from fulfilling his own will, achieving his goals, and being productive in life

I believe in this. Of course, in life there will be girlfriends and relationships, but the more a man can keep himself away from these, the happier he will be. One needs to embrace solitude.
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[aaron13547]

Yea i feel a lot like you do man. I've got to where I don't need other people to be happy, but I still wanted someone. Now I think it's got to where I'm starting to be afraid more of what it would be like to never try harder for more with another person, then fear i have to try for a relationship and it not work. It's fine to focus on yourself and your goals it's fine to not want to be with someone. But im learning it's not fine to use anything as an excuse not to try for yourself... maybe you feel like you need to have accomplishment first before a women I know I did but once you get those things you can't forget the real purpose the purpose is you and if you want to not be alone do not deny yourself that wasting time. I wasted a lot of time. I tell myself I was just preparing now but either way do not deny yourself taking a chance on you!

[aaron13547]

To be clear here... taking a chance on yourself is putting yourself out there and keep looking for women do not deny yourself that with excuses like it's uncomfortable. you'll still want another person even after you get everything else. The right time for something is when you want it not after you get everything else...

[Anonymous]

I rarely approach women. Because if she wanted to, she would. It's been my experience that if she really wants to know me, she'll approach me. This is not to say I won't approach women. But if she's not going to show a CLEAR sign she interested then she's really not interested. Most the women that want men to approach today are just attention seeking.

[Alex-Snow]

Not yet. I like meeting them and talking. If it turns out to be more than that all the better

[WhitneySnow]

Feel free to focus on working on yourself