My boyfriend thinks its okay to call your partner names (bitch) during an arguments is he right?

[Anonymous]

I asked him if he'd call me a bitch or other names and he said yes and i said id never do that bcs even when we argue or fight ill choose to do it respectfully bcs i love him and i respect him but he thinks if i get mad at him for calling me a certain name ill be controlling what he feels and talks which i think isn't right bcs it shouldn't be that hard not to be disrespecfull to your partner unless theyve cheated or something similar.

[ohsheeT]

Yes and no.

No because you can't say I love you and truly mean it.


Yes its ok. Because now you get to really see that the man is really a boy that doesn't love you. He wantbto be your controller. Abd when you can't be controlled. He then will tell you what he really think of you by calling you names.

And you say but I love you. And he tell you to fuck off you. Bla bla bla.

Stop every thing. Is this the boy that you dreamed of being with when you were a little girl.

Stop right now. It's not going to get better. It's going to get worse. .. this is not love

This is anger and control. Right now its just name. Calling. Soon it will be name calling and hitting you.

Him un knowing is telling you showing you he's not the guy you think he is.. and to get out now before he does real harm

Dont think him saying he's sorry. Because he's not. It's just a matter of time before he hits you.

Many many many girls go through the same thing most leave and find the guy of there dreams. Some are not as lucky. Because by freak accident.
He didn't mean to, but when he hit her in the face. With the baseball bat, she died. Dont be that girl.

Him calling you names is gods or your angel s above giving you a warning to get out
Please listen to it

If the boy really really loves you. You walk away. And he needs professional help that improved you. How much he loves you by getting professional help? If you can't do that for you, it proves to you even more, he does not love you. You, you don't call somebody b**** and every other name and then say I. That's not mentally swalk away now please

[HawkPerception]

I know this might be in poor taste to some people, but it's a word. Just because you call someone a bitch sometimes doesn't mean you don't love them. It just means you're annoyed or angry with them. Saying fuck or bitch are just terms for that.

As long as they're not physically attacking you, I personally think there's no harm in it. I mean, I get that arguments can get heated and emotions can run intensely, but again... it doesn't mean they love you any less.

Don't get me wrong though. To some people, swearing is seen as disgusting behaviour. And I would say that those people aren't too compatible with people that do swear.

I think it's healthy to let it out and people who d swear in moderation are statistically proven to live longer.

[SueShe]

If your boyfriend thinks that calling a partner that he is supposed to love with demeaning words, if he thinks that cursing and swearing is fine when having an argument, then he is the kind of person that will also resort to physical abuse if the situation escalates and that is kind of worrisome.

If a person is unable to control himself in times of stress, then he will also eventually become physical with you and either beat you up, slap you or even worse, send you to hospital.

That kind of behavior is a red flag, mainly because he is aware that he cannot control himself. The fact that he told you also means that he will blame you for letting the situation escalate and state that you could have left him rather than to accept the fact that he is violent. He may actually blame you for his outburst of violence.

[Asker]

I agree
He thinks its okay if he does that when i make a mistake and that why should he think ab what he says to a person who has hurt him

[Anonymous]

The first time he says that in an argument should be the last. It's not controlling and especially now that you've established your opinion on it, it would be completely unacceptable and would be the instant termination of the relationship for me if it happened.

[Bricealan]

How old is this guy you call your boyfriend? His behavior sounds like a high school Junior that has been watching too much porn.

[Ariesman81]

Yeah. The very fact you're arguing is disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

That depends. Is his partner being a b****?😆

[avery58]

Tell him his rights end where yours begin

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend is an abusive moron.

[Asker]

His opinions are a bit questionable but he's never called me any name in the last ten months during any argument and he's a sweet guy i js dont know how to explain that js bcs he doesn't agree w what i say doesn't mean i can't set my boundaries and that im not trying to control him.

[Danny_dan92]

Nope

[dudeinohio]

He's wrong