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I’ve had a lot of older women say that I’m very pretty and that I’ll have no problem not being able to score a date with a guy, because guys will be approaching me left and right… but here I am at 23 and no man has ever approached me asking me on a date or even for my number.
I have seen this type of question on here many times. And I have answer all that I have seen in many different ways
In life we all hold ourselves back with out realizing it. When you say no guy has ever approached you to me, that means you have some sort of wall, we are all energy, and people can feel energy. That's what pulls us into other people
So that so that makes me curious about you have some sort of wall up annoying me
I've always wanted to say text me.
Or what's your phone number LOl? Because i'm curious on how you would handle that. Or if there's a wall like I said
In life we learn things each time we go through sonothing and if you haven't experience it you need to. Or even role play it out to experience it to learn from it before it happens
For me it's hard to answer this question. Because I don't know you. I'm sure there's a very simple reason
But I can't even guess without knowing you
It’s hard to say w out a pic or actually knowing your personality. Ladies please understand when women call other women pretty a lot of the time they’re looking at it overall because they know you, not just by your looks either. Men look at what you look like first. Not only that a lot of women don’t like to hurt each other’s feelings. I’ve had female co-workers tell me their friend is gorgeous, that I should date them. But when I seen a pic, far from it. So you have to see it through the men’s eyes, not the women’s in most cases. Can you offer more insight. Do you cook? Clean? Wife type? Or you a career woman? Bossy? Masculine?
I can cook and clean, I work because I have to make sure I have a roof over my head. I am not masculine. If you want to see what I look like you can pm me. I have had other women compliment me and it’ll be random ladies that I have never seen before. I can’t see it through a man’s eyes because I’m not a man.
Hats your family like as far as your mom n dad? They still married?
Where do I PM you
There divorced but they can be around each other no arguments, me and my family are really close
You just go to my prof
You’re anon so I can’t go to your profile u less I know your screen name.
Neozone
Ok. I found your profile but I can’t message you. I followed you, maybe you can message me. My profile has the number 13 at the end. Is that you w the red hair?
Yes it is
Try to message me. From what I can see you’re pretty. I’m not sure about the hair. I don’t see an array of facial piercings like a lot of women do these days. Big turn off especially bull nose piercings.
I’m unable to message since I don’t have enough xper
Ok. Do you have to accept me on your end as far as following?
I’ve messaged tou
Maybe that’s just not meant to be your experience. You might as well ask why you didn’t end up with a high school sweetheart or why your dating app matches never work out — those things just weren’t meant to happen for you.
Yeah maybe, it’s starting to look like a relationship isn’t meant to be my experience either
You never know what’s meant to happen in your future, there’s no roadmap for what’s supposed to happen and at what age. If you can’t find a man right now maybe it’s a sign that you should be focusing on yourself. I know that’s not what you want to hear, I didn’t wanna hear that either, but it was true.
I’ve focused on myself for years, I even decided not to date in high school like my peers did which was sad, that I didn’t get to experience what all my friends did. The more time they I’m single the more I think that’s it for me, I get to hear about everyone’s dating lives and how great the relationship there in is. Yet I can’t even talk about one cause I haven’t had one, so it’s very disheartening. Yeah I don’t want to hear “it takes time” because it sucks that I’m left out.
I hear you, I actually had a very similar experience with opting not to date in high school and started looking like around 21-22. I didn’t get into a serious relationship until 28, totally unexpected, after lots of waiting around. I think in your age range is when a lot of your friends and stuff are starting to settle down so you feel left out and even pressure to find a relationship because you don’t want to get older alone. You just have to understand you aren’t on everyone else’s timeline, and the person you’re meant to be with just isn’t at the point in their lives to meet you yet. That’s partially why it takes time. When I finally met the right guy, I could only wish I met him sooner rather but it wasn’t our time yet.
Yeah I get that, but this isn’t how I want to live my life. Wondering if I’m ugly and that’s why no one wants to be with me, or am I not skinny enough? I’ve went into a deep depression years ago about this same topic, and I feel like I’m going to slip into it again
I think that’s a matter of self esteem, and no one can take care of that better than you. This is coming from someone who also struggled with self esteem and used to equate male attention to whether I looked good or not. There’s been plenty of times in the past where my best friends were approached but not me, whether it was parties in high school or at the club as an adult. It’s hard not to take being single and not approached so much as a sign that you’re not a catch. I don’t want to be naive and say that couldn’t have been a thing, of course it could. But that part of your life shouldn’t dictate how you feel about your appearance or cause your confidence to suffer. I felt the best once I stopped comparing myself to other women or equating how much I was or wasn’t approached by men to if I looked good or not.
I’ve never compared myself to other women, I do have moments where I think “maybe I’m just ugly” that’s been every now and then but recently it’s been a lot more. I’ve been very confident until recently
That’s good, I definitely compared myself to friends who got more attention on nights out or in general, kind of hard not to. Maybe you should look into what triggered you to feel lack of confidence again. You could’ve unintentionally stopped doing something that was making you feel prettier or saw something that set you back. I have my times too, could last for a few months even.
Hi could you message me and send me your pic
I would like to help out
It won’t let me message but if I followed you back if you message me :)
Also I have a picture of myself on a post that I made
I did follow you but was not able to message you for some reason
oh yes I saw your picture
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Do you come across as unapproachable? Then approach HIM. If you have been exchanging glances with him, walk up to him invite him out for coffee. Have a sticky note with your telephone number on it and press it into his hand. Tell him, "If you are interested, you know where to find me". And then walk away.
It would have been a jolt to me, but I would have been intrigued. What would you and I have to lose? You start something or you don't. Young people make this too complicated.
I have went up to guys myself, they just reject me.
You only need one Yes.
Yet, all I get are no’s
Have you asked any males? Women will all pet you as part of the sisterhood. Only men will tell you the truth. Do you know ant men who are honest and direct?
Oh the sisterhood you’re thinking of isn’t what actually happens. Some sisterhoods beat you DOWN like the one I was apart of 😁. No I don’t know any men that’s why I’m asking here
Not all men will tell the truth, just like all women don’t pet you. I’m not even in the “sisterhood” anymore haven’t been since I turned 19, so no males I can talk to and no sisterhood to talk to. Which little warning my sister died so yeah no sisterhood.
It's quite possible it's just the era; society. A lot of women are having trouble getting dates, these days because of how men have been verbally beaten up the past 10 years, or so. The "Me Too" movement and all that happy horse shit!! Men are tired of it and aren't even bothering, anymore. They've gotten to the point where there's just no point in even trying, anymore. Maybe you should try going after them.
I have gone after guys, it just doesn’t work out for me. I know I’m not bad looking but I’m also not some amazing looking model goddess either.
It looks like being born a women has been absolutely horrible for me
If it makes you feel any better, a lot of women told me I was quite good-looking most of my life but I never had a girlfriend until just before I turned 25 and she was married (supposedly getting a divorce)!! My first "real" girlfriend didn't show up until 9 years later and she ended up cheating on me! My REAL real girlfriend just showed up one year ago and we are QUITE happy with each other and are planning to spend the rest of our lives together!!
It doesn’t really make me feel any better, but I’m happy you found someone. I’m 23 and not getting any younger though I do look like I’m younger. I’m honestly losing hope, even if people tell me to wait, I just don’t want to slip into the depressive state I was in during high school when everyone around me who if I’m being honest did not look good were getting asked out left and right and I was just kinda there. Did I show my depressive state? No, I held it in until I got home
You're ONLY 23! The next 30 years will take FOREVER to get through. Just like the last 23 did. You'll find SOMEONE in that amount of time.
Yeah probably, personally do I think imma be around for another 30? Probably not, time goes fast when your alone
Not really, I've been alone most of my life and it drags on F O R E V E R!!!
Don't take women's advice about how good you look because all women think they look better than they actually do. Ask guys they'll give you a real answer. It's not always about looks and it's not always about being overweight but if you're fat and ugly it's stacked against you
Yeah I’m definitely no where near being fat, I also don’t take women’s compliments as a sure thing. But I will say I don’t view myself bad looking at all but I’m definitely not a super model when it comes to looks
Look if you're even slightly below average in the looks you're not going to have any issues getting a guy trust me and right now guys are kind of apprehensive about talking to girls cuz like all this bullshit on social media these like these new standards and protocols that you're supposed to do so it's just a confusing time also but seriously you'll be fine I think in the long run it's just right now is a little shaky but I'm old so it doesn't even apply to me because guys my age don't really even want girls my age because the ones that are available at my age are trash basically sorry but not sorry
Yeah I guess, unfortunately I can only go based of how I think I look. Do I think I’m below average? Hell no there’s girls that look worse than me if I’m being honest. It is hard for me to get a guy, I mean I’m 23 never had a relationship before or a physical relationship with a either. That being said yeah it is hard.
Okay if you're 23 and your least average you should have guys like lining up because guys aren't getting laid till they're like almost 30 now from what I'm understanding so maybe they gave up or the only other thing I can tell you is because of all the crap between men and women in recent years men are really disenfranchised about approaching women now that's kind of your girl's fault but it's also guys fault for making you not want us to approach you but you might have to go and make the first move you might have to go ask the guy if he wants to go for coffee or something and that could be what the issue is men are sick of being called you know misogynist and this and that even though it might have come down now you know women give a shit for quite some time if we were to try to go ask for a number we would get yelled at or their friend would yell at us for them so let me tell you this this guy is wasting your time it's reminiscent of what girls have done to me before like they don't know they want to keep their options open but they're afraid that if some other guy they're talking to slips through the finger they you know they want you as a backup this is what that seems like to me so I would walk away from this one as much as you may not want to but the next time you're going to have to approach a guy or if you start talking to a guy somehow through whatever random conversation you think he's cute and ask him out just ask him out men were dying for you girls to ask us out and I think that's the shift that's going to have to happen before us guys start asking you girls out again you're going to have to start asking us out again I think that's actually the real answer I'm going to shut up now cuz I'll keep talking to this stupid talk to text thing all day
The better question is with no guy doing it for so many decades, (yes I realize you're only 18-24, that was the point. You're practically a fetus) then why I are you sitting thier waiting? Why aren't you going on the offensive to make it happen. The early bird gets worms.
I have went on offense and it doesn’t work out, I’ve approached guys myself and they reject me.
It doesn't work out for guys either. Did you think every guy was supposed to say yes? Guys get rejected 90% of the time AT BEST.
I’m not saying that guys don’t, but geez it’s hard to actually find someone.
Go doll yourself up and hang around the bar in a club. Also try online dating. Get a couple nice photos. Men will approach. If they don't, then you're 1 in a million.
Unfortunately I don’t know how to “doll” myself up, I’ve never been shown how to. I don’t know how to use makeup or what to even dress like to do so.
I grew up being told by the women in my life and even my father that I have a pretty face that doesn’t need makeup to look better so I was never shown how to doll myself up :(
Why don't you approach a guy that you are interested in?
I have… reject hits me every time
If guys are not seeing you as attractive, you may need to change your habits
Habits? Such as?
But you know what if guys see me as unattractive that’s fine, I’m not some pretty white girl lol I’m black and apparently that’s unattractive. 🤷🏽♀️ I can’t change what my face looks like, because I’m not going to do surgery on my face for a man
I never mentioned surgery. So many girls are attractive and get male attention.
Habits such as exercise, being healthy, eating well, getting good sleep
Yeah I already do those things. Also want to point out that those things don’t do anything because look at where I’m at. I’m asking this question. I work out 3-4 times a week, I don’t eat fast food, and make sure my meals are balanced.
Where you are at is a guy has never wanted your number. Something is off if you are that pretty and no guy is interested. What’s going on?
🤷🏽♀️ that’s why I’m asking. Probably means that I’m not pretty
Why did you ask the question anon @neozone?
Because my face is on my account and honestly being 23 and never approached is embarrassing, I didn’t want my face being attached to it since I’m already embarrassed enough
It’s a level one account. Embarrassment isn’t the reason. Please be honest.
Yeah embarrassment is the reason, I’m not sure if you grew up well liked or had people wanting to be with you or not. But it really is embarrassing for me. I have no reason to lie about it. If you look at my other responses to this post then you’d see I’ve talked about how I’ve gone into depression because of this topic while in high school, so yeah it’s very embarrassing for me
High school sucks for lots of people. I was bullied for being a bean pole., bean pole Barry.., I’d cry when I got home.
You didn’t need to ask if it embarrasses you
Your face isn’t in your profile. It’s a color
I asked because I want to know why. I can’t understand something if I don’t ask, and these answers are helping me understand a bit. I’ll never figure out if there’s something wrong with me to other people, but I’m trying to understand
I made a post that shows my face
Ok good luck
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