Is a woman past a certain age (25-29) who’s still a virgin incomplete? Would you judge her?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Incomplete? No. That's the opposite of how men think - that's how WOMEN think of virgin men.

Now, would there be questions? Yes, probably, but the questions would be:

- is she asexual?

- Is she afraid of sex?

- Is she afraid of, or unable to, or unwilling to, be in a relationship?

- Does she have some other trauma or mental health issue?

If she's a virgin simply because she hasn't met the right man with the right values, most men are going to be completely fine with that.

If she's a virgin because she hasn't met the right man because she's waiting for Henry Cavill (or some other handsome, popular, wealthy Chad) to sweep her off her feet, then men are going to know that she's ridiculous, entitled, and immature, and will probably stay away.

If she's a virgin because she doesn't like or want sex, or is afraid of it, or because she has some other trauma, then that too can be a red flag for most men - though an asexual man might be thrilled.

Men value INexperience in a woman, not experience (it's women who want their man to be experienced - men want the opposite), but by your mid-late 20s, she probably shouldn't be super naive about the world either. You don't always have to experience something personally to understand how it works.

Most men, especially most men who actually WANT a serious relationship (which is certainly not ALL men), would MUCH prefer a virgin than a woman with a 2 (or 3+) digit body count.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Well, when it comes to being long term girlfriend material or wife material a virgin is always the best. Women are supposed to be virgins, marry young and have families. That is pretty much a woman's role as a biological organism. Men are to build and maintain everything and protect. If all the men just stopped building and growing food and infrastructure and stopped protecting, criminals and foreign invaders would wipe EVERYTHING out and take it. Well, all the women in society just decided they'll stop having children. They got the pill so they'll just erase our society and culture by not having kids for the future generations. We'll see how this turns out in about 50 to 100 years. Almost all women want to have careers in comfy offices at computers, living only for pleasure, they have the pill now, No kids and promiscuity will make the "happy".

That being said. Why so old? How have you gone 10-15 years and not found a guy? That is your prime. That is when you lock down a guy, not wait until you are 30.

ohsheeT · Answer

If I was to judge her it would on how strong she is for waiting so long

Speaking_Frankly · Answer

I would only judge only if she thinks she's of superior virtuous standing based on a social/religious construct.

Whether she's asexual, recovering from some unresolved trauma, saving herself in the name of some ideal of purity, whatever the reasons are for her being chaste are not for me to consider her incomplete.

The most likely judgement I will make is that I probably wouldn't date such a person unless they understood my intentions were not to take their virginity as some sort of prize or claim for bragging rights.

Berethor · Answer

I would not judge her, I would want to date her, virgin women are best, I don't like hos.

DonaldDarko · Answer

No in this day and age that wouldn't be surprising. She probably just couldn't find a man any more than men can find women that are worth committing to or even talking to. We live in bizarre times. I doubt anything like this has happened before.

deaddude7734 · Answer

I would not judge her for being a "virgin" (in fact, I would actually be MORE inclined to try and ask her out on a date)... however, I would DEFINITELY wonder just how much of a "virgin" she really is (because of "hook-up culture", I think a TON of "virgins" out there still had oral sex before they were even old enough to vote ---- like it or not, having oral sex still sort of counts towards "losing virginity")...

Twalli · Answer

I wouldn't say that, but you should find out why she's a virgin past 25, if you intend to have a sexual relationship with her. My girlfriend was one until 33 (sex was my birthday present to her). She just never was in a strong or deep enough relationship before.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I had a girlfriend a number of years ago who was 36 and still a virgin. I didn’t think anything of it. She started messing around with some 19/20 something year old guy at her work … that’s what ended us. :-p

HighValue · Answer

That would be so much better than one that had casual sex or that has kids from past relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

Technically speaking, everyone casts judgment. Even on this, they would judge her as positive or negative, but now it's just a judge, which is just a filler word that would mean judging those people badly. So no, I would not judge her badly because it's not any of my business, and she wants to stay like that, so let her be.

lightbulb27 · Answer

no, but it just raises questions. frankly if she's not, it raises questions,  incomplete? no.

Benjiman19 · Answer

Why would I judge her? It's her choice to remain a virgin for as long as she wants. If she decides she wants to lose her virginity, all she needs is to ask a man.

Iron_Man · Answer

No I would honor her for holding off if that was the case unless she wanted to have sex but just couldn’t find it then I can’t compliment somebody that does that

Shiprex · Answer

Not in the slightest. No judgement because she is stronger than many who've given in to temptation.

WonderingManII · Answer

If she is a Christian Woman, and she chose to be that way, I respect her for it.

slatyb · Answer

No, she's not incomplete, just inexperienced. But how would I even know?

McSteamy · Answer

Why would someone judge a person based on their virginity. It's just sex which takes hardly 10 mins out of a day.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

As someone who. was a 35yr old virgin, I wouldn't want to judge anyone

exitseven · Answer

Of course not. everyone has different life experiences and different life circumstances.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

I would judge her positively. She's not into jumping into bed like most of the others.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Me judge? No. My opinion? Yes. She is incomplete. Life's too short

Vegasrunner · Answer

she's as complete as they come. Having a man penetrate you does not increase a woman's value.

onedarkcloud · Answer

Why would I or even should I judge anyone who keeps their virginity? That is their personal choice

Pohjolan · Answer

It literally takes less than a hour to fix that and comes with less risk of STDs and cheating.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I'm 27 and a virgin, so how could I judge her?

doruk2000 · Answer

No, of course not, it is not a deficiency or anything. I'm a 25 year old man and I'm still a virgin and I'm proud of it. I always prefer a girl who has no sexual experience like me.

moviedude714 · Answer

Most would think that she's saving for marriage or she's just very picky

Sal_Monella · Answer

Why would she be? Just plenty of miles left that I hope to drive.

Staximus · Answer

Everybody judges everybody. I would wonder why she never had sex.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Everyone judges. What judgements are you asking about?

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

No. As a lad, lots of mid-to-late-twenties women were virgins.

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