IS A 27 YEARS OLD VIRGIN WOMAN A RETARD?

[Anonymous]

I am a 27 year old european woman, soon 28, and i never dated anyone, no kiss, nothing. I am very shy and I don't know how to change that, I would love to have a boyfriend get married have babies but I absolutely don't know how to do. It seems that all girls have a line of men waiting for them but not me. It never happened to me that a man come to talk to me or ask me to go out with him. I am totally lost and if I have a boyfriend one day I fear he will think I am a retard for being a virgin. I have ZERO experience and don't know how I am supposed to act.

[calvin_ssh]

Two words '27' and 'virgin'.

I think you wanna say that people younger than your age have gotten into relationships pretty quick and have had a lot of fun time and experiences. That might be true. If you consider someone younger than you has lost their virginity and engaged in sex a couple of times, well that person can't live the rest of their life just on the basis of these memories. The pleasure ends the very moment you end having sex. That means either you'll have to relive that experience by doing it repeatedly or just get a better life instead. Would you be proud of saying that you had sex a dozen times or rather would you be proud of saying that you have accomplished something in life which would motivate you every time you look back at it rather than your sex life. And secondly sex is not a life changing experience because if it was, people would have been advising you to have sex instead of doing whatever you're doing (work/school) or even government would had made sex mandatory for every citizen just cause it's beneficial. Forget that if sex was really that great of a thing, people would had been running naked on the streets yelling that "I have finally achieved the most precious thing in life, Sex!". But none of those things are happening, right? So you're not a retard at all, this is such a vague statement. People should stand for some principles and values in their life and not just achieving sexual pleasure. And to make you feel better, I have seen people getting into relationships and marrying even at the age of 50 and there are 7 billion people in the world, it's just not possible that you can't get along with anyone.

[SteveSmith1985]

Your question made me laugh SO hard. Not your situation, merely it's wording.

But NO!!! I don't think that makes you a retard at all! You're just shy! You know as much about yourself. That's the ONLY reason that you haven't kissed or had sex yet.

Being shy is very different from being retarded. I think shyness I can help you with.

Here's lesson one, how about you send me a message, and we chat there so I don't have to air all your business on here. I know your shy... but... gotta push those boundaries... hope you do... I'm sure we can figure out some sort of solution for you... I look forward to chatting...

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
I'm like you, I'm 27, never had a boyfriend and I also never been on a date. I had men interested in me, but I wasn't interested in them.
Trust me, I know how you feel and it's frustrating. Maybe you should try to go out more to meet people, maybe you could use social media. Or perhaps you can try online dating, I mean meeting men online but only those who live nearby. Don't try long distance relationships.
There's nothing wrong with you and you're not a retard for sure.

[IHateBeingaMan]

it's more shocking to hear of a woman being single this long compared to a guy

[Opinion Owner]

@IHateBeingaMan You mean her or me?

[IHateBeingaMan]

for both

[Opinion Owner]

@IHateBeingaMan There are things in life that are way more shocking that being a virgin at the age of 27.

[IHateBeingaMan]

that is true, its just normally you don't expect women to be single this long because women don't have to do the pursuing

[Opinion Owner]

@IHateBeingaMan If you only knew about my life, you wouldn't be shocked...

[Marinaughty]

Dont worry You'll find your boyfriend in right time at right place so don't rush. If you just need to lose your "virginity" then I suggest to do it with someone you trust. I shared the house with couples girls n trust me guys don't line up after girls, they don't like wasting time, the girls actually have to flirt around n turn the green light, my Flatmates tried really hard so I think you'll find one soon. All the best for your love life.

[Lynx122]

Are you trying to find a guy or are you just waiting? Even though a guy has to do most of the work a girl has to at least show that she's looking for a guy and try and be inviting. Maybe it's just your mentality where you get too afraid and signal that you don't want anybody to come up to you. Try and ask yourself if you're subconciously pushing people away and then try and change that. I don't think you're retarded at all most people have difficulty with these things.

[victtory]

Same thing also happened to some guys..
Try and be dressing decently and feminist, let guys notice your beauty, be free to talk with guys.. And if you notice a guy that's close to you, give him some signs and green light.
By the way, being virgin and having zero experience on sex won't make a reasonable think that you are retard.
If you are lucky to find a lucky man, he will even appreciate it

[Anonymous]

Men may worry older virgins are not interested in sex

but assuming you’re eager and enthusiastic, and it’s a relationship not a hookup, most men would actually be delighted you were inexperienced. They find it charming and enjoy knowing they’re the only one to have had you.

[hisokadb]

Well u should go out more with friends and friends of friends or in ir job and stuff , i dont know if u have social media but is good to have (Instagram etc) may i ask u in which country of eu u live

[Asker]

I live in France

[hisokadb]

Thats nice to hear and if u live in Paris even better right the city of love what can go wrong. i traveled like 7 countrys by far but not yet in France maybe ill do it

[Jojoseewahh]

Stop letting people and media push u to believe that the most purest thing about you is wrong. Take your time love. Fall in love with yourself first then others will follow suit...

[lucas262]

Im 24, and i never did any of that.
No your not retarded don't think that about yourself. I doubt very much any man would think that, it'd be between being happy he's the one who takes you virginity and or being amazed there are any virgins left.

[Gedaria]

No, It's her choice. Having sex is not mandatory...

[IlyaTheImpaler]

but you're kinda funny, write this on your dating profile 😂
I'd like to make babies too but it's harder than it sounds

[Dchrls78104]

And I will soon be 42 and I'm still a virgin; I'm sure that that doesn't make me---or you ---a retard.

[outside_Toronto]

Lacking social skills... yes
Retarded... probably not

[Anonymous]

why you wait a guy to approach you? if you feel a crush over any guy, go ahead and kiss him on the lips directly but first make sure he isn't married or engaged or with girlfriend

[Opinion Owner]

Did you kiss anybody yesterday? At least today kiss any random guy

[Opinion Owner]

No i didn't

[rockrewls]

There is someone for everyone out there, and no you are not retarded.

[Anonymous]

is this a troll post? it's normally shocking for cases like this to happen to a woman because women can be passive and still be able to get a boyfriend.

[Asker]

you get a boyfriend if you are passive AND very attractive but if you are a normal looking girl, unfortunately you seem like invisible next to outgoing women.

[Opinion Owner]

ya I was speaking of my resentment how men are always expected to approach women

[Bandit74]

Not necessarily.

[pigoat]

No i am not retarded