Men, is a woman being a virgin in her midtwenties a turn off?

[Anonymous]

Would you date a virgin who said she "saves it for the right person"?

[Rab1901]

I think that there is a huge misconception when it comes to this topic because of porn and there are more (quantity) guys getting what they can from girls who are more willing/open to have sex. I can say with 100% certainty that no quality guys would be turned off by that. If anything, they'd be flattered and think you have self-control and respect. They might be turned off by a high count because they wouldn't want to just be another guy to a girl especially if we're talking about being in a relationship.

If you believe your virginity is affecting attraction, you're either misreading cues or the guys around you are of lower quality. It is possible that they think you're of too high quality and they want to bring you down to their level. Ask yourself this: Do you want to be with one of those chumps? Why? If it's just cuz he looks cute then you have to have higher standards for other traits. If you absolutely need more guys to be attracted to you, go to a big city. Does that really matter though if you can attract one amazing partner? I don't think so.

I wouldn't worry too much about others and work on yourself because there is always room to improve. Guys will notice if you care about yourself and recognize that you care about yourself and you're humble enough to work hard. Feel free to at least hint that you're interested in someone if you're shy. Whatever you do, don't settle for a low quality person. Patience is key and patience is not the same as laziness. Have a nice day 🙂

[CallMeDave]

I don't think that is uncommon and I don't think it would be a problem for most guys. Probably quite a few would think it's a good thing in fact and would be happy to help teach you (or to learn together with you if they're also virgins which could be the case). When I was in that age range, it would have been just fine with me if a woman I was interested in was a virgin.

My opinion is that you should not worry about it. When you find a decent guy that you're attracted to and that's attracted to you, I'm sure it will be fine. And honestly, if a guy rejects you just for that reason, that's likely a sign that he's not right for you anyway. If your sexual experience is more important to him than all of the other good things about you that you bring to a relationship, then I think his focus is on the wrong thing and he probably wouldn't be someone you'd be happy with anyway.

[Yyyyp789]

She is a virgin for a reason. Guys who thinks that it's a turn off are basically the ones who are into something casual, obviously a woman who is experienced on bed are generally "fun" . A man who wants to be with you on a long term, would cherish that you waited for him and understand the true value of your chastity.

[deadroses18]

I’m a virgin and i feel like there’s no hype to it lol everyone was once a virgin it dosent matter. It prolly feels the same lol it’s still a vagina nothing crazy. But I’m not losing mine till I fall in love.

[Apope16]

There is no such thing as a woman as a virgin being a turnoff. Not at any age. Dont worry you are cool. Actually.. a woman who is a virgin makes a guy more horny because of the innocence of the girl experiencing sex for the first time.

[Desconhecida]

Being a virgin is gold for men

[AshleySeeks]

So true

[Asker]

I don't think most men, especially those who want enjoyable sex?

[Desconhecida]

It's something more dominating in them. Being the first, maybe the only man she ever had. It makes wonders for their egos

[AshleySeeks]

Everyone wants to be 1st, not 2nd or 3rd or 4th

[Desconhecida]

The first and the last! LOL

[AshleySeeks]

Lol exactly

[Dongtai]

It wasn’t until I dated 20+ virgins. Something has been “off” with every virgin I dated who was in her 20’s. They’re things I didn’t pick up on until I got to know them. These girls typically haven’t dated a lot, maybe has had one or two boyfriends and little to no experience.


I’m not trolling. In my experience there has been a reason why these girls were virgins. Not a personal choice reason either. It’s the kind of reasons that make you go “No wonder she hasn’t had a lot of boyfriends.”


Religion is the biggest one but there’s more. Sometimes they have extremely weird or strict perceptions about sex and intimacy, they don’t like sex/intimacy or have a personality glitch that drives men away before they can think of having sex with her. Dating a virgin sounds fun at first because you get these fantasies of “teaching her” and stuff but the reality is she’s 20+ and there’s probably a not so sexy reason why she’s still a virgin.

[thomasmore]

while i don't think it's a turn off to date a virgin in her mid twenties, I probably would not date a woman that told me she saves it for the right person.
If she has not found "the right person" at that time, her expectations are probably way over the top, and there is a big chance the first real relationship will fail.

[PrincessKittyAZN]

Not necessarily... I for example unfortunately have not found 'the right person' as yet. :'( It's not because of my expectations... My expections are that they are a guy and is nice. That's all. I just can't get a guy to talk to me... that's all :( And when I try talking to them they are more concerned with their phone or just ignore me... :/

There is a possibility that a girl can't even get a guy to speak to her even at that age.

[thomasmore]

@PrincessKittyAZN I don't really know how dating works in hong kong, but if you have online dating platforms, you might give one of those a chance.
if you wan't to try this, google for do's and don'ts of dating profiles.
some platforms might be free for women, but make sure they have monthly fees, not pay per answer for your counterpart!
if you find someone you want to meet in real life, do it in a public place with people (if that is even possible in the current situation), and don't wait forever.

[PrincessKittyAZN]

Oh no... I don't live in Hong Kong... :/ I don't know why it switched to that on my profile... I live in Trinidad and Tobago. And in my country it is nearly IMPOSSIBLE to meet someone on a dating site withinn my own country. Peole don't actually do that here...

[hahahmm]

I applaud you having high standards. But I'd wonder why she wants to date... just to have someone to give her attention while she's actually looking for another guy to give herself to? Not a good relationship starter. I'd be way more impressed if you said you didn't date any guys at all but you wanted to be platonic friends till you click with the right person.

[Hermes-Paris]

Its fine if it's your life decision not to. When I was in my twenties and single I did meet a few and passed on even asking them out. Its a long and winding road for a guy in his twenties to go voluntarily without for a year or two while she decides of you are the right one or not. And if not? Just wasted a couple of your prime years in the frustration zone. So to answer your question Yes. I would look elsewhere.

[rjroy3]

No, but if she was putting off sex with me not for lack of attraction but saving her virginity as some ethereal thing that matters. That is a turn off for me.

Doing it for religious reasons I get even if I don't agree with it. Outside that I'm not really in support of honesty

[Floppy2112]

Being a virgin is never a turn off! It's not a dirty word. It's nothing to even consider being ashamed of. On the marriage radar, it can put you at the top. A guy doesn't have to worry about a high body count.
I would like to see virgins take back their voices and be proud of that shit. Think of how many stupid regrettable decisions you didn't.

[LEBANONBEAUTY]

A man that doesn't like virgins is not a real man. I'm virgin and a real woman doesn't want to be used by a lustful idiot.

[Gosceewual]

no because whenever a girl is a virgin it’s because she’s choosing to be,
It’s not like she’s some unattractive loser that can’t get a guy to fuck her, any girl can

It’s only unattractive when a guy is still a virgin because it’s says that no girls ever wanted to do it with him and that he’s probably an unattractive loser which is why no girls wanted to fuck him

[K-I-S-S]

Nah, more like a blessing for most guys.

Guys seem to have harder time if they haven't lost theirs at twenties or even worse when later.

Never seen the downsides with that, for either gender, more of other apsects that might affect the reason.

At what age do you find a virgin man off putting?

[TheFlak38]

"saves it for the right person" the only thing she's saying is how entitled she is with astronomical standards even though she has only a vagina to put on the table. I have met 50 year old women like you still waiting for the prince to get married and give birth to children. I wish I was joking.

[yofuknutz]

Yeah I know what you mean

[Guido]

There is nothing wrong with a woman holding true to who they are and what they want. Chosing to date a person has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with developing a relationship and see where it goes. With the right person you may not wait for marriage to have sex but then again you might. There is no right or wrong answer, only what you choose for yourself.

[hi_it_is_me123]

there are many male cunts who want a virgin. Non virgin used up boys should stfu and should not even have a right to prefere virgin women. Virgin deserve virgin. Find someone like you who also saves for the right person

[Daniela1982]

Have you asked this before because it seems like this virgin age question comes up almost every day, only the ages are different. As for the dating part, why wouldn't the guy date her? He may be the guy she is saving it for for all he or she knows.

[strawberrylipstick]

i mean no , unless its linked to a strange event like... lmao i was with someone who was like that and she repeatedly said i was the right person lol , and tHeN sHe fUcKed hEr eX wHo wAs a hOmoPhObic DiCk XD

[Anonymous]

Right now being in my early 30's and just dating casually with the intention to have sex, would mean a turn off for me. But let's say that in the future, when i am ready to settle down with a wife and have children. Having a virgin at your age would be a big turn on.

[MCheetah]

No. No one but a f*kboi would find that a turn-off. It's actually an admirable trait, although good luck finding someone who wants to "save it till marriage" with you.

[Asker]

Didn't indicate the marriage part

[MCheetah]

That's usually implied, but okay.

[TOTEMPLASTER]

Why not?
Besides, someone has to pop her cherry and that goal would add spice to the relationship, even if eventually unsuccessful.

[KrazyKem]

I think it's cool, if anything it makes you more valuable in my opinion because it means you don't just sleep around, not slut shaming any men or women here but being a virgin in your midtwenties is awesome I could never be with someone that had more than 3 sexual partners and again that's just me.