Men, is a woman being a virgin in her midtwenties a turn off?

Question

Would you date a virgin who said she "saves it for the right person"?

Rab1901 · Accepted Answer

I think that there is a huge misconception when it comes to this topic because of porn and there are more (quantity) guys getting what they can from girls who are more willing/open to have sex. I can say with 100% certainty that no quality guys would be turned off by that. If anything, they'd be flattered and think you have self-control and respect. They might be turned off by a high count because they wouldn't want to just be another guy to a girl especially if we're talking about being in a relationship.

If you believe your virginity is affecting attraction, you're either misreading cues or the guys around you are of lower quality. It is possible that they think you're of too high quality and they want to bring you down to their level. Ask yourself this: Do you want to be with one of those chumps? Why? If it's just cuz he looks cute then you have to have higher standards for other traits. If you absolutely need more guys to be attracted to you, go to a big city. Does that really matter though if you can attract one amazing partner? I don't think so.

I wouldn't worry too much about others and work on yourself because there is always room to improve. Guys will notice if you care about yourself and recognize that you care about yourself and you're humble enough to work hard. Feel free to at least hint that you're interested in someone if you're shy. Whatever you do, don't settle for a low quality person. Patience is key and patience is not the same as laziness. Have a nice day 🙂

CallMeDave · Accepted Answer

I don't think that is uncommon and I don't think it would be a problem for most guys. Probably quite a few would think it's a good thing in fact and would be happy to help teach you (or to learn together with you if they're also virgins which could be the case). When I was in that age range, it would have been just fine with me if a woman I was interested in was a virgin.

My opinion is that you should not worry about it. When you find a decent guy that you're attracted to and that's attracted to you, I'm sure it will be fine. And honestly, if a guy rejects you just for that reason, that's likely a sign that he's not right for you anyway. If your sexual experience is more important to him than all of the other good things about you that you bring to a relationship, then I think his focus is on the wrong thing and he probably wouldn't be someone you'd be happy with anyway.

Yyyyp789 · Accepted Answer

She is a virgin for a reason. Guys who thinks that it's a turn off are basically the ones who are into something casual, obviously a woman who is experienced on bed are generally "fun" . A man who wants to be with you on a long term, would cherish that you waited for him and understand the true value of your chastity.

deadroses18 · Accepted Answer

I’m a virgin and i feel like there’s no hype to it lol everyone was once a virgin it dosent matter. It prolly feels the same lol it’s still a vagina nothing crazy. But I’m not losing mine till I fall in love.

Apope16 · Answer

There is no such thing as a woman as a virgin being a turnoff. Not at any age. Dont worry you are cool. Actually.. a woman who is a virgin makes a guy more horny because of the innocence of the girl experiencing sex for the first time.

Desconhecida · Answer

Being a virgin is gold for men

Dongtai · Answer

It wasn’t until I dated 20+ virgins. Something has been “off” with every virgin I dated who was in her 20’s. They’re things I didn’t pick up on until I got to know them. These girls typically haven’t dated a lot, maybe has had one or two boyfriends and little to no experience.

I’m not trolling. In my experience there has been a reason why these girls were virgins. Not a personal choice reason either. It’s the kind of reasons that make you go “No wonder she hasn’t had a lot of boyfriends.”

Religion is the biggest one but there’s more. Sometimes they have extremely weird or strict perceptions about sex and intimacy, they don’t like sex/intimacy or have a personality glitch that drives men away before they can think of having sex with her. Dating a virgin sounds fun at first because you get these fantasies of “teaching her” and stuff but the reality is she’s 20+ and there’s probably a not so sexy reason why she’s still a virgin.

thomasmore · Answer

while i don't think it's a turn off to date a virgin in her mid twenties, I probably would not date a woman that told me she saves it for the right person.
If she has not found "the right person" at that time, her expectations are probably way over the top, and there is a big chance the first real relationship will fail.

hahahmm · Answer

I applaud you having high standards. But I'd wonder why she wants to date... just to have someone to give her attention while she's actually looking for another guy to give herself to? Not a good relationship starter. I'd be way more impressed if you said you didn't date any guys at all but you wanted to be platonic friends till you click with the right person.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

Its fine if it's your life decision not to. When I was in my twenties and single I did meet a few and passed on even asking them out. Its a long and winding road for a guy in his twenties to go voluntarily without for a year or two while she decides of you are the right one or not. And if not? Just wasted a couple of your prime years in the frustration zone. So to answer your question Yes. I would look elsewhere.

rjroy3 · Answer

No, but if she was putting off sex with me not for lack of attraction but saving her virginity as some ethereal thing that matters. That is a turn off for me.

Doing it for religious reasons I get even if I don't agree with it. Outside that I'm not really in support of honesty

Floppy2112 · Answer

Being a virgin is never a turn off! It's not a dirty word. It's nothing to even consider being ashamed of. On the marriage radar, it can put you at the top. A guy doesn't have to worry about a high body count.
I would like to see virgins take back their voices and be proud of that shit. Think of how many stupid regrettable decisions you didn't.

LEBANONBEAUTY · Answer

A man that doesn't like virgins is not a real man. I'm virgin and a real woman doesn't want to be used by a lustful idiot.

Gosceewual · Answer

no because whenever a girl is a virgin it’s because she’s choosing to be,
It’s not like she’s some unattractive loser that can’t get a guy to fuck her, any girl can

It’s only unattractive when a guy is still a virgin because it’s says that no girls ever wanted to do it with him and that he’s probably an unattractive loser which is why no girls wanted to fuck him

K-I-S-S · Answer

Nah, more like a blessing for most guys.

Guys seem to have harder time if they haven't lost theirs at twenties or even worse when later.

Never seen the downsides with that, for either gender, more of other apsects that might affect the reason.

At what age do you find a virgin man off putting?

TheFlak38 · Answer

"saves it for the right person" the only thing she's saying is how entitled she is with astronomical standards even though she has only a vagina to put on the table. I have met 50 year old women like you still waiting for the prince to get married and give birth to children. I wish I was joking.

Guido · Answer

There is nothing wrong with a woman holding true to who they are and what they want. Chosing to date a person has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with developing a relationship and see where it goes. With the right person you may not wait for marriage to have sex but then again you might. There is no right or wrong answer, only what you choose for yourself.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

there are many male cunts who want a virgin. Non virgin used up boys should stfu and should not even have a right to prefere virgin women. Virgin deserve virgin. Find someone like you who also saves for the right person

Daniela1982 · Answer

Have you asked this before because it seems like this virgin age question comes up almost every day, only the ages are different. As for the dating part, why wouldn't the guy date her? He may be the guy she is saving it for for all he or she knows.

strawberrylipstick · Answer

i mean no , unless its linked to a strange event like... lmao i was with someone who was like that and she repeatedly said i was the right person lol , and tHeN sHe fUcKed hEr eX wHo wAs a hOmoPhObic DiCk XD

Anonymous · Answer

Right now being in my early 30's and just dating casually with the intention to have sex, would mean a turn off for me. But let's say that in the future, when i am ready to settle down with a wife and have children. Having a virgin at your age would be a big turn on.

MCheetah · Answer

No. No one but a f*kboi would find that a turn-off. It's actually an admirable trait, although good luck finding someone who wants to "save it till marriage" with you.

KrazyKem · Answer

I think it's cool, if anything it makes you more valuable in my opinion because it means you don't just sleep around, not slut shaming any men or women here but being a virgin in your midtwenties is awesome I could never be with someone that had more than 3 sexual partners and again that's just me.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Absolutely, thats ideal in fact. I don't want a woman who would just give it away to anyone and every one.

TOTEMPLASTER · Answer

Why not? Besides, someone has to pop her cherry and that goal would add spice to the relationship, even if eventually unsuccessful.

Alice2J · Answer

My religion is Muslim and we can't have sex until after marriage and most of them probably on their mid twenties so I don't think there is something wrong with it at all. Why we can't have sex before marriage is to not have a baby without a parents.

Hogwheels · Answer

No, for me it's a turn on because I've saved myself as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Only if she were saving for marriage and she's Christian. I'm willing to look 3 years older than my age unless she's super hot then 4, but statistically it's more likely a woman younger than me will be a virgin. My age range is generally +3 or - 3 so women 19 - 25. For any reason other than God, I couldn't date, but if she keeps out of devotion to Christ then her age is irrelevant as long is it is within range.

RawIronhide · Answer

It's cool, I'm a virgin at 24. I'm not saving it for anything and in not ugly or gay, I actually like pussy a lot lol. it happens different for everyone doesn't matter why or when it happens.

jgokgotit · Answer

I'm still a virgin and I turn 28 this year so that is no problem for me.

Willoughby23 · Answer

Its not a turn off I didn't lose mine till I was 23. I do think that society looks down on virgin men much more than virgin women. Its a double standard. If your a virgin guy its usually a turn off to women and people think your a pussy who has no game or maybe even think your gay. If a women is virgin they thinks its admirable or a turn on.

HikerDude · Answer

Yes, but only if she was open to being sexual in other ways. She would have to be willing to give me oral sex at least to make up for that. I don't mean that to sound crass, but most men are going to want to be sexual in some way.

Grond21 · Answer

That's what I prefer. I'm saving myself for marriage, so it would be a great gift to me if she did the same

edolphy · Answer

Not a turn-off. However, a man would have to be serious about her since she is "saving it for the right person".

Anonymous · Answer

No. Not in the slightest bit. It's more of a turn on for me actually; because it means she can control herself and perhaps won't sleep with someone until she loves and trusts him.

WesBrewer · Answer

I would 100% date her, if anything I would like to date her more.

Avicenna · Answer

That is actually a turn-on for men who want a wife.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I agree with her about saving herself for the right guy I don't care if she's 30 or older I would still be with her

aliali8 · Answer

there is a lot you're missing out on in life if you're not gonna have sex. And most guys would not want to date without sex. Unless he's just as prude as you.

Anonymous · Answer

For me that is a turn ON. I definitely respect women (and men) more who have only had sex in committed relationships. I don't expect a woman to necessarily be a virgin, but it's certainly not a turn off at all.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I'm a virgin myself and I don't think it'd really be a turn off.

AMonthOfAugust · Answer

Of course. "saving it for the right person" doesn't actually mean much because anyone could be that right person. It could be the guy you start dating.

AdithyaR · Answer

Not at all. I'm entering my 20s and I'm pretty sure I won't lose my virginity until my studies are done so I'll be a virgin as well in my mid 20s, I don't see a problem with it.

SystemOfTheMachine · Answer

I would. I would just hope that I'd be the right person. 😂 As long as she is not saving it for marriage then I'd date her.

TheorionMage · Answer

"Days old baked goods are often FAR discounted opposed to those 'fresh'."

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

It's kind of a turn off yes, because she has no experience and for sure can't perform as well.  But not a deal breaker. Not even close.

clampfan101 · Answer

I think people should save it for the right person. I’m waiting until marriage.

killerboots · Answer

Nah it's a turn on. That means you're not the average woman so one of us guys have to be one in a million to get into your pants.

genericname85 · Answer

being a virgin is never a "turn off" for me. i mean everyone has their reasons. i'd give them a chance, if i was attracted in the first place.

Eeeyore18 · Answer

Absolutely 🤗 I'm 18 and still a virgin. Nothing wrong with saving yourself for marriage or for that one person.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was younger I would've been happier, but honestly it's not for me. But everyone has there own choices, there is no right or wrong choice here.

Twalli · Answer

My girlfriend was a virgin until 33, because she never felt close enough to a guy.

Spade07 · Answer

Yes I would date her. I'd would consider it a plus plus. I'm the same.

Surely · Answer

My thoughts would be if I would ever be that person. Or, just what type of guy has all of her qualities.

loveslongnails · Answer

Not if she specifically wants to get "married" to that person. Not for me.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No, that is totally NOT a turn-off. That is a quality to be admired!

Yogibuty777 · Answer

From what I’ve seen as long as you have a pulse there is a guy that will go for you.. and some that don’t care if you don’t have a pulse! Lol

Bismarck_96 · Answer

It's not a bad thing some people keep it for the right person to give it to it shouldn't be something that it should be looked at

EaterPeter · Answer

No. It is what ever you want it to be. You want it to be turn on then it us turn on. Honeslty I never thought of it that way.

themythos · Answer

Its a turnon. Extremely rare for people to not have had sex before 20 nowadays, and I'd prefer my partner to not have slept around.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

It find more Black and White in that. Not that it’s in balanced but... I don't know

Anonymous · Answer

It's actually impressive in this day and age. I'd be even more likely to date her.

Wewladdy · Answer

She's literally the only kind of woman worth marrying.

damaster · Answer

No definitely not for me. I'm a virgin myself so it's all good

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