How do some men think they’ll find a women of god with no job, no ambition, their lazy, drinking alcohol every weekend?

[Anonymous]

Laziness is a sin and while some of them talk down on women, they themselves are probably the equivalent of a low value women. If men can answer this with their theories it would be great because I’m a virgin and it’s very disappointing to see the kinds of men in this generation that don’t have any values or aspirations or job. I want a husband that has a job, any job, a low paying job looks better than no job. Someone who worries about his family instead of one who ignores them by playing video games or doom scrolling on the internet. I know not all men are like this, but if the good ones see this can they give me their theories and how to know someone is like this beforehand before investing more time into talking to someone online?

[ohsheeT]

Well you have thought about this thats the first step

Because there's are women out there that might have but then they didn't listen to themselves or they let themselves be manipulated into beleaving.
Someone that they shouldn't

First find yourself like you have then love yourself to the depth of the person your looking for

If you dont then you will get the same type of guy

This is not about the guy this is about you

Understand who you are what you want how much you love yourself how happy you are. Your goals you're strange you're wisdom the things you believe in how beautiful?
Your heart is are you a giver. Become the best you can become.

Then someone will find you that is the same as you

Or

Someone will be put in your life to show you just because he looks like a good guy dissent mean he is

Learn from him thats what he was put in your life for. Not for you be heart broken or for you to beat yourself up because you made a mistake . We all gave a destiny.
We are all spiritual beings and then we become human means. We learn. We make mistakes to get back to where we came from it's about us becoming the best. We can become not our partner that we take while we're here.

But caution. If you're going to use God. And if you have a religion.
Don't be a follow her be a leader. God is energy is within voice that you hear the voice that you the real, you, that is God.

If religion is for you then more power to you

Being spiritual with that God.
Becoming obecoming one with energy, becoming 1 with yourself, 1 with others and 1 with this universe, the spiritual God.

The god that says bring heaven to earth.

Not the god that has killed over three million people

Sorry I shouldn't have taken it there, but I had to for some reaso. That must mean you have a beautiful heart. And even though by your question you're leading. Just always be a leader.
And follow your heart.
And be svirtual, that's pure energy. Because we are all made of energy and the universe

[Asker]

Wow, this is so meaningful, thank you so much. For a second I was feeling sad because I was talking to someone and it makes me so sad that they’re this way and even though they are Christian like me, I wish so much that they have a little bit more motivation. It makes me so sad to see men just throw away their lives and it confuses me as to how I can help him take better steps, given him advice for finding a job and sometimes he ignores it, and he continues to talk about how there’s no women of god, yet I’m here and I talk to him. So your comment meant so much to me so thank you so much. I think if anything this is meant to show me something and I feel like I’m much more hopeful and optimistic, even if I end up not being able to help this person.

[ohsheeT]

This was for you it was to remind you who you are remind you you have a beautiful heart.. and to always love your self the deep you understand stand love the deeper you will understand stand you

I dont like talking about people I don't know but to try to explain something about people is that know matter what you say or do.. its not going to matter. . I could use the we word lazy. Or I could say he's right where he wants to be.. other wise he would change it. And himself and with trying to help him he looks at it a different way just like who ever is supporting him will one day understand they are not helping if they were to stop then he would get hungry and have to put 1 foot in front of the other to make money to eat. And once he gained's confidence and believes in himself. You will add other things to that food list. Of things if you want to do accomplish

But like I said this was for you to understand you are great with a beautiful heart

And you have strength and confidence

When you let people see this there are people you are coming to my life and create drama drama is on this planet to hold people back it's the dark side and the dark side loves meeting. People like you to try to get you to go to their sad so just be careful. You can read between the lines

[Anonymous]

Pretty simple when they have ambition and don't drink and they still can't find a woman of God (because the reality is most women today ARE NOT women of God). Then they learns to relax, stop living up to what he thinks a woman expects of him and just decides to enjoy life.

I have a high 6 figure net worth, I've never drank, and I've already retired. Why? Because I have enough in my nest egg and passive income to afford MY lifestyle. And I really do not give 2 💩's what women think of that. One thing men learn from today's women is that her expectations are a moving goalpost. Why would ANY guy not controlled by his hormones sign on for that toxicity? No thank you.

I know your response is going to be I'm old. But I wasn't always old. And while I do think women should have standards and not compromise them. I think you need to be more realistic about the quality of your gender overall. Men have ALWAYS reacted to the expectations of women. And women USED to require men to be all these things as well as getting to know her, even marry her before sleeping with him. It gave the guy time to fall in love with who she is and what she is about. Now, with today's woman learning the guys name is enough to sleep with him.

Bottom line! Your genders expectations and values are all out of whack! Fix this and guys will be forced to change. Don't do this and expect what you see to continue. And before you tell me you're not like that. It doesn't matter! You're guilty by association. Just like good men get blamed by the actions of men in general so do good women get blamed by actions of women in general.

[Asker]

You are bringing up completely different topics to what I’m talking about. 1. I’m a virgin 2. I’m not talking about men that work regardless of what they earn, they’re trying! 3. Most women some men look at or want are not women of god, but the good ones will probably not be paid any attention because we’re not the skimpy looking women with big boobs and big ass pretty face. There are many women who also grow old and are still virgins, but they have just been pushed to the side because they’re ugly or some men are too busy trying to find that ideal model.

[Opinion Owner]

OK, now you get to it. The "REAL" reason. If you're fat, go on a diet. If you're ugly (and there are very few truly ugly women) there's this thing called makeup. In absolutely worst cases you can get SOME plastic surgery.
But your biggest problem here? You're simply not working at it hard enough. You want to know the real reason women lose to those "skimpy" big booked women? They're talking VERY differently to the men than you are. Again, YOUR GENDER was the gender that decided to change the rules that have stood for the past 2000 years. You wanted to work, you wanted equality, you wanted to be in charge. There are prices to be paid for EVERYTHING. Now men get play the woman's role. We get to be choosy. Sorry if you don't like. As I said that's just the way it is. Adapt or remain single.

[Asker]

I never said I was ugly or fat, I was responding to you when you said you didn’t find anyone. Some men are delusional and think they’ll find an instagram model. I am also not delusional and I think I have enough time to choose someone that will at least have basic respect for women. There’s an abundant amount of men that are respectful and you seem like one of those that isn’t and get offended by a post I made because you probably resonate.

[Opinion Owner]

You are bringing up completely different topics. I didn't find anyone? Hun I'm not even looking for anyone.🤦‍♂️ let's stay on topic here I only mentioned me to try to explain to you that your whole premise of men are flawed. You're not a victim! As long as you continue to think that way you're going to do one of two things. 1. You're going waste you entire life "looking" and die with cats. Or 2. You're going to waste most of your life and then compromise all your standards, marry a guy that'll have you. And then he'll probably walk out on you. You have understand your problem if you're going g to fix it hun. But that's fine, don't listen to me. I lose nothing by this, you do.👍

[Asker]

I actually have decent standards and I see there are many men that are worthy and are willing to put in the work even if it’s not a high paying job. That’s all. They can have any job but at least put in the work. But there are some men that don’t do that, lack the motivation because I’ve talked to someone and even given him advice on how to find a job and he says he’ll try another day. That’s the kind of guy I’m talking about. No motivation.

[Opinion Owner]

And there are some women that claim to be reasonable that actually aren't.🫢
Not saying that's you. But it's rather interesting that you just HAPPEN to run into every DUD. Either you're not what you claim to be, or you're not really attracted to what you claim to be attracted to. Because there are NOT as many low quality men as you're suggesting.

[DishLady]

Some guys just wake up and think that whatever they do is cool and that everyone in the world should accept them as is…


This isn’t every guy, ofc, just the delusional entitled (usually grow up spoiled by one or both parents, allowed to do whatever they want, struggled with ONE thing and now think the world owes them a favor, etc.). Normal balance guys aren’t like that.


Some women also think they deserve a good hard-working guy but meanwhile do nothing to deserve it other than looking pretty… and they GET the guy. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Asker]

Yes, I actually agree on you very much when it comes to being spoiled by parents and being let to do anything. And now that I think of it this person does play the victim when they talk about jobs and other things. I assume it’s just their way of making excuses since I’ve even given them advice on finding jobs. I also agree this can happen for both genders easily, but sometimes for women unfortunately it can looks more acceptable if they’re pretty.

[Nikki1989]

Because they are immature idiots.

For a reference, read the 36-45 clueless, juvenile blue anon comment going on about virgins for a real what-the-fuck moment.

[Asker]

I read it. I knew there was a probability of triggering men who probably resonated with the above. I can’t see why someone ambitious would feel triggered, they’ll probably agree.

[HighValue]

Video games > women for sure.

People that drink alcohol are low value, men and women.

There is no motivation for men to be good anymore though because for GENERATIONS most women have been low quality terrible people. Why put in lots of effort to get garbage? So they often just give up.

[Asker]

I have motivation to get a job, regardless what other men decide to do with their lives. It’s not even about their future partner it’s about seeking motivation to have money to eat and build their own life and not live in poverty. It’s not about anyone else, it’s about doing better for ourselves.

[mysteriousNicholas]

@HighValue I'm often amazed how I never got addicted to video games / gaming as it's simply called just gaming - some men have clearly different brains than mine 🧠☺️

[Asker]

@mysteriousNicholas yes games and anything that includes dopamine is addictive

[mysteriousNicholas]

Not everyone has the best luck in life 🤞 and I'd always say it can seem, it can "seem" like some folks do have it easier or by luck landed jobs easily.

And some folks should know better than to hit the bottle and say no to smokes. Ah well, all adults are responsible for themselves in getting therapy and getting their life on the straight and narrow to a successful, clean living

[mysteriousNicholas]

And yes, I would be one who says that I don't find laziness an attractive quality in neither romantic partners, neither friends, etc

[Asker]

Thank you! I agree, laziness is horrible and it’s hard to get someone out of it.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Cheers 🍾🥂 it's like asking why some people are self motivated others aren't as motivated - chicken, egg, scenario lol - or even "why doesn't everyone share the same" ; individuality is why I guess

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say talking to someone who's unemployed is bad as long as theyre looking. The job market sucks.
However unemployed people shouldn't get mad at a person who has a job for wanting another person with a job. It's not a gender thing.
The rest of those things are pure no no for both genders. If they expect a person of God to expect that, they expect you to compromise your faith for them. They need to get over it. God over man.

[Asker]

They’re not looking, that’s why I’m saying they unmotivated. I can visually see how unmotivated he is when I give him advice on finding a job. He makes up excuses. My bad, I should have clarified that in the post because I can appreciate someone who is looking, there’s nothing wrong with not having a job unless you’re looking like you said.

[Asker]

I agree, both genders should be equally dedicated. Im very dedicated and I work, I help my parents, I have a dedicated screen time limit that I try to adhere to.

[BarryLiverstone]

They think they are between jobs but watch tv or a movie and are shown they can find love with little ambition

[Asker]

Yes, but there was a guy that I was talking to that didn’t even bother finding a job. I would suggest it and he would always make up excuses.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s not a great long term plan. How did he afford to eat and live?

[Asker]

I agree, he’s 23 and he lives with his parents. I don’t care about that but that’s how he’s been able to survive. I also live with my parents, but I have a job and go to school.

[BarryLiverstone]

How did you all meet? After college having a job seems helpful, for the having of money and all

[Asker]

He’s not in college. He doesn’t believe in college. 🫠 I met him on this site.

[BarryLiverstone]

College is important tho. Well check in with him in 5 years

[Asker]

I feel the same way. I will check in with him. It’s just devastating to see because I feel he won’t make improvements. Talking to him, he is just seems so unmotivated and I’ve tried to motivate him but the motivation is short lived.

[BarryLiverstone]

Overall I would agree, if he’s got no ambition and no motivation to live a better life then you wouldn’t be attracted to him anyway. Much like if I met a girl who was too lazy

[BarryLiverstone]

Was kind of you to try and help motivate him.

[Asker]

Exactly, after all laziness is a sin and I wish he could see that, he’s religious. I stopped feeling attracted to him after noticing this, but he’s still a good person and it breaks my heart to see this happen.

[Asker]

I usually talk to him once in a while and ask him what he’s been up to. I suggest jobs and give him advice because once in a while he’ll mention his family is struggling.

[BarryLiverstone]

If his fam is struggling then he should work to contribute

[Asker]

I agree!

[mysteriousNicholas]

@BarryLiverstone "it's market forces" - sometimes looking for a job ain't that easy. Or lucky. Or numbers "1 job for X many applicants" - look my 20s I applied for hundreds of jobs and barely got a few interviews and that was between working a job. You know. I was working, but I was regularly applying to find even better work (more hours, more pay, more stability or larger employer) - I feel for those who were looking in 2008 and the global financial crisis basically added an extra 1 or 2 years to their job search of either minimal jobs or rejection letters like a celebrity casting call 😆😂

[mysteriousNicholas]

"Market forces" as a phrase, sometimes said jovial, sometimes said flippantly, ; I live by that phrase. As much as I live by "it could always be worse" and gratefully I'm grateful 🥲🥹

[Anonymous]

Are you a virgin ready to give it to him? If not, you have no right to expect a damn thing.

[Opinion Owner]

What I mean by virgin is ACTUAL virgin, not some born again, make believe or some chick that's given oral and been doing everything except PIV

[Asker]

“Ready to give it to him” no one is entitled to someone’s body! And I am a virgin. I’m waiting for marriage. Unlike you, there’s people that want to find true love, not just sleep around.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Oh fascinating, for monogamy reasons or for cleanliness or religious reasons or culture? Or just a personal desire for a Mr Right one and only 💍? Just curious lady, 😊 I'm not the answerer

[Asker]

@mysteriousNicholas I’m Christian

[mysteriousNicholas]

Intriguing , what kind? Denomination? None?

[Asker]

@mysteriousNicholas im not sure what that means

[mysteriousNicholas]

Catholic. Lutheran. Presbyterian. An evangelical - or non-denominational - within Christianity there are many "branches" or *churches* from Catholics to Episcopalians also known as Anglicans to Lutherans to Protestants to Evangelicals to Baptists to Mormons to etc etc etc