Have you always been passed over by guys because you aren't pretty enough?

[mrshooiser]

Back in my younger days. All the time. I always thought I would never get a boyfriend.

[aaron13547]

I don't think it's about being pretty. I went from a super skiny shy kid to working out consistently and becoming what I thought was pretty over a few years. The girl I wanted didn't notice me still. She actually noticed me when I screwed up my life hit rock bottom and started to come back up. she was a big part of my growth into who I am now. Being the opposite of pretty got me what I always wanted... giving up on chasing and try to catch what I wanted somehow got me everything I ever dreamed of...

[Wodens_Apprentice]

Well at least you still got to have sex. Usually men who are unattractive stay virgins & historically usually died virgins. Most men in history didn't have any offspring.

Maybe you should humble yourself & stop aiming only for me you're attracted to if you're not attractive yourself.

[Anonymous]

All the time, I’m 23. I’ve never had a boyfriend let alone a man approach me or even compliment me.
So what do I do? I approach them and well… let’s just say I haven’t done that in a while. But I also have completely given up, I’m 23 and have no dating experience/sexual experience in a world full of guys who make a relationship 90% about the sex. Now I know the classic “just be patient, it’ll come to you” yet my patience has worn off as I’ve been patient since I was 17.

[BarryLiverstone]

When guys tell you that you are beautiful and attractive, how does that make you feel?

[Opinion Owner]

It would probably feel nice, but wouldn’t know since no guys has told me that

[BarryLiverstone]

Why not? If you are healthy and in shape then guys might see you and approach

[Opinion Owner]

Not sure, I wouldn’t be able to tell you why. I’m in shape and workout 3-4 times a week.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s a mystery then. I’m not sure either. Can’t see you to know and you are anon so not a way to help.

[Opinion Owner]

I could message you

[BarryLiverstone]

Go ahead

[BarryLiverstone]

Thank you

[Wodens_Apprentice]

Well you women seriously can't handle being a virgin for more then 5 minutes can you? Meanwhilst the men you always turned away from & found unattractive have to stay virgins until their 30's & 40's.

[Opinion Owner]

@wodens_apprentice I can definitely stand it lol, I mean hey guys that I know in my life make fun of me to this day for being a virgin still. I haven’t turned anyone away because I don’t get approached so I’m not part of the “men you always turned away” there are definitely women who do that? I just don’t do it. Because I’m not set on looks it’s more so there character and if they interest me, but I haven’t even had the chance to have a date with a guy. So don’t group me with women are able to reject guys, because I certainly haven’t. It’s also not my fault those guys are still virgins, just like guys will tell me to pick “better guys” , Pick “better girls”then if that’s the result.

[Opinion Owner]

@wodens_apprentice I certainly did not say I absolutely need to lose my virginity or that i can’t handle being a virgin anymore… not sure exactly where you got that from. I said I’ve given up on getting into a relationship/sexual experience meaning I don’t really care for it anymore since guys tend to only talk about sex

[Staximus]

It's got nothing to do with looks, it has to do with social skills. The way you interact with people. I've said this in here a bunch of times. I went to a big high school, 4500 students. The ugliest girl at my school always had a boyfriend because she stayed in her league and wasn't afraid to interact and socialize with people.