Why do I often get told I’m pretty but guys rarely approach me to hit on me or reach out to me?

[Anonymous]

[_Maya_]

Might be the vibe you put out to them. It is hard to judge ourselves when we can't really step back and see how we act towards others. So maybe you come off as unapproachable in some way. I work at a bar and see this a lot. There will be pretty girls that get mobbed and then pretty girls that seemingly can't catch a break because they just don't look like they are having fun. Of course the guys are going to go for the girls that are laughing and partying it up with a group rather than the ones in the corner just looking around. So it could be a similar case for you. I'm sure you are pretty. Focus on making yourself more approachable.

[Asker]

I think you’re right! I am really observant. Like I think I make them uncomfortable sometimes because I don’t smile and laugh a lot. I feel happy on the inside but it’s hard to show emotion on the outside sometimes. Lol. I’ve noticed me and my girl friend will go out places and they’ll talk to her because she’s more friendly and meanwhile I’m kind of looking judgy and watching their every move 😰 I don’t realize if I come off that way, I’m just like that before I warm up to someone.

[_Maya_]

It's really hard to see ourselves how others do so that was just my initial thinking on your situation.

[Anonymous]

I get a lot of attention as a guy, but I've only been approached once. Unfortunately, I didn't recognize what was happening.

[slatyb]

Who is telling you that you are pretty? Where are you going to meet men?

[Asker]

Strangers tell me on the street, I’ve done some modeling, get stared at a good amount, random men, etc. I look in the mirror too lol I think I look cute but not like stunning.
Mostly just out and about in my neighborhood int he city and the gym, my apartment building, dating apps, etc.
When I do get approached it’s a short exchange and then they leave 😂

[Asker]

The thing is also when guys tell me I’m gorgeous or beautiful or whatever, my friends just tell me they’re just trying to get in my pants 😒

[slatyb]

Are you having conversations, or just passing people on the street?

[Asker]

Sometimes it’s conversations. Sometimes just a passing compliment.

[kareka]

Are u a shy girl?

[Asker]

I think I come off as a little judgmental unintentionally. Or just not friendly. I am, but I have to feel comfortable with the person.

[kareka]

Tbh its rare

[Asker]

What is?

[kareka]

To be hot and single

[Asker]

Not really. At least in the States where I’m at.

[kareka]

May we chat?