Be honest. Would you choose a pick me?

[Anonymous]

By pick me, I mean the type of woman who constantly seeks male approval by agreeing with whatever men say, even when it goes against her own interests. For example, if a man criticizes women that wear bikinis at the beach, the pick me is the first to nod along even though she herself is often seeking validation and attention. The issue is that a pick me’s loyalty isn’t really to you; her loyalty is to being chosen. And if her whole identity revolves around being picked, what happens when someone else gives her that attention? But I’m sure men realize when a women is desperate for approval, so my question is, do you see someone desperate to be liked by all men as marriage material? She’ll do whatever you want, but how worthy is she and will she loose interest once others give her attention?

Yes

No

[HighValue]

I think women with good morals and logical thought often get called "pick me" by immoral low quality women.

I'd want one with good morals that agrees that women in a relationship shouldn't be wearing provocative clothes in public without her man there, shouldn't be posting those kinds of pictures online, is actually loyal and FAIR to men in a relationship which the majority of women hate, and that she doesn't have an immoral promiscuous past or a past of drug or alcohol use either. BUT I don't want one that is stupid and agrees with that Fresh & Fit guy that claims men should get to cheat. He tells the truth about SOME things, but he is also low quality immoral scum for promoting infidelity.

I also wouldn't want the hypocritical ones that have a bad past and have actually done some of the things they claim to be against such as Roma Army and Pearl, among others.

So, I want a good moral woman, which means many will think she is a "pick me" because they are low quality themselves and ashamed of their terrible immoral choices, but I don't want a dumb person that supports and promotes immorality for men to do.

[ohsheeT]

This is a good question. Because both side of it is a learning experience

Her heart in the moment is in the right place and much more that she gives with that

But she is missing something and that is belief in herself and the love she is seeking through others. is something only she can give to her self.

Then after that she would not do what she does

If you think about it all people are the same way. We all say pick me

But the difference is that we love ourselves and we know our worth
So when we are picked we look at others the same and the depth of love we have for ourselves we can give and share and grow

Until she loves her self she will always be moving on to someone new.

[Anonymous]

Lol, of course the creep likes pick me girls and finds them attractive. They'll let him do and say almost whatever he wants without giving anything back because they're a pick me girl and he can't handle being spoken against.

A pick me girl is an insecure little a hole who'll do whatever requires to get the attention of males like the one I mentioned above. So by that means, she be a attention whore but an attention whore doesn't necessarily need to be a pick me girl since it isn't necessarily male attention they be seeking. But that doesn't matter, according to mister Chico, males can do and act however they wish around both categories because they just giving them what they wish. Doesn't matter if the woman seeking it or not.

[Asker]

You make a fair point. Creeps love pick mes because all they have to do is play along and give her validation.

[Anonymous]

Omg no. Especially not the way you describe them.

[Asker]

Thanks for your input! I agree, I often observe them and I always wonder if men actually notice what they’re doing or notice how hard they try. Which is not good since they are not showing their true selves.

[Opinion Owner]

A lot of guys don’t notice

[ChicoFromThe305]

I think pick me girls and attention whores are two different types of personalities, I've never seen anything unattractive about a pick me girl because usually pick me girls aren't doing it to just seek attention, they actually believe what they say, what people confuse is that they lie to seek attention when that is what am attention whore does, a pick me girl promotes her beliefs in hopes of finding a guy which I see nothing wrong with because dudes like simplicity, long story short, me see, me like, me want, if a pick me girl rubs her similar mindset right in my face so I can see it easier than I can dig it.

[ChicoFromThe305]

If a woman is lying to my face about everything just to look good then that is an attention whore not a pick me girl

[Zack-Bann]

I have no issue with a woman who wants my approval and happiness


Most men won’t either


“Pick me girl” is a girl on girl insult


It’s not an indicator of lower value
If anything she’s miles ahead of a spoiled brat that wants the world to spin around her

[Anonymous]

No. I would want her to care for her as much as I do for her. If I truly care for her, I would only focus on making sure she knew and was my priority.

[Asker]

Smart choice! 🙌 Yes and part of caring for yourself is being authentic and respecting yourself, because imagine what people do just to feel validated.

[dwreborn]

No it would be to boring how could you have a real conversation when they agree with everything you say and no different opinions ya not really into that

[Anonymous]

If she's honestly like you describe, no, but most of the time a "pick me" is just a normal girl who doesn't hate men so of course I would pick her.

[Opinion Owner]

And even if she does try to seek male attention, as long as it isn't too extreme, I feel like it's normal to try to impress the opposite gender 🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

If her whole loyalty is built on being chosen and even going as far as putting other women down just to look better, then the moment another man gives her attention she’ll be swayed. Real commitment comes from self-respect and stability, not desperation.

Pick-me behavior is all about pretending, not authenticity and being truthful. And honestly, how could a man even feel special knowing she wasn’t true to herself, she was just desperate to be picked and settled for whoever gave her the attention? That’s my opinion, but I can see how it can be cute in the short run, but definitely something to think about! Don’t settle for anyone who is desperate for everyone!

[genericname85]

i would say this depends. would she still give me my space and limit the "Pick me" behaviors towards me? or would she suffocate me while keeping to seek validation from other men?

[Anonymous]

It's usually vice versa, some men constantly seeks female approval by agreeing with whatever women say, even when it goes against their own interests.

[Danny_dan92]

Nope. I rather go to bed

[Asker]

True, I’m not out here pick-me’ing, but I can admit sleep wins 😂

[Danny_dan92]

I sleep peacefully knowing I won’t be played the fool

[Asker]

Smart man, no betrayal in dreams 👏

[Danny_dan92]

Yes. Nothing feels better rejecting a hoe

[zagor]

Desperation is not appealing in anyone.

[Asker]

Agree!