I turned up drunk to my ex abusers house to get answers, he never answered the door, when he's married how do I forgive myself?

[Anonymous]

[BriamG22]

You were inebriated and you made a mistake, everyone does...

However, even though I think you should never feel the need to get answers from him, I do understand that; with traumatic experiences, sometimes people do seek for answers and/or explanations.

If a father abandons his kids, in quite a number of those cases the kids will look for the reason as to why they were abandoned when they're older. I think maybe that when you were intoxicated and devoid of all rationality and inhibitions you went over there to find out whether or not there was any reasoning behind the trauma you received.

There's no need to feel sorry and there's nothing to forgive, the only "thing" that should feel remorse and guilt is the man that made your life a living hell.

I hope you stop beating yourself up over this and I hope you feel better!

[Zack-Bann]

So you showed up wasted to a guy’s house where he lives with his family and wonder why he didn’t open the door?


It’s kinda self explanatory.


Even if he did abuse you, he wasn’t gonna open the door and just let you blow up his life


People are selfish like that


You should just work on moving on.


Any power he holds over you today is in your head


He’s gone. No longer on your path. No longer relevant in your life

[Abbycado]

Why would you go to someone that abused you for THEIR answers? Smh 🤦🏻‍♀️

[ohsheeT]

You learn from it and move on and you be 100 % honest why you really went there in the first place.

[Pterodon]

Are you tired of beating yourself up? If so then just tell yourself you’re not perfect and sometimes make mistakes.

[Vegasrunner]

This is the dumbest question on a site full of dumb questions.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't drink any more, and why would you even contact the abuser? He is not a good person, you should ignore him.