How do I make him forgive me?! drunken mistake.

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing this guy for a couple weeks. We have been seeing each other everyday and he has been sleeping over quite a bit.

We go on dates, he makes me dinner, we watch movies

pretty much we act like were in a relationship

This weekend he was going out with his boys and I was going out with my friends. We were going to the same place (its a small town).

I was going to spend the night with my friends and let him do his own thing but at the bar he would walk by me without saying anything, ignoring me. Never gave me a kiss..ect so I got upset. His ex was their and she ended up sending me death threats over Facebook.

Pretty much I felt like he didn't want to act like we were seeing each other in public. He realized I was upset and he introduced me to some friends as "his girl"

anyways, lately I have been extremely stressed out (work, roommates, boy) I havnt quite been myself and that came out when I was drunk.

When he got home and we were in bed together getting ready to sleep, I was getting these death threats from his ex. I blocked her on fb but I think that is how the horrible conversation started.

I got extremely upset, (to be honest I was really drunk and I don't remember half the things I said) but I know I said that "i don't f***ing trust men, I don't trust you. you don't trust women, well I don't trust f***ing men" I also asked him what we were, are we dating, am I just a girl he's f***ing, etc ect.

i think I acused him of having something going on with his ex too. Anyways, in the morning he acted very distant so I stayed in bed while he went downstairs. He came up 20 minutes later and told me he was leaving.

he said we can talk later if I want to. that he really didn't appreciate last night. He was acting very down and disappointed. He told me to text him. He left. So I texted him asking when we can talk, he said "tomorrow"

I texted him a few hours later just saying that "im sorry, I'm stressed out I shouldn't have taken it out on you. I hope you can forgive me and we can deal with it tommorrow."

his only response was "ok" I said goodnight, he said goodnight.

So its the next day and I want to wait a bit until I ask him to talk.

Im just wondering if anyone has any advice?

I acted like a total irrational crazy girl. I don't ususaly act like that but we've only known each other two weeks, so he wouldn't know if that's my norm or not maybe he thinks I'm a crazy insecure crazy girl.

The fact that he's willing to talk about it, is a good thing right?

what should I say to ease his worries?

I can't believe I f***ed this up so badly. I wish I could errase the whole weekend.

if you want anymore details, feel free to ask.

thank you.

Updates

+1 y

thanks for the answers everyone.

We met, he took me out for dinner and we talked about it

i agree two weeks sn not a long time but we both said that each of us are the kind of people that run into something head first, full speed a head

i think he is worth it. but were not putting a label on our relationship right now but we agreed that we are exclusive.

so I feel like the pressures off and in a few months if he can't commit then ill move on.

thanks!

[MiguelMaia]

I think you overreacted, and clearly you lost control. That means you also lost some of your right.

You should talk to him about what bothers you, and tell him that even though you apologize for blowing up, you need to talk to him about some things. And then tell him, calmly, about how you feel the relationship should go forward and what you think has been wrong so far (maybe ask him for backup against his ex? who is clearly out of control). He realized you were upset enough to immediately take action to correct that. Perhaps he'll do the same again and the relationship will take a good course.

[USGrant]

No, I think he deserved it. You shouldn't even apologize. If he can't handle his ex or not ignoring you when he sees you, kick him to the curb. Seriously. You did not a thing wrong and I actually think it would be strange to not act as you did. Make him make the next move to show that he cares about you, appreciates you, and will manage his psycho ex. Don't chase him.

[Kate545]

this ^^

[Premonition]

this whole situtation sounds bad. stress plus death threats isn't a good thing, plus you say you only met 2 weeks?

This is way too much drama for a new relationship. my question to you is.

Can all this Drama really make him worth it?