Is ghosting a sign of cheating?

[Anonymous]

So started talking to a girl, met her a few times she invited me round at midnight to sleep beside her, we used to chat hours on the phone to the point we both have slept whilst being on a phone call with eachother, then one day she just disappeared like literally, never responds to msgs but still posts, one of her posts was her with a girl mate out for lunch and the tagine said this is a proper date so I know its not aimed at me, as we have a nice restaurants out in the past, so yeah wonder if thats a dig at a new dating partner, I messaged her a final time saying im gonna delete her number and she instantly replied saying sorry and thats she's just been really busy, i told her im glad she's alive and she could've let me know that a few days ago but carry on and she didn't respond which is fine I have her excuse now, so I'll move on and see if she may or may not reach out, but still if she does reach out ill want answers, but as of now I can't trust her fully, when you go days talking to someone to nothing at all, seems really rude and out of character, I couldn't ever just ghost someone, id be blunt,

[ManOnFire]

"she instantly replied saying sorry and thats she's just been really busy"
- Yet she wasn't too busy to post on social media and talk about having a proper date. She is a bullshitter and you shouldn't say anything else to her, just cut her off. She's not serious about you and it's probably very likely that she started dating some other guy.

Her telling you she's been busy is a common answer someone gives you when they're trying to ghost you, and you see once again that after she said that she hasn't put in any further effort to reach out or go out with you anymore. She's quietly trying to ditch you, so let her. Someone else will do the same thing to her at some point.

[InknKink]

Cheating? Huh? What do you mean you slept beside her?

It all sounds like a weird situation. I'm honestly not sure what you had or did not have going on with her. You actions and intentions are unclear. Maybe that's why she's disengaged; no intent.

If you're not sexually involved, there is nothing to cheat on.

And even if you were sexually involved, it doesn't sound like you had an exclusive relationship to start with so cheating is not a thing.

It comes across as her having given you a shot and instead of making a move you took the passive route of friendship so she's disengaging. But maybe "sleeping beside" her does mean sex?

In my world, when a girl invites you over at midnight... that's them begging to be nailed to the headboard.

[KBird]

I wouldn't call it cheating, unless you both established that you aren't seeing anyone else...

I would say that she may no longer be interested in you the same way you are to her. You say youve slept beside her, did anything else happen besides sleeping? I would consider that a very intimate and special thing, sleeping beside each other, but she might not.

[Finchie40]

Well she isn’t cheating if you both aren’t in a relationship together , it just sounds like she is no longer interested in you the way you were to her , , she probably just likes you as a friend and nothing more , so she backed off so you didn’t get the wrong impression , Did you ever make out with her , or have sex with her? If not , you are friend zoned my man

[DishLady]

Possibly is, OR it’s just a sign of disinterest/distraction.

[MrChinaski]

How do you think she feels? If I was dating someone as needy and insecure in a relationship as you describe yourself to be, I think I would feel tired, look for other opportunities in my life to build strength and centre myself such as going out with friends.

She may be weighing up whether the burden you impose on her life is worth continuing to carry in exchange for the connection between you and her that you clearly share. And then you tell her you are deleting her number? If I were her, that would be a pretty hefty shift in the direction of thinking the burdens you impose on her are just not worth it.

Seriously, you are 36 to 45 years old. Spend time working on yourself instead of spending time imposing your needs on her. If it is meant to be, it will be... or not. Either way, the only thing you can control is working to make yourself a better person.

That sounds harsh, I know. But the truth hurts sometimes.

[Ironco]

I usually don't ghost someone, if I have a problem with someone, I tell them and talk it out. Now on the other hand, if I'm the one getting rejected I'll cut all ties and connections. I want that person to realize what they have or had.

In the future if they come back, I'll talk and be civil. But my first reaction every time I'm dumped is to ghost. They need the break away from you just as much as I do from them.

If they come back, cross that bridge.

If they don't, move forward.

Don't know if I answered your question?

As far as cheating goes, that you will just have to find out if they are. I wouldn't say it is always the case.

Good luck

[MikeTheBartender]

"So started talking to a girl, met her a few times she invited me round at midnight to sleep beside her" you lost me at the first sentence. Sex or just sleeping?

If it was just sleeping that was the time to end all talk with her.

[WonderingManII]

I don't think it's cheating but ghosting is the number 1 reason why I don't talk to women much anymore. You can't talk to something that doesn't care to respond. I thought about trading women in for a nice wall. Walls never say anything mean, and much like the women I have known in my life, they don't care either. Sorry to any girls that do kinda talk to me, but that has been my over all life experience of 22 years! It's hurtful.

[molonski2]

She can't cheat as you are NOT together.

You really need to just set her free mate , you are coming across far too desperate , just drop all communication move on , focus on others , chalk it up to experience.

[Noredcarpet]

It is not cheating. I do not know what went on in her mind of course when there was suddenly this halt, silence coming from her, but cheating no.

[Flower7]

It’s not “cheating”, what it is is not being in a relationship at all. To be called “cheating”, a commitment is required.

[bobalife]

It’s not cheating, but she’s just not as invested anymore. If she reach out, just check in what’s been going on OR carry on and build the connection.

[Anonymous]

Ghosting is usually a sign that you have to call GhostBusters :P

[MikeMcMansion]

Bro, it is cheating. If she isn’t actually cheating she’s being immature as hell, and a man must assume she is. We don’t have the convenience of parental certainty. You need to let her go.

[Alex-Snow]

You should just tell a person no more dating or no more sex... ghosting is just cruel. Tell someone what is going on IRL or at least a phone call or text

[Staximus]

Not necessarily. I could understand ghosting somebody who did them wrong, or somebody who was a bad person. Other than that, there really is no excuse. It's a shitty thing to do.

[RavVid]

I think it is a sign they consider they are unencumbered by you.

[MJVillarama]

Ghosting outta nowhere is a big red flag, no matter the reason. You did the right thing moving on. respect goes both ways.

[virgo2267]

Well mate, you’re a little old for such foolish interactions wouldn’t you agree? Make nothing of it and let her move on, plenty of fish in the sea

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she’s really busy. And it also sounds like you guys are just friends.

[Blueeyes81]

She's quite quitting. Move on and accept that some people are cowards.

[Luopio27]

To me, it is a sign of cheating, not a proof of cheating!

[LiamJHayden]

No, but with how she is being I'd still move on.

[dragoblack]

No. It's a sign the person is busy, not sleeping with someone.

[beenherebefore]

Not necessarily.

[DrPepper12]

Sus but not proof

[Anonymous]

Well, its not a sign theyre happy

[AlwaysFaith]

No I don't think so

[guesswhereivebeen]

She’s gone

[In_Trance]

No...

[Anonymous]

Yes it is

[Opinion Owner]

Women only care about money and a big dick duh