Why do men who are out of my league approach me, but not men who are within my league?

[Anonymous]

I try my best to seem down to earth and approachable.

[HawkPerception]

Let's get one thing straight. All the people saying there aren't leagues are downright liars or refuse to live in reality. If that were the case, it wouldn't matter if you look like a frog, were physically disabled, or have the intelligence of a pea. It wouldn't matter how much you weigh, how tall you are, how good you are at sex, whether you had a good upbringing, what your income is, if you have good hygiene, or anything for that matter.

People are not equal. Lifestyle matters. Genetics matters. Personality matters. Intelligence matters.

Now to answer your question. You're very unclear. Out of your league as in above or below? You have to state that clearly before anyone can possibly answer you.

[ohsheeT]

Are you guys all bowlers

Look, there's no such thing as a league. There's such thing as personality. There's such thing as who you are. There's nobody better than you and you're no better than anybody else , same with me

See what your league is. Yes, your eyes must be beautiful. You must have a very powerful beautiful energy. That just pulls guys in like a magnet.
You're probably warm. You're probably happy. You're confident you're wise you're smart. And you have a very beautiful energy

[Summeroflove]

Well… Simply you need to approach yourself… If you don’t want to date anyone in or around your circle then it’s your responsibility to put yourself out there.

About 49 percent of the men who will approach you are attractive men who are only seeking sex that’s easy and doesn’t come with consequences. The other 49 percent are men who are desperate. That last 2 percent are men who are attractive and genuinely looking for something.

The guys you’re wanting to approach you who want a genuine relationship have options…. They don’t need to approach random women they don’t know or go online. They have women who are showing them interest that they already know and women that are throwing themselves at them. I am sorry… It’s going to be few and far between when those guys are going to approach a woman they don’t even know. Especially since there are a lot of women who call men creeps and reject people just to hurt someone else. Not you per say… But it’s just not worth it for a lot. Especially when… they have women around them they are interested in

[Zack-Bann]

Your league is determined by your own personal sense of self worth and nothing else


No one is out of your league
(Or in it for that matter)


The whole concept is childish and has no foundation


Just go for those you like and be happy

[Summeroflove]

On top of the fact that everyone’s different… men and women. That’s why there is compatibility

[UniquelyBasic]

Maybe you're too harsh on how you look? You are probably perceived to be way more attractive by others than what you think of yourself

[Asker]

No. These guys are out of my league. They approach me for casual/friends with benefits dynamics, but not dating/relationships.

[OneViewpoint]

Pssssst... those men are not out of your league if they are approaching you. You're not doing social interaction right.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Guys with low confidence date down because they think those girls are more "gettable." They fear rejection.

[BarryLiverstone]

Just because better looking men are approaching you doesn’t mean you can talk to them., sometimes they are not very shallow and can have a conversation.

[slatyb]

Out of your league? Do you mean they are beneath you, or above you? Leagues aren't real.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't put people in "leagues". Once you find the right person, who cares?

[jahaims]

The men out of your league are attractive enough to have the confidence to approach

[Anonymous]

What do you mean, "out of your league"?

[Asker]

They can do better than me.

[Anonymous]

Men who are out of my league? Good men will have no interest in women with that attitude.